I have been struggling with social media a while. Problem is everybody keeps quiet and any posts are usually depressing ones like if somebody died. I post much less on Facebook these days. I don’t see many people I mean from family to online friends. Everybody is in a bubble it’s like you don’t exist. For that reason I may post even less. I mean why bother? I’ve noticed the shift since covid can’t figure out why. If I could understand that would help but I don’t understand it. In my job I’m not able to make new friends so it gets a bit boring. Even family remembers who use to message me now no longer chat. I am sure there’s others in this situation but what do I do? I mean I could message people and I do often I get no reply or they go silent after a few messages.
Social media anxiety
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Cuchculan
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Social media can be a boring place at times. If people want to message you, they will. I do have some friends like that. Might hear nothing from them for a year and then they send a message. Thing is not to take it to heart. See it for what it really is. Social media. Not real life. Just life played out on a computer. People wanting likes for pictures of their food or their pets. There are much better things to be doing. Watch TV. Read a book. Take your wife out. Leave social media for those who want to live out their lives online.
We cannot count on social media to fulfill our social life. Before social media people were way busier doing other things. They made friends by going out doing things they enjoyed like taking a class, joining a local sports team in the community, volunteering, such a such as leader, dogs for the blind and so many more great organizations. etc. Meeting friends in those different ways, increases the chance of finding a great friendship rather than the fake social media type that come and go.
I know things are somewhat different now, and people don’t seem as willing to go out of their way to make friends, but you definitely are able to make new friends! Sometimes we have to push ourselves to go do something. There are many people out there looking for friends because they are tired of the way Things are now. That’s what I had to do. I had to make myself get out there and make it happen. And I’m glad I did
I know things are somewhat different now, and people don’t seem as willing to go out of their way to make friends, but you definitely are able to make new friends! Sometimes we have to push ourselves to go do something. There are many people out there looking for friends because they are tired of the way Things are now. That’s what I had to do. I had to make myself get out there and make it happen. And I’m glad I did
So i had went maybe a few months without posting decided I wasn’t keen to share much. I already decided to post the odd post. I use to post much more not now. Anyway I put a post up about a gig a few nights reason is that day I was asked to a friends holiday but had no contact so was effectively forgotten about. So I posted the gig and had it suffer all the photos on Facebook. So I feel I need to post the odd thing to I show I am getting on with life and not waiting for that “invite”. But I also have Facebook and wish I could quit? Seems no easy answer.