Sad thoughts in your head

[Panic57]

Do sad things, even events from movies, keep reoccurring in your mind and make you sad? I have to be careful not to watch any movies that are to sad because I'll be sad all day if the main character dies. But it also has to do with sad past events in my life that I have a hard time shaking from my mind. What about you?

 

[Aree Wongwanlee]

I don't normally have sad thoughts in my mind. That's because most of my time, my mind is filled with thoughts about my work and about my characters in World of Warcraft. Oh, I do think about my children, too, but they are all grown up and more than capable of looking after themselves, so I don't fret too much about them. Do I ever have sad thoughts? Of course, I do. I feel a deep pang of sadness whenever I read news about someone I know who has passed away. Just last week, I received news on Facebook that one of my students have passed away. She was a young woman, barely 20, full of life the last I saw her, a few months ago. Now she is gone. How fragile life is.

 

[Corzhens]

It's not me but my husband. He calls it lingering. When something wrong happens, it would linger in his mind such that his mood will be ruined for a day or 2. For example, he lost his pen. It's a petty matter but that loss will playback in his mind over and over, trying to look for the blame and mostly himself is the culprit. Sometimes he becomes absent-minded because of that lingering thought of that incident. But that lingering thoughts only occur for recent events. For reminiscing, I don't think the past could make him that sad unlike the recent event which is vivid to his mind.

 

[hades_leae]

I don't think I can ever experience being sad from movies that I watch. I know that many of the events can be realistic, and if I always get sad, then I'm going to be a very sad person which I don't want to be.


I think that you should focus more on controlling your emotions because they can break you down pretty good. I watched the Titanic several times, and it is my favorite movie, but I never get sad. I hate what happened to all those people on the ship, most would say it's sad, I just say it's unfortunate, but when I think about the ships that have currently sank because of the captains running the ship too close to rocks that pierce the ship I don't get sad.


Many people die during times like this, that one captain who sank that one big passenger ship somewhere near Thailand got life for fleeing.

 

[John Snort]

There was a time I read only depressing books,watched only depressing movies and listened only to songs which made me feel sad. Oddly enough at that time it all felt therapeutic. When I lost someone I loved I lost interest in things that made me sad. I couldn't even listen to any songs or read anything about love because anything that reminded me of the person I'd lost thrust me into some dark abyss. I couldn't live like that anymore. I had to accept the cards fate had dealt me. And from then on the memories reminded of times I'd been happier. Did I miss them? Yes. But they didn't make me feel sad anymore. Don't focus on the negative. Look at the positive aspects of something and maybe you won't be too sad. Panic57 if reading sad stories or watching such movies make you sad, don't watch them. Find lists of feel-good movies (on IMDB) and books (goodreads) and read those instead.

 

[LovelyLiz]

Not so much movies, but negative thoughts do seem to linger longer in my head than the positive ones - I think that anxiety and depression are probably caused by certain people having the type of personality that's predisposed to lingering negatively on sad or negative things.


I think even in fiction, it's possible to focus on the bittersweet nature of the negative things though. So, rather than focusing on how sad it is that the dog died, think also about the fun memories the characters had with it earlier in the film, and the joy it brought to their lives, the bits where the dog made you laugh. That's not to say that sad thoughts should be ignored, but they should be remembered in context.

 

[pwarbi]

Sad thoughts did used to come into my head, things that I had done and not done and regretted, but I eventually learned not to dwell on events that had already happened as there was nothing I could do to change them, and worrying myself that much it made me ill certainly wasn't going to help.


I'm not saying that we shouldn't think about things that have happened in the past, even the sad times but we have to try and focus on the lessons we have learned from them, rather than dwelling on them. All we do when we dwell on something is stop ourselves from moving forward, and it's important in life, no matter what we've been through, that we do carry on moving forward and look to the future. The future we can change, the past, no matter how much we might want to, we can't.

 

[Sue]

I have sad thoughts quite often. I can be having a good day and then think of something that may have happened years ago that made me sad and it will ruin the rest of my day. I have broken down in tears so many times and had bad days over just a thought. I can watch a sad movie and it will stay with me for days. No matter how hard I try I just can't get it out of my head. If people say things to hurt me I hang on to them and have a hard time just letting them go and forgetting about it.

 

[kelden]

When sad thoughts kick in, It means something worries you. It can be a side effect after a fleeting anxiety feeling caused for any reason. Is normal to feel sad after watching a depressing movie or T.V show, but If those thoughts take over your mind, then I guess It must be due to anxiety disorder.

