Relationships

[Caitp1]

So Hello this is my first post I’m so glad to find a page like this for people suffering from this like me but the worst part of my anxiety it relationships is not trusting people. I dated this guy named Tyler and he cheated on my with my ex best friend... I dated this guy named Dylan and he texted other girls constantly and I never knew untill I saw his call list he said he blocked some girls but never did. I am in a relationship now and if he doesn’t text back with in 30 mins I get really upset and anxious he doesn’t understand I have a hard time trusting people when he says “love you” or “lurve you” it makes me upset because he never really says it for real just little things like that can ruin my mood and I will just cry untill he talks to me again this isn’t really a toxic relationship but I feel like he doesn’t know how bad the last guys hurt me and I really want someone who understands

 

[EvaGisele]

I can relate. I work in social services, so I’ve heard all kinds of awful stories of people not being what they seemed to others.i It has lead me to be leery of relationships. I think people with anxiety often are often really imaginative types (even if they don’t realize it) and we cook up all kinds of potentially awful reasons of why someone isn’t texting, someone’s running late, etc...If someone I love is five minutes late, I’m thinking of how they could’ve been in a wreck, blah, blah, blah. When I’m anxious, I’m on my phone more, which leads me to obsess over texts that aren’t answered within a few minutes.

 

[triceps]

I sure wouldn't want to be single again, especially with the paranoia my anxiety causes. I got lucky and somehow this wonderful, understanding gal fell in love with me 40 years ago. She knows how bent out of shape I get if she's a half-hour late (I react by thinking she's dead and then I get more anxious over thinking about having all the relatives and friends showing up for the funeral) and she puts in an extra effort to keep me posted of any plan changes. So Caitp1, I hope you can be fortunate like I am and find someone who is very considerate of the many needs we have.

 

[Gingerninja1991]

I feel your pain. I’m having super anxiety issues over my partner, worrying he will be unfaithful or something awful will happen where he abuses my trust while I’m away studying. Even the thought of him flirting is driving me nuts. I have issues due to my dad being a cheat and being stuck in boarding school from an early age, which has lead to some serious attachment problems on my part, that teamed with the fact he has messed up a bit (not cheating but he hurt me by being quite thoughtless) in the past has totally made my feelings heightened. If anyone comes up with any answers on how to decrease the uncertainty/instability and increase the trust I’m all ears.


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[triceps]

I feel your pain. I’m having super anxiety issues over my partner, worrying he will be unfaithful or something awful will happen where he abuses my trust while I’m away studying. Even the thought of him flirting is driving me nuts. I have issues due to my dad being a cheat and being stuck in boarding school from an early age, which has lead to some serious attachment problems on my part, that teamed with the fact he has messed up a bit (not cheating but he hurt me by being quite thoughtless) in the past has totally made my feelings heightened. If anyone comes up with any answers on how to decrease the uncertainty/instability and increase the trust I’m all ears.


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Try to concentrate that your partner is not your Dad and deserves to be looked at independently. Not all guys cheat but we're all thoughtless at times.

 

[MiaMarcus]

My boyfriend also has anxiety so we tell each other e v e r y t h i n g
If one of us is feeling really anxious, we both try to work through it together


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[triceps]

My boyfriend also has anxiety so we tell each other e v e r y t h i n g
If one of us is feeling really anxious, we both try to work through it together


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You and I are so fortunate to have such supportive partners. My wife has put up with my anxiety for 35 years. For someone that doesn't have anxiety, she has become so accepting of my anxiety-related limitations and I encourage her to still attend any and all functions that I feel I'm not up to going to.