New here. Just coming to terms with the fact I have been suffering from depression and anxiety for a long time.

[ROBWAR81]

I have apparently been suffering from depression and anxiety for many years. And ironically I have been in denial about the fact that I was for all this time. Like a drug addiction, I had to come to terms with it myself before anyone could help me, or I could help myself. Now that I have realized it, it's like it all is flooding to the surface. Just looking for someone or a group that can relate and help me cope with this and maybe I can help others along the way too.

 

[Cuchculan]

Accepting it is the first step to helping yourself. Not sure if you have ever seeing anybody about it? That would be the next step. Be it a doctor first and a therapist after that. Something we have all done over the years. Finding ways we can deal with our problems. What we should and should not do. Is all a learning curve. What works for you might not work for me. So it might take time to find out what works best for you. But never be too hard on yourself. lot of people can be like that. Gets you nowhere. Learn as you move along.

 

[ROBWAR81]

Thank you. I'm not seeing anyone yet. This is my first step in reaching out. Just came to terms with it. And you are right. I am my own worst critics and enemy. I have to learn to stop that. I've been doing it for so long and never even realized it.

 

[Grace360]

Welcome. I wish you luck in your endeavors. This forum helped me a lot and I know it'll help you too.

 

[imsotired]

I hope you doing well. i can totally understand what you are going through. i was on a trip with my mum and brother and i was angry and irritable moret of the time and one time suicidal. thank good im out of that now it makes me appreciate life more.
anyways we were going for a walk in a park and my mum told me what my psychiatrist has told here was that i was depressed. from then on i thought im going to view my life from a different perspective h aha. i couldn't sleep i was sick to my stomach i was crying every 5 mins.

what my mum told me was that a label or a mental illness doesn't define you- only you have control over you life and nothing else does. i know it is easier said than done but acceptance(realizing that you have a problem is the first way to get better). you are never alone even if sometimes you think you are. i used to think this way but now not so much . i thought that depression was so bad writing in my journal "my mum had completely f ed up my life. i cant remember how i got better but for me it only took a few days to get over. i suggest when you are having a bad time do something related to self care e.g journal ling or meditation, walking or singing. walking is great bc both sides of your brain are interaction eaiser to reason out - you should listen to the one lavendaire on anxiety and stress(its rlly good i cant go to bed if i dont listen to it) i spoke to my psychologist and she said that depression is very treatable. even though people may mot show it everyone is going through something and remember that it could always be worse.

remember that time heals ll wonds and making a consious effort and time will help you manage anything

im sorry its so long but anyway haha hope it helps
have a good one!