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Quit Job because of Anxiety

ajdem

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Recently I have been getting a tremendous amount of anxiety because of work. I feel sick, nauseous, and cry some days when I know I have to go in. I really do not enjoy the job, it is one of the worst I have had. To make matters worse my best friend works there and gets upset with me if I can't come in because of anxiety. Today I got to the parking lot and just knew I couldn't make it through the day, I was shaking and felt sick to my stomach. In the past, I would have just stopped showing up to the job. Still, I went in to talk to my boss about it. I cried and I ended up giving my two weeks notice. I can not help but feel so bad about myself because it took so much progress and work to even get to the point where I could get a job. I do not know how to feel anything but disappointed and scared that I am starting back at the beginning. I don't know if there is any advice someone could give me or just share a similar experience. I really want to feel good about the progress I made but I just feel like I failed.
 

Cuchculan

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First thing - no beating yourself up over this. You have anxiety. A lot of things can be very hard for people with anxiety. Second thing - maybe look for a different type of job. Not all jobs involve having to work from a building / office. There are other types of work out there. Just a case of sitting down and having a good think. Look around the net at jobs from home and the likes.

We have all done similar things over the years. We do feel pissed off and upset at ourselves. But where does that get us? Nowhere at all. It was simply something you couldn't handle right now. I am sure you did make loads of progress. But maybe not to the point of going to a job you actually hated. Just give yourself some time. Time to calm down. Time to see the situation for what it is. Have that look around for other types of work. Then take it from there.

But no more beating yourself up over this. You are upset. You cried your tears. But the blame here is the anxiety. Not the person. So chin up. Hold that head high. Tell yourself there are other jobs out there that you will be able to do. From this upset you have learned what you could not do as of yet. That too will change in time. We have all had setbacks. That is what this is.
 

foreverworrying

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You're definitely not back at the beginning - you've had this job, got tons more experience, learnt new things, made new connections with colleagues, experienced a new workplace. It's all good experience and you've managed to experience this whilst having anxiety. You've done brilliantly :)

Cuchculan is right - please don't be hard on yourself! Even someone without anxiety would find a job they don't enjoy very difficult to attend to each day. You deserve to spend your hours focusing on what matters to you, what drives you and makes you feel alive. Sometimes that is hard to find. Sometimes people find that in work, sometimes in other hobbies and pastimes. It may be you need to find another job, either one that fulfils that for you, or one that allows you the time and headspace to find other passions/hobbies etc.

Nobody's career path is plain-sailing despite what they tell you! Eventually this might work out with a better job or other opportunities. Sometimes you have to close one door before another opens.
 

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I used to throw up every day before work due to nerves. But I still went anyway and tried to make the best of it. I reminded myself to not take anything personally (even when ppl were being mean, which lets face it is going to happen a lot!) and to not take it home with me and I developed a pattern of going to work even when not wanting to go 2 work and feeling nasous beforehand. Eventually I stopped puking but it took a long time.

I wish I had a job to go to now cuz it sucks being unemployed but I think that you should at least be neutral or learn to tolerate a job. You don't have to like it but you should at least be neutral. I think liking your job is too idealistic for a lot of people. Of course everybody would like to enjoy their job, but a job for many people is a means to an end. The benefits of working is that its rly good for your health and immune system. And you get paid and can be independent. To be around ppl like that and interact with them even if it makes us so nervous. But.... if the environment really is making you too miserable to stick it out, don't beat yourself up for your decision. I'm sure u'll find something.

I had to leave certain environments that were too toxic because I know my triggers and how I'm much more naturally sensitive to others, and yes to a lot of other people its like they felt like I could do it, I just didnt have the b****' but it was more about protecting myself and everybody else from a tragedy happening. Yes, you need courage but sometimes the wisest thing to do is walk away and re-gather your strength. Trust your own inner voice if you can 'tough something out' or not, NOT other people/society pressuring you. The right job for you will come. I'm rooting for you. <3
 

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I’m in a similar situation. I’ve been working at my current job for 3months now and I still remember my first 2weeks on the job. I would literally feel like I was about to have a panic attack and throw up every time I had to go into work. And I’d have extreme anxiety for the first few hours of work and then calm down a bit by the end. I know I’ve gained new experience on the job and there’s a couple people I’ve managed to be friendly with (and happen to like) despite my shaky hands and other symptoms of anxiety. I’m supposed to be removed from probation on the job after 3months of working there and it still hasn’t happened for me. I also know I do a good job, as much as I can with my anxiety.
I just know that If things don’t work out the way they should, I’ve gained experience and learned a lot and will definitely find another job.
You can always get another job.
Continue to stay positive and remember that
you’re not your anxiety and keep working on finding ways to deal with your anxiety daily.

Goodluck with everything!


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