My husband

[sadwife2017]

My husband had an nervous breakdown last September and he contributed all of it to his job. He visited his doctor, which sent him to the ER and the doctor there wanted to hospitalize him, but no rooms available. He was sent home with 2 mg. tablets of lorazepam to take 3 times a day. Since last September, he has been on three different meds. Lexapro, Zoloft and now on 60 mgs. of prozac along with 2 mg. of lorazepam a day. He is still holding his job, he tells me every day he is going to be fired. Because of the change in personality and weight loss, 50 lbs. or better, he is now seeing a psycharist and has been tested for front lobal dementia by an neuropsychologist where the finding were major depressive disorder, severe anxiety disorder. Back in 2017 he did have a CT scan that the results were negative.
I am at the point where I can't live with his actions, we have been married almost 50 years and this is not the man I married. He has always been a big sportsman, but now he does nothing. We need firewood for the winter, he tells me he can't get any. He has a truck that has been siting in our driveway since last November, all it needs is a clutch and he says I will get it fixed eventually. He comes home in the afternoons, feeds his dogs and then sits in his chair the rest of the afternoon/evening watching T.V. , closing his eyes and being all depressed. The weekends are the worse. Sundays he doesn't do anything but sit and stare. He contributes his anxiety to his job, having to learn computer and all the other changes there. He is 68 years old, unable to retire right now because of finances. I am at my wits end and I am taking it very personal. I just can't imagine going on like this, someone please give me some advice. Many, many thanks.

 

[triceps]

Hi,

I'm 65 yrs old and last year had to quit my job due to anxiety. Although I took a huge hit financially, it has proven very beneficial, a decision my wife and I were able to make by qualifying for Medicare. We've cut back on many things and dreams but are both thankful that we had the guts and clarity as to what was most important.

 

[sadwife2017]

Thank you triceps. You said you quit your job and your age is about the age of my husband, he is 68. If you don't mind my asking, was it because of more pressures on your job, like computer skills? My husband and I both are on Medicare but not enough to live on. Both of our jobs during our younger years were not always high pay and that effects your money for Medicare. Maybe that may be what my husband will end of doing and we have talked about it. He says then he would worry about not having a job and where the money would come from. Seems like a no win situation.

 

[triceps]

I was getting to the point where I was too anxious to make the drive to work anymore. I applied for disability and receive $1400/month and my wife receives $800/month in social security. The medicare covers our health care. We live on a small farm in NW Wisconsin where the cost of living is very reasonable. My wife volunteers at the local food shelf which helps us keep the food bill lower. The main benefit is that I don't have to worry about work anymore and my relationship with my wife is much better without that particular stressor. I still can't drive but my general anxiety is much better helping us get along much better.

 

[sadwife2017]

I was getting to the point where I was too anxious to make the drive to work anymore. I applied for disability and receive $1400/month and my wife receives $800/month in social security. The medicare covers our health care. We live on a small farm in NW Wisconsin where the cost of living is very reasonable. My wife volunteers at the local food shelf which helps us keep the food bill lower. The main benefit is that I don't have to worry about work anymore and my relationship with my wife is much better without that particular stressor. I still can't drive but my general anxiety is much better helping us get along much better.

So glad that things have worked out in your life and you are much better. I am continuing to pray that I will find the same peace. God bless.