Should My Mum Call Me?

[ursellb]

I'm sure your mum loves you she wouldn't say so if she didn't. Maybe she just dosen't know how to show it.

 

[janemariesayed]

I'm sure your mum loves you she wouldn't say so if she didn't. Maybe she just dosen't know how to show it.

She shows it by seeing me on my birthday once a year. But she shows she is ashamed of me in lots of other ways. Then she shows me a lack of love in lots of other ways too. I think she regrets being in touch with me after half a century.

 

[Dragonfly1]

Yes, and no....she should have called. I call my oldest son about twice a week just to check on him, and he is mentally sound. My youngest son is paranoid schizophrenic and suffers from depression. He lives with me and sometimes gets very irritated and angry if I am "overbearing" or worrisome....so I give him space.
Another thought that I have is that your mother is facing demons of her own right now, and most likely cannot handle or bear the pain of facing what you have been through.
If you want to hear from your mother, then you might have to be the "bigger" person and call her.
I am not siding with her by any means....I think that it's terrible that she hasn't checked on you,, but I haven't walked in her shoes either, so I would rather not judge.
I am glad that you are safe.

 

[janemariesayed]

Yes, and no....she should have called. I call my oldest son about twice a week just to check on him, and he is mentally sound. My youngest son is paranoid schizophrenic and suffers from depression. He lives with me and sometimes gets very irritated and angry if I am "overbearing" or worrisome....so I give him space.
Another thought that I have is that your mother is facing demons of her own right now, and most likely cannot handle or bear the pain of facing what you have been through.
If you want to hear from your mother, then you might have to be the "bigger" person and call her.
I am not siding with her by any means....I think that it's terrible that she hasn't checked on you, but I haven't walked in her shoes either, so I would rather not judge.
I am glad that you are safe.

The thing is that if I call her she doesn't pick up the phone. Then the next time we get to talk she tells me she doesn't recognise my number. So I've given up trying to call her. She has let me know it is on her terms I think. The problem is the incest thing. That's the problem with all my family. Very few of them talk to me and it is rare when they do and it is only on Facebook. My younger brother calls me with his free credit and often too, he calls me at least once a week and talks to me most days on Facebook messenger as well.

 

[janemariesayed]

I'm not asking her to call me every five minutes so to speak. Just sometimes. And especially if I was as good as in a hospital or if I have been a victim of an attempted burglary with a gun pointed at me.