Noisy Neighbors

SFOMH88 · Aug 14, 2016

I live in an apartment complex, so there is bound to be noisy neighbors. I particularly hate it when people drive up to their friend's apartment or whatever and honk the horn. Can't they just walk up to the door and knock? It's literally 20 feet away. If you're that lazy, can't you just call them? Everyone has a phone now. Call, text, or knock, don't freaking honk and disturb everyone around you! It gets me more angry than anxious.

djordjem87 · Aug 15, 2016

I like to let people live their life as they want and I would never call cops or just tell them to stop. I learned and I have seen that by doing this you are making the thing go worse than they already are. People with a mindset of a verbal fighter are just waiting for somebody to trigger them and we shouldn't be judging. We are not perfect. I am a quiet person and like peace so of course I have crazy neighbours. I realized that trying to shush them would be like putting a fire off with gasoline. Pointless and dangerous at the same time. Let them have their rant or just be better person and ignore them. Find a solution in a peaceful and nice way.

sadiemarie · Aug 17, 2016

Oh my goodness yes I do have very noisy neighbors. I live in apartments in the middle floor, so I have people living both under and above me. My upstairs neighbors will stomp around their apartment all day and late until the night. Then their alarm starts going off about 5am-7am and they keep hitting snooze on it for several hours. I have asked them to try and keep it down late at night only for them to be even louder. It seems as though they stomp their feet when walking. And I take it they don't work as they do this almost the entire day.

There are times that they scream and fight at each other over the dumbest things too. Now my downstairs neighbors are smokers. They will go outside to smoke at least once every hour if not more. They tend to have loud phone conversations on the patio. Bragging about how proud they are for working fast food jobs in their 40s. Normally they will keep their loud phone conversations between 8am-10PM but it is still obnoxious. I often times will be asleep in bed and get woken up by them chatting away very loudly.

Novelangel · Aug 18, 2016

I have a pair of downstairs neighbors who scream at each other at any time of day or night. They routinely lock each other out of the apartment, and slam doors constantly. One time they were being particularly loud while having an argument so I stomped on the bathroom floor. The screaming stopped immediately, but later that same day the man ran up to my husband in the parking lot while he was going to his car and told him that "he and his wife (me) should mind our own business and leave him and his girlfriend alone." I was stunned because neither of us had ever had any interaction with either of them before. Apparently his reaction was based solely on my stomping on the floor earlier. Plus, the next day, we found dog poop on our doorstep, along with something that apparently didn't belong to a dog since it had toilet paper attached to it. It was disgusting, and it happened to one of our other neighbors as well. He reported it but management did nothing and so, he eventually moved out. We stayed, but I think those neighbors have a personal vendetta against anyone who doesn't love hearing them shout and slam doors all the time.

abbygville · Aug 18, 2016

Luckily I live in a pretty rural area with the only neighbors being old, quiet people and their chickens. I used to live in town though, and every now and then you could hear the neighbors all the way across the street yelling and fighting. It didn't make me scared so much as sad, that these people found themselves in a situation where they have to live with someone they clearly don't get along with. It made me sad for their little boy most of all. Kids should be around parents that love each other.

Kosta · Aug 18, 2016

I have very rude neighbors, and they are not just noisy, but also love to put nose into other people's business, and at the end, they love to steal if something available to them. When I was doing a reconstruction of my apartment, they stole some construction material from my workers. Luckily, it was not worth a lot, so I did not call cops, and everything went fine for them. However, I am waiting for their next mistake, and they will pay for the first one as well. Although, I am always trying to be nice to people, this time I will not forgive, especially because I know, they are far away from morality. Bad behavior demands a decisive action and strong punishment.

sidney · Aug 18, 2016

Our next door neighbor used to be noisy occasionally when the 2 brothers had fights. Nowadays not anymore, since only 1 person is living in that house. Our neighborhood isn't that quiet unlike other neighborhoods where you can easily hear the loud remarks from the house across the street.

Nowadays though, our house can be a source of noise at times when my dad and I fight. He always instigates it, and it really doesn't get heard that loudly, unless we shout outside our door. When emotions are running high, the least that you could think of is the neighbors getting to hear you.

