Making a mountain out of a mole hill

[Happytoast]

Why do I go off like a bomb? Some small little thing happens and I go mad, I can actually hear myself going over and over the same thing if I've fallen out with my fiance or something. I read a message on his phone from his cousin who basically said I need to treat him better I swear we are the loveliest couple ever, when I'm not in a bad mood we have such an amazing time but then it's like a switch goes off and I shout and scream. My Dr said it was anxiety but didn't give me anything, despite it taking me alot of guts to actually go to the doctor. Is this anxiety? Depression? Something worse like bipolar? Thank you x

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[janemariesayed]

Why do I go off like a bomb? Some small little thing happens and I go mad, I can actually hear myself going over and over the same thing if I've fallen out with my fiance or something. I read a message on his phone from his cousin who basically said I need to treat him better I swear we are the loveliest couple ever, when I'm not in a bad mood we have such an amazing time but then it's like a switch goes off and I shout and scream. My Dr said it was anxiety but didn't give me anything, despite it taking me alot of guts to actually go to the doctor. Is this anxiety? Depression? Something worse like bipolar? Thank you x

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Well, for a kick off his cousin should not be interfering in your relationship. You are engaged, that is a promise to marry and become one. How does your fiance feel about that text?

It seems to me that his cousin is jealous of your relationship with your fiance. If your fiance is happy with you then there is no need to worry.

 

[Happytoast]

Well, for a kick off his cousin should not be interfering in your relationship. You are engaged, that is a promise to marry and become one. How does your fiance feel about that text?

It seems to me that his cousin is jealous of your relationship with your fiance. If your fiance is happy with you then there is no need to worry.

Thank you for replying he did tell her it was wrong, he even say that when we move in together he will distance himself from her. She may be jealous, her husband is a miserable grumpy man who's cut off his children from his first marriage and doesn't like having friends. We are a very tactile happy couple, he treats me like a princess and would do anything for me, I treat him very well and we have so many good times together maybe she hates That? Thankfully he's going to distance himself when he's here with me which can only be a good thing. I've been prescribed antidepressants now so hopefully things will be better. Thanks again x

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[janemariesayed]

Thank you for replying he did tell her it was wrong, he even say that when we move in together he will distance himself from her. She may be jealous, her husband is a miserable grumpy man who's cut off his children from his first marriage and doesn't like having friends. We are a very tactile happy couple, he treats me like a princess and would do anything for me, I treat him very well and we have so many good times together maybe she hates That? Thankfully he's going to distance himself when he's here with me which can only be a good thing. I've been prescribed antidepressants now so hopefully things will be better. Thanks again x

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You are always welcome Happytoast! (Love the name!) You see, it certainly seems that she is jealous of you both with her failing marriage. Maybe she even has designs on your fiance? He seems like a good man, and sensible. It seems like he understands the commitment he has made to make you his number one.

He could distance himself now though. I have a man who lives across the road where used to be friends and now we don't talk. I never see him. You can live next door to someone and not see them for months on end.

 

[Happytoast]

She could well be interested in him but definitely isn't reciprocated, they grew up together and he looks at her like a friend. He likes a woman who likes cooking together and nice food, she likes microwavable lasagne and cheap cans of cider She is texting him every day as his dad is in hospital, then she'll pop in to see him as he lives at home with his dad (last stage cancer not got long left)
He is an amazing man, we have a baby together something she could never have so looking more like jealousy I think.
Thank you

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[janemariesayed]

She could well be interested in him but definitely isn't reciprocated, they grew up together and he looks at her like a friend. He likes a woman who likes cooking together and nice food, she likes microwavable lasagne and cheap cans of cider She is texting him every day as his dad is in hospital, then she'll pop in to see him as he lives at home with his dad (last stage cancer not got long left)
He is an amazing man, we have a baby together something she could never have so looking more like jealousy I think.
Thank you

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Yeah, that definitely sounds like jealousy. Got to feel for her I suppose. She's about to lose her friend. Perhaps talking with her to ask her to have a little less contact to give the two of you your private space.

 

[Happytoast]

Yeah, that definitely sounds like jealousy. Got to feel for her I suppose. She's about to lose her friend. Perhaps talking with her to ask her to have a little less contact to give the two of you your private space.

I forgot to say she's actually my good friend too, we text alot and she's helped us out a few times looking after his dad etc so we can go out. So the text was quite a shock especially when you think someone really likes you, obviously I was wrong but for my fiance to distance himself means it's really upset him the way she talked about me. He is going to not reply every day to her texts and see where it goes from there

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[Rinka]

Why do I go off like a bomb? Some small little thing happens and I go mad, I can actually hear myself going over and over the same thing if I've fallen out with my fiance or something. I read a message on his phone from his cousin who basically said I need to treat him better I swear we are the loveliest couple ever, when I'm not in a bad mood we have such an amazing time but then it's like a switch goes off and I shout and scream. My Dr said it was anxiety but didn't give me anything, despite it taking me alot of guts to actually go to the doctor. Is this anxiety? Depression? Something worse like bipolar? Thank you x

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To be really honest with you, it sounds a lot like insecurity for me.
It seems you are insecure in your relationship or yourself and then might react the way you do.