Many Shy People Don't Mean To Come Across As Rude, Like Me As A Teen

[MainerMikeBrown]

Although I still have anxieties about meeting and dating women, I've come a long way when it comes to shyness, in general.

But when I was a teenager back in the 1990's, I had a fair amount of social anxiety issues. As a result, I sometimes came across as rude to some others, especially to girls that I was attracted to.

And I wasn't the the only one with shyness issues that came across as rude.

However, I never meant to come across that way. Many with moderate to severe social anxiety also don't mean to come across as rude either.

So if someone you know is clearly shy and sometimes comes across as rude and abrupt, they may not mean to be. Hence, you have to take that into consideration.

 

[Aries]

I know. There were times when I was too worked up to even say hi to someone when they said hi to me.

 

[MainerMikeBrown]

Just for the record, I don't think all shy people often come across as rude.

 

[Siphonophorae]

I’m pretty shy around the person I like (first time in 5+ years) and I can’t talk to them unless they start a conversation with me. That’s how I know they don’t like me back, it’s okay though. I get nervous and can’t talk to them because I don’t want others to become suspicious. At a school like mine, news spreads like wildfire. Gossip is everywhere. I really hate it but can’t really do much about it so I just make sure we’re able to meet up in a way that is NOT abnormal and, in fact, completely by accident to the casual observer. I probably seem like I’m avoiding them sometimes if they’re nearby since we’re really good friends to begin with.

 

[alwaysworried]

Yes, this is always my fear when I'm talking to people - I'm always afraid of coming off as rude! For some reason, if I'm meeting new people, I'm able to have a conversation and smile even if I feel scared inside. I seem to have more of an issue with extended family and friends that I only see a few times a year...I tend to just shut down and not say much, as I'm always worried that they're judging me and I just tend to feel more awkward around them (even though most of them are lovely people). It's very strange!

 

[Joshua1]

Practice makes perfect.