DDNatureLover · Aug 18, 2016

When I moved into the house I currently live in, it was with the plan of buying this house and living here forever. Since then, my finances have taken a major hit, and so has the neighborhood. It's changed from a quiet, relaxing place, to one where it seems almost anything goes. About half of the people who live here are like me, quiet and respectful, and the other half consists of people who don't understand limits, boundaries, and what it means to respect others. There are constant tiffs on the neighborhood Facebook group, and some have resorted to threats of violence, although as far as I know it's never come to that. I did call the police on a neighbor recently, but only because I was concerned for the safety of those in the house. Not long after I moved here, one neighbor shot 3 others, including her husband. The 'reason' was fear for her life, but who knows. It was related to an ongoing feud between neighbors, and I wouldn't doubt if it happens again someday, although that particular incident seems to have made some a bit more cautious.

Zeesi · Aug 18, 2016

I have a pair of downstairs neighbors who scream at each other at any time of day or night. They routinely lock each other out of the apartment' date=' and slam doors constantly. One time they were being particularly loud while having an argument so I stomped on the bathroom floor. The screaming stopped immediately, but later that same day the man ran up to my husband in the parking lot while he was going to his car and told him that "he and his wife (me) should mind our own business and leave him and his girlfriend alone." I was stunned because neither of us had ever had any interaction with either of them before. Apparently his reaction was based solely on my stomping on the floor earlier. Plus, the next day, we found dog poop on our doorstep, along with something that apparently didn't belong to a dog since it had toilet paper attached to it. It was disgusting, and it happened to one of our other neighbors as well. He reported it but management did nothing and so, he eventually moved out. We stayed, but I think those neighbors have a personal vendetta against anyone who doesn't love hearing them shout and slam doors all the time. [/quote']
People like this baffle me, simply baffle me to the highest degree. It is okay for them to make all the noise in the world, but let you make a tiny bit (compared to them), and they have a cow. Unbelievable!!

It is okay for them to disturb you with a bunch of noise, and you're supposed to sit there and take it. I just don't get people like this.

Zeesi · Aug 18, 2016

Zeesi I couldn't help but feel mad for you too as I was reading your post. Why do people like them exist? I could just imagine how mad I would also get if I was the one in your situation. I guess I could have forgiven that lady if I knew it wasn't my son who would get in trouble because of the glass she intentionally put on my yard but being a mother makes me so protective of my son's well being that I would go on an all out war just to protect him. Oh my, I'm really feeling so mad right now because of what your neighbor did to you.
I can also relate with how nice you have treated her but she still treated you badly. Our neighbors here also received a whole lot of kindness and patience from us, especially when they were just starting to build their house. They used to always ask us for help with their initial electricity and water supplies. My mom was so kind enough to let them temporarily make an electrical connection from our house to theirs so they could have a source of electricity for their building needs. We have also allowed them to temporarily connect with our water supply so they could have something to use for their cooking and hygiene. When they needed to call someone, they would usually come to our house and use our landline phone. My mom even gave them one of our dog's puppies before. But I guess that no matter how kind you are to some people, it's not a guarantee that they would also respond with kindness.

Remembering all these things brings back my anger towards them again. Just like you though, I'm generally a peaceful person that's why I could only do my ranting over writing.

The fact that your mother was so nice to these people makes their behavior even worse. She let them use electricity, water, and the phone?? Those are the basic necessities of life, especially water!!

People are really something. You are right, it does not matter how nice you are to some people, that niceness that you have given does not mean that it will be returned, why? because plain and simple, you can't 'buy friends'.

Not trying to say that you were trying to buy them, just saying that it doesn't matter if you give something to someone, that does not mean that they will be nice in return.

I have experienced this more times than I care to count.

Those neighbors of yours basically feel that with you all being so nice, they don't have to respect you. Most bullies feel like they don't have to respect nice people.

