please people i need your advice, thoughts on this

[briannpaul]

Hi everyone i hope you're doing well , can someone please help me with a good to think about this thing


i've always been happy my entire life , untill when i had a panick attack about almost 3 years ago , after that i got anxious and little depressed because they were new feelings for me.Happily , i did found my way since many many months ago , i faced and solved my problems , understood how to beat the anxiety trick (total life changment and re-gained my old happy confidednt self)

The problem now is that we moved to a new house (me and my family) and it happened to be in the time where i was still traumatized and stuck in anxiety and bad feelings.The first 2 months that i lived in this NEW house , i was still in the worst part of my life. Just like a perfume that reminds someone of a bad breakup with a partner and he wants to get rid of it , same thing for me with this home.Even if had also many good moments , but THAT bad BEGINNING , i just couldnt forget it ,so i never accepted staying in this house.I explained to my parents this but they didnt accept to move from this house, and its been months since i did nothing new in my life , only waiting untill i move from here and then i start living the real life.

=>and i think this way because i'm afraid and dont want to remember that the BEGINING of a NEW major event of my life took place in this house , and if i were to remember it in the future i would feel very bad

if it happened in our old house i would totaly accept it and that's because it would have happened in the middle ,not at the BEGINNING of living in the house , just like life , sometimes we fall down in life and we continue,all of that makes sense to me , my problem is because it happened at THE BEGINNING .This may seem stupid for you but it is very important and it effects me alot.

i only need a different way of thinking that would make sense to me to save me from this. Can someone help me what to do or How to think diferently about this beginning obsession ,anyway to view this differently ?

 

[Rinka]

Hi briannpaul,
I am glad that you joined our little community, I am also quite sad to hear what difficulties you are experiencing.
I can imagine, that it must be hart to keep being reminded of a bad time in your life. But maybe it shows that you are still going though this and that you need to give yourself more time.
As I understand the start in your new home was terrible, and it is hart for you to really feel happy in the house because of it.
I would suggest talking with your parents, about your expirence and making new more carefree and happy expirences in your new environment. We are sometimes not able to change our circumstances, but we are able to change the way we perceive it.

 

[Concernedgal]

Hi kid. The one thing that you should understand is when it comes to an anxiety disorder. .. it never really goes away. It can however sometimes give you a break. Because of your anxiety. . You can't handle change. That's just the fact. When you experience change... your brian can't process it because when you develped the anxiety disorder and then you conquered it temporarily you've also in turn grown a dependence on your environment. . You see what I mean? The one thing a person with an anxiety disorder enjoys the most... is to have things stay the same and predictable.

 

[janemariesayed]

Hello @briannpaul and a very warm welcome to the forum.

I'm sorry that you are suffering. A time of change should normally be a great time and give you hope rather than anxiety.

Talking to your parents is a very good idea so they can be aware of your feelings and support you.

To try to give you a way to think differently I saw a little tip one time when I was on Youtube. I can't promise that it will help you but there is no harm in trying.

When we want to stop certain thoughts we have to replace the old thought with something else. That means getting rid of the bad thought and putting something else there.

So consciously notice your thoughts. When you find yourself thinking of the thought that is negative look up! Yes, look upwards with your eyes, but keep your head facing forwards. Move your eyes up and look up as high as you can look up while keeping your head faced forward. Then close your eyes and continue looking up. Then say out loud about whatever negative thought it was 'Well, I don't know about that! All I know is.....' And then replace the negative thought with a positive affirmation.

Say for example your negative thought is you always miss the bus on a Monday. So whenever that thought comes to mind, look up into the top of your inner skull and say out loud 'I don't know about that, all I know is that I always manage to catch the bus on a Monday!'

This method is apparently supposed to trick your mind into the positive and then it attracts the positive to you. I did try it myself for a time a few years ago and I found that it did work a bit for me.

Perhaps as a suggestion, you could try saying is, 'I don't know about that, all I know is that whenever I have a new beginning, great things happen in my life.'

I wish you good luck and hope that you tell us how you are getting on. Lovely to meet you!

 

[briannpaul]

thanks all of you people for your replies !
it's just an obssesion , it bothers me in the future that i started something at this place , this place feels like tainted when i experienced bad feelings at the first two months

i hope i'll get more replies to view this differently and accept it by the end

 

[janemariesayed]

thanks all of you people for your replies !
it's just an obssesion , it bothers me in the future that i started something at this place , this place feels like tainted when i experienced bad feelings at the first two months

i hope i'll get more replies to view this differently and accept it by the end

I hope you can learn to accept change in your life too @briannpaul.

Always, when one door closes another one opens. So it doesn't have to be a bad thing. Change can be good. You will meet new people, see new things and have new experiences that you would not have had if you had of stayed in the one place. So try to embrace it as much as you can and enjoy it.

We are always here if you are finding it hard, so do come on and chat with us.