Some days are worse than others

[AlysBunny]

I'm new here but not new to dealing with anxiety and depression. I had my first panic attack at 16 and it landed me in the ER. Most of my more generalized anxiety centers around social interactions, phone use, and crowds. The depression is long-term and chronic. Most of the time it's a low-level buzz in my background. Sometimes I'm sad or so numb and hopeless that I can barely get out of bed. Other times, I'm neutral or almost content but I'm never really happy. I've tried a few different medications for it but the last time I tried an antidepressant, I ended up in inpatient because I got suicidal. No thanks. I'm not looking for a repeat of that experience. Now I just try to do my best to deal with things as they come - without prescriptions. I try to be gentle with myself as much as possible and try to offer myself as much sympathy and understanding as I would offer someone else who felt this way. That's hard for me. I think I should be better, work harder, something...but I'm doing my best.

 

[Pandora]

With depression doing your best is all you can do. I go through days where I can't even get out of my own home and feel terrible that my daughters go to a friends house when I have my bad days. Other days I am fine and my daughters and I can out of the house and do something random. I always tell my daughters to try their best at whatever they may be doing. That's all anyone can do, try your best. At lease you tried and some people don't try at all.

 

[ReadmeByAmy]

Sometimes there are days that I easily get stress or depressed if things are not doing good into my life. And I knew how it greatly affect my emotions and will eventually will affect my health, That is why every time I am feeling that way I always try to think positive to feel better. It is only yourself and your state of mind can help you to overcome your depression

 

[rz3300]

Oh yes, I would think that we all have our days when we are low, and then we all have the days when we are high. That is just a part of life, but I cannot help but assume that for many of us, the lows are really disproportionately similar to the highs, in that they are much low than the normal person would endure. If you look at a bell curve, it would be like that except on the right side it would just keep going down into the negatives. The key is to recognize what makes these days what they are, and if it is good go towards that and if not do the opposite. Thanks for sharing.

 

[Quirah]

One thing you have to realize is that you aren't in control of your anxiety and depression. As much as we would like to believe that we are, in the end we aren't. So don't beat yourself up over the fact that you still get down often or that you feel anxious. It's out of your control. Have you tried any coping skills? As annoying as it is for doctors and nurses to tell you that you need coping skills, sometimes they help. I'm not saying that they'll always help or that they're a cure, but sometimes a little relief is all we need. Maybe try those adult coloring books or reading, because it can take your mind off of your anxiety and/or depression a little. I really hope you find something that works.

 

[Alex]

There are good days and bad days, and I now appreciate the good days because when it's low it's hard to focus or do anything. AlysBunny you are doing well though, and realize that you can have better days, and it's learning how to cope in your own way. I always say to myself (and this is what one good therapist told me, and has always stayed with me) is that we can't change things around us, but we can change how we perceive the situation.


I worked through things by being kind and more selfish to myself.


I stopped listening to others and did what I felt was right for me. Don't be too hard on yourself, and go at your own pace. It's not a race, but do what you can and if you can't do anything one day, it's okay. You can do it the next day.