My x-neighbor who spread glass in front of my house, she and I used to be friends. I used to babysit her kids for her when she would go places late at night (a-HEM!), talk to her when no one else would. Friends of mine warned me against her, said all kinds of bad things about her. I used to just feel that she was misunderstood, that all she needed was a nice friend (me), and then she would be okay. Wrong.

One thing dealing with this type of person taught me is that if a person doesn't have any friends, there is probably a reason why. If several people tell you to stay away from a certain person, that--that person is not trustworthy, there are probably good reasons why people are saying that.

When I broke up with my son's dad, the x-friend/neighbor started sleeping with him. That is why she turned on me, when in actuality, I should have been the one that was mad. They both denied it, but they are both liars.

At any rate, after she started secretly sleeping with him, that is when her behavior took a turn for the worst. I was still willing to be friends with her and pretend like I did not know what was going on (especially since they both were trying to keep it a secret, but I found out anyway).

She did not want to be friends anymore, and did not like that my son's dad still came over to my house after she started sleeping with the dad. Of course a dad is going to want to come and see his child, whether he and the mother broke up or not, hello?

One day, she actually tried to lure my toddler son out of my house to come to her, she did not see me standing right there in the shadows. She was actually telling him to come outside, "come on, come on". She did all kinds of stuff to me for months and months.

People can be really sick and disturbed, and no amount of niceness is going to help them. In fact, I think that some people dislike you because you are so happy and content in life. Maybe everything is not perfect with you, but you are happier than they are, and they can't stand it.

gracer · Aug 19, 2016

Zeesi Oh my gosh! Your ex-neighbor is so unimaginably horrendous! I think you're one of the nicest persons on earth because maybe if it was me who was in your situation at the time when you learned that she had been sleeping with your ex, I wouldn't know what I could have done. I'm just glad that she's no longer in your neighborhood and I do think that you deserve someone who's definitely better than your ex. You definitely don't deserve them both. I also agree that some people do have the tendency to get jealous of someone who is living a happy and contented life and I tell you, just let them salivate in envy. I think you're a good person and I wish you all the best in life.

Novelangel · Aug 19, 2016

People like this baffle me, simply baffle me to the highest degree. It is okay for them to make all the noise in the world, but let you make a tiny bit (compared to them), and they have a cow. Unbelievable!!

It is okay for them to disturb you with a bunch of noise, and you're supposed to sit there and take it. I just don't get people like this.

Yup, exactly. And the "best" part is, the horrible neighbors never move out. Never. They force everyone around them to move but they remain where they are forever, continuously doing what they do and getting away with it. I guess the only thing that a respectable and respecting neighbor can do is just sit there and wait for the offending people to kill or maim each other and get it over with. That's terribly crass, I know, but what else can you do when nobody will do anything about it?

KW2496 · Aug 19, 2016

I live in an apartment complex and there is at least three apartments around me that the people are always screaming at each other. There was one more, right across from us that made me a little nervous because their yelling seemed rather threatening but thankfully they moved out. There is one apartment behind us now that is really bad. It's two older women and they are always screaming at each other. Now one of the women always comes outside and just starts talking and yelling to nobody in particular. In the past couple days the police have shown up for that apartment at least three times. She doesn't really seem threatening to me but there are a lot of kids in the complex and it seems to scare them.

whysewserious · Aug 19, 2016

As I write this, my upstairs neighbor is walking about in her living room and it sounds like what I imagine a herd of matinees would sound like if they walked on dry land. However, I am sure we are intentionally just as loud to our downstairs neighbors. What is of concern is the fact that the fights so many of you seem to be encountering are physical. For the sake of my own conscience, I would have to report that to the authorities. If I kept silent and someone wound up being violently hurt, and I had done nothing, part of that guilt would fall on me. An anonymous call could always be made. If nothing else, report them to the apartment complex you live in.

Zeesi · Aug 19, 2016

Yup, exactly. And the "best" part is, the horrible neighbors never move out. Never. They force everyone around them to move but they remain where they are forever, continuously doing what they do and getting away with it. I guess the only thing that a respectable and respecting neighbor can do is just sit there and wait for the offending people to kill or maim each other and get it over with. That's terribly crass, I know, but what else can you do when nobody will do anything about it?

