Severe anxiety from betrayal..please listen.

[Guest]

Maybe one can die of a broken heart. Slowly but surely, it seems that way with me. It's been almost 2 years that I've been going through horrible pain, he was involved for several months, till I found out. I felt like I was dying, since my husband betrayed me, weighed 133 lbs, I'm 5'5 tall, used to weight 133 lbs, was working out and eating right. Now I weight 117 lbs, I keep losing lbs, I feel like I am already dead, just existing for my son, but if it weren't for him I would have been gone much quicker. For my son it is why I am still alive. There are no words to describe the deep, suffocating pain and anxiety of betrayal by a husband of almost years can cause, I trusted him with my life, I was 100% committed to him. Now my soul is crushed, bleeding, fading away slowly... : ( Can someone relate?

 

[Guest]

OH know, you have got to realize that you have so much to live for, especially your son. I too went some thing similar, I was married to my high school sweetheart, we married at a early age, him 18, I 16 and when the marriage ended I was 36, that's a long time I too was devastated, we had 3 children together. I began to go out drinking for a period of 3 months I had to do something to numb the pain, but I eventually began to try and go on with life I felt like a zombie always just going through the motions of life. But to make a long story short, I met some one and am now am married again to a WONDERFUL man he is my best friend and I now have 2 more little boys, and 3 step children, I never dreamed that I would ever be with any one else, but now look, my life is so wonderful, and as I look back now I am so glad that I didn't give up. Just look at me now.I have been so Blessed. OH YEAH I forgot to mention that my ex is now with some one who used to be my best friend. But it don't bother me now cause I now have found my true soul mate in life and I love him so very much, he has stood my me through all the healing I went through and has helped me GROW. So just don't give up, life has a way of turning out for the best. Just start to enjoy the little things in life.

 

[Guest]

Thanks for sharing that. I will keep in mind that there are ppl out there who are going through simliar things. So I am not alone, thanks for the advice, even though it's hard, I guess I cant give up. Glad it it worked out for you.

 

[Costello]

You have a broken heart, that's for sure, but it also sounds like you have separation anxiety. You have been unexpectedly separated from a way of life that you put your all into, and you don't know how to cope. Trust me, I can relate to that. You have to find something to fill that void, dear. You don't want your son to see you like this. You can't just go on for his sake, you have to be strong. You can do this.


My prayers are with you.

 

[Rayne]

You must do something quickly. You sound like you are loosing the battle. Please seek help from friends or a professional soon. You and your son are worth the effort. He's suffering just as much as you are because he has lost his father and now he's loosing his mother. Please get help!!!!

 

[cecejailer]

I completely understand where you're coming from. I'm not currently dealing with heartbreak but I have in the past, and I know how it feels... It's not only emotional pain, it's physical as well, and it can crush your soul... But what you have to think about is, would you even want to get back together with this person? Are you suffering because you want them back or because you can't come to terms with what he did to you? Because if you want to get back together, you have to think about what he did to you, how much pain he put you through, and if you're willing to go through this again...


If you can't come to terms with it, I suggest therapy, because you feel like this because there is a deep mental scar he left you with. You have to remember that you're better off without someone that doesn't care about your feelings enough to break up with you before he decided to do something that'd ruin the relationship anyway.

 

[Androlo]

You will get through this. You have to, not just for your son but for yourself. Trust me, I know exactly how you feel. For over ten years, I was stuck in a relationship with someone who I had put 100% commitment to who always, semi-regularly, would end up throwing it back in my face. Not only that but they would lie to me, steal from me, cheat on me and cut me off from all my family and friends by telling them lies about me. I was torn to shreds, my soul in tatters and I just wanted to die but the days turned into months and the months turned into years. I ended stuck in that awful situation for over ten years! There are no words to describe the pain, torture and torment that I had to suffer and endure and no-one can know the amount of emotional, physical and mental damage and extreme pain that I went through because of it. But now, over ten years later, I have escaped that situation. I have had time to recuperate and I can promise you from the bottom of my heart, as someone who has seen and experienced the darker side of life, that even though it may not seem like it now, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and there will come a time when you can put the pain and misery behind you and move on with your life. Just keep that in the back of your mind always, no matter what. Time is the great healer. You will get where you need to be. Just be strong and keep on fighting.

 

[janemariesayed]

It is rare nowadays for any marriage to last from the dawn to dusk of a lifetime. It is so easy to divorce and adultery means nothing anymore.

You are from the old school and held promises you made in regard. You honourably kept the oath you made to each other but he didn't. Do you see? You are the better person. You are not vibrating at the same frequency as him any longer. We all vibrate at certain frequencies, that is a scientific fact. Look at it this way instead of feeling bad about it.

Instead, when you remember him, thank the universe for the time you were able to spend together and send out good wishes for his life. I know that it is really hard to do when you are feeling betrayed but you are worth more. He broke his oath, he is not an honourable man. He didn't respect you and he didn't respect his own marriage. He committed adultery and up and left. Join a club or a group or something, get yourself out and about. Purposely dress yourself up and put on a smile. Change your hair style, change the colour if you feel like it. Take yourself for a pamper weekend at a spa. Do something for yourself and you will soon feel much better. He doesn't deserve your misery. Do yourself up, make yourself feel great, give yourself a makeover and go out and get yourself another man more worthy of you.