Please someone tell me how to stop overthinking.

[Katie Hokus]

Hi everyone, recently I have been obsessing over something that I am not even sure happened.

Over a year ago, my best friend, my boyfriend and I went out for a good friends birthday. We were all drinking and there are parts of the night that I don't remember. While out in a bar, I remember sitting next to my best friend (with my boyfriend not far away) and having a conversation with a random guy that was sitting next to me. I remember introducing myself and that the conversation was not long because my boyfriend came to me shortly after I started talking to him. A few days ago, I had a dream that I cheated on my boyfriend by kissing someone. Ever since that dream I have been OBSESSING over wether or not I kissed the guy at the bar. I literally cannot think about anything else and have started to convince myself that it happened... My best friend said theres no way because she and my boyfriend were so close to me that they would have seen this. But I am starting to convince myself it did and feel so guilty for something that I am not even sure happened.
Can anyone relate or tell me how to stop?
I dont think it happened, but every time i tell myself it didnt, I also tell myself that I will never know for sure because I cant remember. I dont want my boyfriend ever feeling like I would cheat, I would never cheat nor am I the type of girl who kisses randoms in bars. I'm not sure why this dream triggered something in me, but I need help. I am afraid my anxiety will ruin my relationship over something that didn't even happen.

 

[janemariesayed]

The only way to stop obsessive thinking is to meditate. Meditation is thought control. Sit yourself quiet with your phone and everything turned off. Breathe in for the count of 4, counting in your head. Then hold your breath for the count of four, (counting again in your head). Now breathe out for the count of 4, counting in your head each time.

Counting in your head and focusing on your breath will help you to start to control your thoughts. It can be done and takes practice. Start by doing about five minutes each day and build up. Soon, you will realise that those thoughts are not coming into your head any more.

Another thing to consider is that it is in your mind because you are afraid of it. If it had really happened you would have known for sure by now. Focus on your boyfriend and forget your dream. It was just a dream.