overthinker

Cuchculan · Mar 4, 2020

I never overthink things like yourself. But it can be something we read a lot of posts about on the forum. I would ask for any real reasons why this person would be mad / angry with you? Not just because you think he is. That is not a good enough excuse. Did you ever do anything wrong? Most probably not. Which should prove to yourself that it is all in your own mind. Common enough thing. Loads of people do it. You will see this when you have you next class with him.

Squid Jones · Mar 4, 2020

"You wouldn't worry so much what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do." - Eleanor Roosevelt

The reason why the guy didn't call you most likely has nothing to do with you. Maybe he's sick. Maybe he just had a bad day for whatever reason and didn't want to train. There's a countless number of possible explanations for why he didn't call you. And if the actual reason was something to do with you or something you did then you would probably know what that reason is. If you can't think of anything then chances are you're not the reason.

I do that too though, where I overthink and overcomplicate things in my mind and assume I did something wrong when, for example, someone doesn't call me when I'd expect them to. And almost without exception it turns out I'm just being paranoid. I don't know what else to suggest other than to just try to think rationally about the situation when this happens. Sometimes ya just gotta remind yourself that you're being silly.

LittleMissCatastrophe · Mar 4, 2020

Chr84 said:
I have a big problem with overthinking. My main issue right now is a martial arts instructor I work with via Skype. Since the form doesn't have a huge presence where I am from. He is a very nice guy and I greatly respect him. However any little thing makes me he is annoyed with me and/or doesn't think I am worth the trouble. Which I know is not true and just my head. For instance today he didn't call for our training. My head goes straight to he is mad or any number of negative scenarios. Does anyone else deal with this? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks

Yes, it's just your brain messing with you. I always blame myself for everything, always think people are mad or hate me and over-analyze what I did. I get how are you feeling. You can always ask "are you mad? did I do something wrong?" if they are mad you can apologize, if they are normal person. But you need to verbalize your thoughts so you don't spiral out and stress out yourself

Guitarist41 · Mar 8, 2020

I know a lot of people suffer from that, especially in relationships. It’s very hard to just let things go, and easy for others to say just don’t think about it. It always helps me to remember my own worth too. If you happen to have a real reason why someone doesn’t think much of you... ditch them. You don’t need that. BUT! Most of the time, that is not the case.

Izthewiz · Mar 8, 2020

Why online training?
It may be better to find a local school and train in person.
What art do you train?
I train Brazilian Jujitsu btw

petecjr76 · Mar 13, 2020

I suffer from this as well. My brain goes a million miles a minute. I also have a bad tendency of thinking the worse. If I text someone from work or one of my friends and they don't answer me, I think did I do something to piss them off and then my brain rewinds every possible thing that I did that day. I also suffer from depression so the combination of both anxiety and depression is a nightmare. I wish could be more of a help for you but know that you're not alone with this issue

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