Others don't understand...

[Elizabeth]

I had a anxiety attack tonight. I was lying in bed next to my husband when it suddenly came on. He was playing on his phone and completely ignored me. He asked if I was cramping and I replied no. Instead of asking me what was wrong or if he could do anything he told me to " Calm the f*ck down." This made it worse. I burst into tears and felt an instant tightening in my chest. I sat on the bed for a few minutes before going outside and sitting on the porch. It felt like some one was sitting on my chest. My husband doesnt understand. He simply blows it off. Anxiety for me is silent most the time. You cant see I struggle until something like this happens. Changes are happening in my life. My in-laws are staying with us till they find a house. My mother-in-law wants my husband and my girls and myself to move in with them and split rent. But she is awful. Im not sure if that may have set me off. Any advice or support?

 

[XmasCarol52]

I had a anxiety attack tonight. I was lying in bed next to my husband when it suddenly came on. He was playing on his phone and completely ignored me. He asked if I was cramping and I replied no. Instead of asking me what was wrong or if he could do anything he told me to " Calm the f*ck down." This made it worse. I burst into tears and felt an instant tightening in my chest. I sat on the bed for a few minutes before going outside and sitting on the porch. It felt like some one was sitting on my chest. My husband doesnt understand. He simply blows it off. Anxiety for me is silent most the time. You cant see I struggle until something like this happens. Changes are happening in my life. My in-laws are staying with us till they find a house. My mother-in-law wants my husband and my girls and myself to move in with them and split rent. But she is awful. Im not sure if that may have set me off. Any advice or support?

Welcome to the family.Stress coming from your in laws can certainly trigger an anxiety or panic attacks.Chest pains are sure sign of anxieties,unless you have a heart condition.Believe me when i say I do understand what you are going through,with me lately I keep getting the tingles in my legs just around my chin and ankle areas,talk about it being scary it get so bad that I cannot even write knit or crochet because of the shaky feeling,there are so many different things that are anxiety related.Anxiety can cause so many problems and illness's I dont know about you but whenever I do get sick my anxieties sky rocket then they develop into a major panic attack,my suggestion unless you are already doing this check with your doctor anyway just to make sure they are anxiety attacks I am not a doctor but they certainly sound like it to me I just wish you husband would be nicer towards you then again my family doesnt even give me any kind of support.

 

[Elizabeth]

Thanks. It's great to know there are others who understand what Im going through. I try to take it one day at a time.

 

[XmasCarol52]

Thanks. It's great to know there are others who understand whar Im going through. I tey to take it one day at a time.[/QUOy you can talk to me anytime

 

[Elizabeth]

Anytime I talk try to talk to my husband about he shuts me down and makes it feel like anything I say is invalid. He says "Oh you do this every 3-5 months. Its not like you have any responsibilities you just stay home with the kids you are like a teenager." Ive tried to explain that my father deals with anxiety, my uncle is bipolar. It runs in my family but he shuts me down. I'm exhausted. I try hard to make him understand.

 

[XmasCarol52]

That is nonsense no responsibilities,doesnt he realize how hard it is to raise kids?If it runs in your family then most likely you do have it.Woman work a lot harder then men,they have to go to work all day and still have to work when they come home >Taking care of children can be very stressful I had two of them myself..I Also have bipolar ,depression and a mood disorder to along with the anxieties and a mental illness is hard enough to deal with ,we dont need people saying things like it is nothing,it is something ,Maybe you should go and tell him to look it up on the computer then maybe he will realize you are hurting .Then again if he is stubborn he may not want to look it up ,he sounds to me like he doesnt want to have to deal with you because you have a mental illness,that is so sad,why does mental illness always have to take a back seat?
On a sad note my mom of 91 passed away yesterday morning they say she was like a skeleton,i believe she had anxietis but she said no,i do think she had very bad depression,I cant cry right now i think i am in shock i did cry at first.I keep thinking I will be calling her on the phone and she will pick it up.I am so anxious and sick over this

 

[Jenniferlynn]

Anytime I talk try to talk to my husband about he shuts me down and makes it feel like anything I say is invalid. He says "Oh you do this every 3-5 months. Its not like you have any responsibilities you just stay home with the kids you are like a teenager." Ive tried to explain that my father deals with anxiety, my uncle is bipolar. It runs in my family but he shuts me down. I'm exhausted. I try hard to make him understand.

alone

Welcome to the family.Stress coming from your in laws can certainly trigger an anxiety or panic attacks.Chest pains are sure sign of anxieties,unless you have a heart condition.Believe me when i say I do understand what you are going through,with me lately I keep getting the tingles in my legs just around my chin and ankle areas,talk about it being scary it get so bad that I cannot even write knit or crochet because of the shaky feeling,there are so many different things that are anxiety related.Anxiety can cause so many problems and illness's I dont know about you but whenever I do get sick my anxieties sky rocket then they develop into a major panic attack,my suggestion unless you are already doing this check with your doctor anyway just to make sure they are anxiety attacks I am not a doctor but they certainly sound like it to me I just wish you husband would be nicer towards you then again my family doesnt even give me any kind of support.

My husband is the same way every time I try to tell him what's happening to me he tells me he doesn't want to know and to not talk about it so much he gives me more anxiety than anybody else so I get it this is why I was so happy to have found this forum because it makes me feel so much better to know that I'm not alone just remember that panic attacks are uncomfortable but they are not dangerous and I've confirmed this and I also work in the medical field sending you love and light sweetheart