Relationship advice

[astralprojections]

So for the first time truly in my life, I've opened up to the opportunity of dating a bit, and have been talking to a really sweet guy (just texting for now, but we've face timed). We have been texting for probably around a week, and I've seen my anxiety get exponentially worse as all of my thoughts now seem to deem on this possible relationship and the success of it.

I really just want to have fun with this and explore, yet my anxiety seems to make me fear everything I say, or that every gesture I make is a mistake and will harm me in the end. I look back feeling embarrassed at what I've sad, leading my heart to consistently be racing. Over the past week, I have had low quality sleep, and have also had a minimal appetite, with most of my focus around this.

I don't really know looking forward how to help combat this, as I want to find a clear balance in both. In my mind, this relationship that just started is already "over" before it's even officially started, but I don't know how to put the thoughts in my mind to sleep.

 

[Certate]

Try explaining your anxiety to the guy, if he is there for you with it, then it might also help you.

 

[astralprojections]

Try explaining your anxiety to the guy, if he is there for you with it, then it might also help you.

I think if the relationship continues, I for sure will mention it to him. Today I've been completely flustered and have had to step away from my phone and all of that, but maybe sometime soon I can bring it up if we get any closer.
The main issue is I don't want to sound like I am continuously apologizing for myself and backtracking everything that I've previously said. I can see how all of that in a person is unappealing which is why I am so anxious.

 

[FinneousRex]

The thing I tell myself to ease my anxiety when talking to someone new is “this is not a commitment, you are not stuck, you’re your own person and can leave whenever you want - you are not forced to be here, to stay here with this person - keep things light, enjoy it while it lasts, don’t think too far forward, if it works - great, if not - you’re no worse off than you were before”

Not in those exact words, but the theme is pretty much my mantra.

 

[astralprojections]

The thing I tell myself to ease my anxiety when talking to someone new is “this is not a commitment, you are not stuck, you’re your own person and can leave whenever you want - you are not forced to be here, to stay here with this person - keep things light, enjoy it while it lasts, don’t think too far forward, if it works - great, if not - you’re no worse off than you were before”

Not in those exact words, but the theme is pretty much my mantra.

That's a great way to think about it.