People guessing things wrong, etc.

[_Lukas]

So one of my pet peeves is when there are things about me that I think are really obvious and people get them completely wrong.

Recently my fiance and I were at a birthday party and this girl came up to us and was talking to us, and she looked at me and was like "What are your pronouns?" I gave her a really confused look and was like "He, him..." thinking it was really obvious that I'm male. It definitely caught me off-guard a little. I'm not the most masculine-looking guy and I'm really small and have a higher-pitched voice, but I'm always confused when people genuinely can't tell if I'm male or female (that was just one example, something like this has happened several times).
My fiance says "It's your weird cheekbones." Lol.
I don't think there's anything wrong with being transgender or identifying as a different gender at all, but it kind of confuses me when people guess my gender incorrectly.

Another thing is people guessing my age wrong, oh boy
I still get ID'ed and held up at the door at 18+ concerts and I'm 23 Everyone always says "You'll appreciate it when you're 30 and people think you look young" but I don't appreciate people thinking I'm underage every time I go out. Recently my fiance and I were on a cruise ship and we went to the bar to order a drink, the bartender just glanced at my fiance's ID, barely looked at it, and gave him a drink. He stared at my ID for like five minutes and kept turning it over and over and finally looked at me and said "Is this a fake?" I was so humiliated. That's pretty much the same scenario that happens every time I go to a club or a bar or a concert.
When I was 19 I was flying by myself to visit my grandparents, and the flight attendant asked me "Do you have an adult with you?" I was just like *facepalm* I really wanted to say "Dammit lady, I AM the adult." Lol.

Does anyone else have similar stories? Or have a similar frustration?

 

[janemariesayed]

These kinds of problems haven't ever really bothered me. When I was younger I could look older and get into over 18 things. It won't be forever that it is like that for you to be a little patient. Just keep your ID on you and you know you are in the right.

That girl that came up to you, and others like that, shouldn't be so rude. That is really bad manners to talk to someone like that. Just come back with something equally insulting to them and they will soon stop.

 

[LS Connection]

My brother is 33 and still gets carded everywhere he goes. He's about 5'5 and 120 lbs so he's not a big guy, he has facial hair but still people will say he looks like a teenager. It used to bother him A LOT to the point he inquired about a growth hormone subliment but being 5'5 he's still considered average height so he was never given any.

I find with myself aswell (I'm 29), just getting older you get more comfortable with who you are and these type of things don't bother you as much. Now days my brother has no issues with being carded, he makes jokes and hands it to the bouncer as soon as we get to the door without even being asked.

 

[_Lukas]

I'm a similar height and weight to that, but I can't grow facial hair at all even if I tried, and I would look horrible with it anyway with my face shape and facial features lol. My fiance can't grow facial hair either and probably would never in his life want to, but he doesn't get carded because he's over six feet tall and has a bigger build so he looks older than me. He's actually younger. Every time someone tries to guess who's older they always guess him. Oh well.

I think you're right, it will probably bother me less and less the older I get. It's more of a minor annoyance than anything else.