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[MadI]

So I found this forum because I’m in a tough spot and need a logical answer but not too logical from someone who doesn’t understand anxiety if you know what I’m saying lol. So I’ll give a little bit of a back story on me. I’m 19, I’ve had a little bit of social anxiety my whole life but nothing too bad. Here lately I’ve had hypocondria to the point that it’s scary, and on top of that hypocondria I was diagnosed with hypotension which is very scary because of dizziness, also I still have severe social anxiety so bad that I avoid grocery stores and such, also I have panic disorder over absolutely nothing. Anyhow, I got married to my boyfriend of 4 years a couple of month ago and he’s in the military so that means moving away from home (I was babied my whole life so this was extremely hard). I moved 4 hours away and I’m fine with being home alone if I’m at my parents home, but now that I live away where I know no one everyday my husband goes to work and as soon as I wake up at 10 am all the way till he gets off at 4:30 pm I have severe anxiety. I swear up and down I’m dying... I diagnose myself with different stuff daily y’all. Like it’s crazy but it’s so real in the moment. Or I just have random panic attacks and I’m like omg I’m gonna pass out. Monday-Friday is seriously stressful for me cause the day is full of anxiety. So because of this I came home to my mom and dad and I’ve been away for about a month. I know it’s freakin horrible that I have left my husband alone, but I’m having such a hard time convincing myself to go back. It’s scary what I go through, and no one understands. So my question is, what would y’all do? Y’all understand anxiety so I need your opinion.

 

[janemariesayed]

Hello @MadI and a very warm welcome to the forum. Firstly, when you find you are about to have a panic attack or similar, it is because you have been breathing shallow. Your heart is pumping faster to get the blood around your system. It's OK. Take a deep breath and hold it in for the count of 4. Then breathe out slowly. Do this a few times and I promise you it does work. The air gets distributed throughout your body and your heart rate slows back down to normal. It's always good to remember when you are out like in a greengrocer. You will not pass out if you take a deep breath immediately. Cough too, if you need to. But get that deep breath in you ASAP. The next thing to do is to sip water. This will hydrate you and help to calm you down by regulating your breathing back to normal.

When you get your hypochondria, immediately put it out of your mind. Tell yourself that we are what we think. If you think that you are sick all the time, you will draw that energy to you. So think positive on purpose when you find your mind drifting towards the negative.

Be strong and this won't be easy but keep at it and practice these coping techniques. We are here for you anytime you need us. This is how I deal with my anxiety.

 

[Concernedgal]

This is new to you . Your married now and different is scary but, you will get used to it. The thing I have learned lately from having anxiety is that the reason we keep diagnosing ourselves is because we just don't get it. We need answers for the way we feel and no one seem's to have them. So we take it upon ourselves to try to do it . We do this without even realizing it. We just want a simple explanation for the way we feel and for what's happening to us. That why we diagnose ourselves because all we want is answers.