Loud People

joshposh · Jul 29, 2016

They are attention hogs, that need to be the center of attention. It's either that or they are partially deaf. I've ran into a few of these guys and I had to tell them to tone it down, because you are irritating me and creating a scene. For those that have social anxiety, you don't want that type of attention.

I normal don't run away from these types of people. If I know them personally, I would just tell them to settle down. If they are strangers, I don't bother and keep my distance. They want attention, then they are going to get it. Only a matter of time before someone jumps up and has a problem with their loud mouth.

NormaD · Jul 29, 2016

I'm just wondering... Do those people who are loud know the effect they have on other people? Especially the anxious ones? Do they care? If someone told them would they try to change or is it something that defines who they are and they wouldn't change it for the world? Just thinking about what life would be like for me if I was one of those people that everyone tries to avoid because my voice grates on their nerves...

sidney · Jul 29, 2016

I think I can tolerate such situations as long as the voice is not that overpowering. I'm used to being around loud and outspoken people, and I can tell when they are just being "naturally loud" or they are really "exaggeratedly loud" already and they are already causing some disruption.

djordjem87 · Jul 29, 2016

I am an introvert Taurus so what can I tell you. I really like my day nice and quiet. I like soft and slow music. I like my meals slow and silent. I just like to enjoy in all the small things and some people are all about shouting, loud music, a lot of gibberish around the table and I cannot stand this and handle it very well. I am very unlucky to have people around me, my family to be precise, be like this. They just yell and they fight. They shout when not necessary and they do everything fast. I can get loud myself but this is not a trend with me. It is only when really necessary. I do not know how to handle something that cannot be. It's not like I can be louder than them so I just descend to my room.

abonnen · Jul 30, 2016

I have experienced this before as well or a voice of a person that just drives me into an anxiety mode. I find this odd due to the fact that sometimes I am very loud myself, around friends but other then that I am quite around others. I think for me loud voiced people is more of a nervous tic type of of attitude.

PurplePanda999 · Aug 29, 2016

Yes. I truly dislike loud talkers. Where I used to work, there were 3 people who talked really loud. Only one had a hearing problem.

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Aree Wongwanlee · Aug 29, 2016

I have no problem with loud people. It so happens that my parents' native language came from an area by the sea. So, after thousands of years of shouting to be heard above the wind and the waves, the language became naturally loud. I was not aware that I spoke this loudly when I spoke with my parents, until one day, when my father visited me. We were having a great time catching up on old times when my neighbor poked his head over the fence and asked if everything was alright. I told him everything was fine and asked why. He said that we were talking so loudly he thought we were quarreling.

fcuco · Aug 29, 2016

Yes, I hate this, specially on quite environments like restaurants, a particularly loud person has the power to ruin my meal. I don't like a lot of the extroverted traits on people, but I don't find most of them annoying apart from those things like being loud and rude. Where I really struggle is on office settings, specially on those dreaded open office environments, I worked for a big corporation in one very exposed cubicle and had a lot of trouble concentrating and being productive. I discovered that I need almost complete silence to be productive and sometimes even music can be distracting, so imagine trying to do some work when the guy from the other cubicle is yelling and laughing very loud. What a nightmare, but I understand that this is an issue that I have and that I need to solve myself, I can't go around imposing how other people are allowed to talk.

justsayyes · Aug 29, 2016

I always find myself wondering all the time how loud and enthusiastic people stay bubbly most of the time. Just thinking about it stresses me out. Like how can they stay so hyper and active? Don't they get tired? Are they faking it? Because sometimes even smiling seems like a task to me. I feel like they are trying to please everyone or they are dealing with something that they're desperately trying to avoid. I don't know, but i don't like loud people. I mean, sometimes they can be really great company especially in social functions, they are the ones who break the awkwardness or tension in the room, other times i just want nothing to do with them at all. lol

SirJoe · Aug 29, 2016

I wouldn't say that it creates anxiety rather irritation. There is loud and there is loud, I have some friends that are really loud and I have gotten into arguments with him before because of this. I have experienced physical pain in my ears because of him speaking so loud.