Well, in my particular case, I can say thankfully that either the bad neighbor has moved out, or I have been blessed to move. However, patience, much patience, is a virtue when it comes to things like this.

Here recently I had a jerk-neighbor who was not even supposed to be living here, not on the lease, she was staying with her boyfriend. What made her a jerk is that she lived above me and would stomp, and I mean STOMP, around the apartment for most of the day. Like, really??

She would always do laundry really late at night so as not to get caught by the owner, who lives off-sight but comes to the property sometimes during the day.

My apartment is right next door to the laundry room, so I would hear the machines late into the night.

If there was routine apartment maintenance scheduled, she would leave during the day, that sort of thing.

My jerk-neighbor and the boyfriend fought a lot when she first got here, it was like he didn't want her here. I have a feeling he wanted to get rid of her, but didn't want to just outright beat her up every day. From what I could hear through the walls (they were loud), she did a lot of the fighting, he did a lot of trying to restrain her.

I think he was trying to pass the buck in getting rid of her by telling her that his neighbors would not approve of her living there.

She stomped around for months, like she was trying to get a reaction of some kind from me. I didn't "bite" though, because I had no interest in getting to know her on any level.

Although all her loud stomping p*ssed me off, I felt like if he wanted her gone, he was going to have to handle it himself. In the years that I've lived here, I'd spoken to him once or twice, so it's not like he and I knew each other, so I definitely wasn't going to fight his battles for him, or involve myself in any of his drama.

Also, since I work from home, it was kind of comforting in a weird way to know that she was home also, in the apartment above me, stomping around, lol.

She also seemed to have a really good work-ethic as far as I could tell, because it seemed like something was always moving around upstairs. She seemed to always be doing something while her boyfriend was at work. I tried to learn from that, because sometimes working from home, I'll get lazy, or start watching YouTube or something. Meanwhile, I could hear her upstairs, making noise, doing something, music playing.

They moved out several months ago. Good riddance as far as I'm concerned. Quiet people live upstairs now.

Zeesi · Aug 19, 2016

Zeesi Oh my gosh! Your ex-neighbor is so unimaginably horrendous! I think you're one of the nicest persons on earth because maybe if it was me who was in your situation at the time when you learned that she had been sleeping with your ex' date=' I wouldn't know what I could have done. I'm just glad that she's no longer in your neighborhood and I do think that you deserve someone who's definitely better than your ex. You definitely don't deserve them both. I also agree that some people do have the tendency to get jealous of someone who is living a happy and contented life and I tell you, just let them salivate in envy. I think you're a good person and I wish you all the best in life. [/quote']
Thank you so much for saying that you wish me the best in life, that is so sweet of you. Yes, she was horrendous, my ex was too, but he started getting his life together and is doing better now, is in a new relationship, and they just had a baby.

My ex-neighbor, even after she moved, came back to visit me. I should not have even opened my door, but like I said, I was afraid of her for the most part, so I tried to keep the peace with her. I let her stand outside on my front-step while we talked, then she claimed she had to use the bathroom, so I let her in. We talked awhile, laughed and talked, like the 'friends' we used to be, then she left.

I thought that was the end of it, I thought we had a good visit, but about an hour or 2 later I get a message from her on my phone telling me to watch out because she knew I was sleeping around with her boyfriend (some guy that she was supposedly in a relationship with when she moved, even though she was still secretly sleeping with my ex), and that she was going to come after me! Keep in mind, she just left my house 2 hours before that!

That was so random, I was like "huh?" It was always something with her. I didn't even know her boyfriend.

After I listened to that message, I went and sat outside in front of my house waiting for her, because I knew when she came back, she was going to want to fight me. I sat outside waiting for a long while, but she never came back.

She later went on to call people who she knew (who were living in the same complex where I still lived) and told them that I was sleeping with her boyfriend. Spreading lies about me.

People really do get jealous if they think that you have something they don't, and when you are happy and nice, they don't like it. That is just the evil nature of some people. Thankfully there are still good, decent people in this world.

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