 

[thecorinthian]

The sad thoughts can get me in a slump sometimes that's why I try and prevent watching sad movies and series as well but if I really want to watch sad drama though I make sure I have someone watching with me so I can share the experience. It's different when I read books though they never get me really sad just melancholic and positive about the future especially if it's fiction.

 

[gracer]

I have sad thoughts on my mind all the time. My general situation makes me sad almost everyday. Sometimes they are even made worse by people who are around me. It's like adding more damage to insult which never seems to disappear. Right now, there are just too many sad thoughts in my head but I'm just trying to focus on the work that I have to complete. After everything is done though, that's the time when all the sadness will finally take over me.

 

[Dpink]

hello guys i'm news to this post thing so give me a minute to gasp this but i suffer from illnesses as well and i'm 34 and live alone and no kids also not married....i have sad thoughts often even on good days and also i had thoughts of hurting my self as well been had them a long time and haven't found meds to treat them but i do have a therapy to help also have bipolar and i struggle to keep it all in check but if you are feeling down and sad and hopeless talk to someone yes it's scary because no one wants to be judged but you have to take care of YOU

 

[katmoore90]

I am a very emotional person and if I see something sad or watch something sad or hear something sad it will stay with me. It doesn’t necessarily cause me to be depressed but I do think about on those events and feel sadness for those involved. I try to avoid things that I know will make me sad such as the news after a tragedy however that’s sadly impossible to always do in the world we live in.

 

[x0xLikeMex0x]

I'm usually not an emotional person, but sometimes I get sad for no apparent reason. I have those high and low periods and I have no idea why. I've figured that it's because of me being born under Pisces sign, because the symbol of the sign has fish swimming downstream and upstream. Why I've made this connection with my horoscope sign? I believe in numerology and birth horoscope. That's just one way I'm trying to figure out who I am.


When I'm on my low period, I suffer from complete lack of motivation and everything around me seems just bad. Sometimes I even feel like my own thoughts are attacking me. I haven't been seeking professional help, but I know that having these low periods isn't normal.

 

[fuzyon]

Well, character deaths from TV shows that I've become accustomed to hit me hard as well but I'm not sad for the whole day because of them, it's just a feeling of "oh well.. that's pretty crappy". Sad memories from my past though.. that's another story. When I remember something sad that happened to me I can stay upset about it for hours and I'm not the most emotional person. I don't really think it's the worst thing in the world however.

 

[kgord]

I do think of sad things from time to time, but it really depends on the day. I would say my overall theme, and why I consider myself to be depressed, is the fact that emptiness is the central theme and the fact that most people who I think should care about me...really don't. I don't dwell on sad thoughts, but at the same time if they crop up, they do. It is just something that I deal with. I don't obesss about them, I just lhem come and go.

 

[theduck7]

If I am sad already then I can easily start thinking about sad stuff that isn't even real. Sometimes I even start imagining how it would be if my family was dead. Yikes! I know I can't entertain thoughts like that though because they just make me feel worse. It can be really hard but sometimes I have to force myself to think about happy things. Or at least not think about sad things. Sometimes something neutral is good just as long as I'm not making myself feel worse with all kinds of terrible sad thoughts.

 

[Alex]

I do feel sad when I see distressing news stories, but overcoming or coping with depression also means leaning to control your emotions and reactions. I've always been able to do this and when depression hits, that's when you lose some control.


I'm not so bad with movies or books, unless it is real life as I know it's a story. However, as a writer I have learned you must add pathos to a character to gain sympathy or conflict and understanding how other people react to it is what makes a good story.

 

[listener1987]

I think that you should focus more on controlling your emotions because they can break you down pretty good.

I'm not sure I would ever recommend someone try to control their emotions. I do recommend people look at the triggers behind their emotions, and that they evaluate when their emotions are reasonable, realistic responses, and when they are disproportionate to the stimulus.


I'd be careful saying things like this, honestly! When I hear "you should control your emotions," I hear "You should stuff your emotions inside." And as you probably know, that is definitely not healthy! We're here on this board, a safe place to be open, and even emotional, and we certainly don't want to discourage anyone from this!

 

[Laneorexorcist]

I think that I'm not that affected as you are by the fact of watching sad movies, but it's obviously a red flag when I'm not feeling quite good. But still, I try to avoid thinking about thigs that can make me feel sad or anxious, and when I'm not feeling fine I try to listen to happy music but at the end of the day I end up feeling bad... It's pretty much like a constant feeling, I guess.