Dove · Aug 29, 2016

Everyone is loud in my country. There is a running joke that the only thing you hear in a Canadian supermarket, is the group of Dominicans yelling around. It really gets on my nerves, but you know how humanity is, you learn to adapt. I just try to put everything I don't want to hear as background noise. Problem is when people are actually trying to get my attention. Sometimes I pass as rude, because while I am putting everything as background noise, I ignore most sounds.

Kosta · Aug 29, 2016

Yeah, this might be a real problem, because I am a pretty quiet person when I talk, walk, think and even when I am angry. But I know many people who are not as me at all. Some of them are my family members, so our relations might be tense if they overstep the line of normal behavior. I have also noticed that people with hearing problems may be unknowingly loud, because they do not hear themselves as well. And they will be loud over and over, because they cannot control the voice volume.

SirJoe · Aug 29, 2016

It just happened to be last night. I was with some friends and one of them was drinking and becoming really loud and annoying to everybody. The others didn't seem to mind but I was on edge the whole time. I just wanted to yell at the person to be quiet but of course I didn't. My heart started racing and my chest began to tighten so I got out of there and went home. They tried to talk me into staying but I refused and told them I had to go. It took me quite some time to calm down when I finally got back home. I know the person meant no harm but it really worked me up.

Sometimes too much alcohol can bring out the worst in people, I'm sure he didn't realize how loud he was speaking. If there was background music it can make it worse.

Dove · Aug 30, 2016

I agree. I know he didn't realize how he was acting because of the alcohol. It was just me and I should not have put myself in that situation knowing how it would make me feel.

That's the thing, how much it might bother us, may prevent as well that we enjoy many things that life has to offer us. I guess we have to reach a compromise with the environment that surrounds us. How much we get exposed and how much are we willing to accept.

Panic57 · Aug 30, 2016

I'm just wondering... Do those people who are loud know the effect they have on other people? Especially the anxious ones? Do they care? If someone told them would they try to change or is it something that defines who they are and they wouldn't change it for the world? Just thinking about what life would be like for me if I was one of those people that everyone tries to avoid because my voice grates on their nerves...

I think that some do and used their loudness to force other people to submit to them. But I think a good chunk of them are just set on loud. I noticed in school and college that most kids really reflect their families. And there are just some loud families where every conversation, even the nice ones, are a competition to see who is the loudest. Others just have mean people for parents and it's an inbuilt wall that keeps their heart protected. So on some level, those people are just trying to survive their environment and instead of being quiet they go on the offensive. They seem like they're protecting themselves and expect you do to the same.

rz3300a · Aug 31, 2016

I have never understood them. It is kind of funny to me to see where these people came from though, and then you start to realize. I am from a pretty small family, but I can see when you start having multiple brothers and sisters, and aunts and uncles, things just get loud and you get used to yelling. Living in a big city certainly does the same, and I am covered there in my little town. It has a lot to do with how you grow up and the environment you are in, but it still drives me crazy when people are unnecessarily loud.

gmckeebiz · Aug 31, 2016

I don't know if being uncomfortable around loud people is necessarily anxiety. I think most people just don't like to be around it, regardless of their mental state. It's just not very pleasant. Now, people who are anxious may be bothered by it a bit more, but that's as far as it goes. Anxiety or not, most folks don't like it. I know I sure don't.

SirJoe · Aug 31, 2016

I agree. I know he didn't realize how he was acting because of the alcohol. It was just me and I should not have put myself in that situation knowing how it would make me feel.

Unfortunately these situations are sometimes unavoidable, maybe the best thing is to excuse yourself and go to the toilet to take a deep breath. It's not the best place to do it but at least no one will bother you.

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