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Somebody anonymously paid for my breakfast today!

Vincent

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When I told the waitress I was finished and just needed the check, she told me that somebody had paid for my breakfast and said to pay it forward. After I got over how stunned I was, I reflected on the importance of counting one's blessings.

My self-esteem has been waning recently, mostly in the form of beating myself up about social interactions. When my social anxiety surges, I tend to think that everything I say is being evaluated. It's as if I say one thing that's on the mark (and I usually have no idea what that would be), I'll be rejected. In other words, much of my life is wracked by performance anxiety. I was doing much better for a while, but recently fell back into the hole. I think I know what precipitated it, and missing two consecutive doses of my SSRI during that time didn't help. So while I was driving from church to the diner, I was overthinking a couple of interactions I had at church. I somewhat put those thoughts aside when I was seated, and I read until my breakfast arrived. After I finished and the waitress told me somebody had taken care of my check, I was stunned and humbled by the kindness. Of course, a bit of self-doubt crept in. I thought, 'Did I look downcast or in some way in need of a pick-me-up?' I was well dressed and was reading, so I doubt I was giving off that kind of vibe (then again, I'm sometimes surprised by how perceptive some people are). I think it was just an act of kindness. I'm still humbled.

As I walked to my car, I was reminded that life has its waxing periods too. It also reminded me to extend such kindness to myself. I think I'll get the most beneficial dose of that kindness when I pay it forward. I can already see how extending such kindness to somebody else will bolster my capacity to be kind to myself.

Have a great day!
 

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That's awesome! I will sometimes pay for someone's coffee in line at the Starbuck's drive through and have had people pay for mine! It makes me so happy both ways. It's a nice gesture and it's not about the free coffee at all, just the kindness of someone doing it that brings joy!
 

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Oh Yes! A simple act of kindness can make a person's day, especially if they are feeling down. Many years ago when I was in the pits a guy did that for me, paid for my meal. I had just mentioned I was suffering with anxiety and that's what he did. Maybe he had been there himself. I had never seen him before or after. There are a lot of nasty people in the world, but this is countered by those who are kind and helpful. It's why we need to love one another, be kind and compassionate. It costs nothing to be so.
"Love one another. As I have loved you". Christ to his disciples
 

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This is Christian forum? I did not know that. I am Muslim. I think this forum not for me. I try no religion forum. Thank you
 

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This is Christian forum? I did not know that. I am Muslim. I think this forum not for me. I try no religion forum. Thank you
Now where did you get the idea this is a Christian Forum? I think the administrators would dispute that. I am sure that the site would be regarded as open to all with anxiety. I quote the teachings of Christ because I am a Christian. I am sure that you are entitled to quote the Quran if you wish. I certainly have no objection to that, and I doubt anyone else has. We are all people on here with a common problem. anxiety, and anxiety has no religion whatsoever. Please don't go away because you feel this site is not for you. There are some wonderful folk on here that can empathise with you if you are in trouble.
Quotes from the teachings of all the religious masters can often help us through difficult times. Maybe it is best if we don't quote religious phrases. What do others think of this?
 

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Now where did you get the idea this is a Christian Forum? I think the administrators would dispute that. I am sure that the site would be regarded as open to all with anxiety. I quote the teachings of Christ because I am a Christian. I am sure that you are entitled to quote the Quran if you wish. I certainly have no objection to that, and I doubt anyone else has. We are all people on here with a common problem. anxiety, and anxiety has no religion whatsoever. Please don't go away because you feel this site is not for you. There are some wonderful folk on here that can empathise with you if you are in trouble.
Quotes from the teachings of all the religious masters can often help us through difficult times. Maybe it is best if we don't quote religious phrases. What do others think of this?
Maybe we should all just talk about our own beliefs when we feel it is important to what we are going through. If I don't agree with some else's views I can overlook it. I hope we are all mature enough to not be so offended by other's beliefs. My Christian beliefs are the central part of my life so there are some things I cannot talk about without mentioning prayer or whatever.
 

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Maybe we should all just talk about our own beliefs when we feel it is important to what we are going through. If I don't agree with some else's views I can overlook it. I hope we are all mature enough to not be so offended by other's beliefs. My Christian beliefs are the central part of my life so there are some things I cannot talk about without mentioning prayer or whatever.
Exactly! Just as a Jew or a Muslim will talk about the religion they know. It all comes down to the same thing. Love, compassion and understanding. No religion over the centuries has been free from guilt. Extremists on all sides have made the word religion into something it is not. It is not about power and self aggrandisement but a true love for our fellow beings, in fact all sentient beings.
I am very eclectic in my views. Although I would call myself a Christian, there are many aspects of other religions that attract me, especially Buddhism. But the same thread runs through them all. Love!! But in no way does anyone have to be religious to practise love and compassion. Many non religious people do that. Love stands alone, and is not governed by any particular beliefs.
 

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Now where did you get the idea this is a Christian Forum? I think the administrators would dispute that. I am sure that the site would be regarded as open to all with anxiety. I quote the teachings of Christ because I am a Christian. I am sure that you are entitled to quote the Quran if you wish. I certainly have no objection to that, and I doubt anyone else has. We are all people on here with a common problem. anxiety, and anxiety has no religion whatsoever. Please don't go away because you feel this site is not for you. There are some wonderful folk on here that can empathise with you if you are in trouble.
Quotes from the teachings of all the religious masters can often help us through difficult times. Maybe it is best if we don't quote religious phrases. What do others think of this?
All viewpoints should be permitted. I don’t believe I’ve ever seen a poster push their religious views on anyone. I for one appreciate reading about biblical/other such quotes and parables, especially from faiths other than mine.
 
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