Lost someone

[OafFish]

I lost the person I would talk to. I feel alternately angry and sad and defeated. I don't know the right way to feel or think. There's no one to talk to because they were who I talked to

 

[bigjetplane23]

why did you loose them,

 

[OafFish]

They passed.

 

[Yalyn]

I'm sorry for your loss. There is no right way to feel or think. I know posting on a forum isn't the same as talking to someone you know and care about, but we'll do our best to be here for you.

 

[OafFish]

I keep expecting a text or call from them. I know not to, but part of me doesn't understand.

 

[Jonathan123]

I lost the person I would talk to. I feel alternately angry and sad and defeated. I don't know the right way to feel or think. There's no one to talk to because they were who I talked to

Bereavement is just about the most difficult time for anyone. The feeling of loss can be overwhelming. It can trigger an anxiety episode which may be difficult to deal with. All the old phrases like 'time will heal' become just so many words. I do know, been there! I lost my wife four years ago, but the pain is still there. Life goes on as it must, but the memories linger. We can lead a somewhat normal life after
but memories still come. I can only suggest letting time pass as best you can. The pain does ease after time. If you can find someone to talk to and confide your feelings in, so much the better. Don't bottle up emotions. It is not a shameful thing to feel deep emotions at such a time. Feeling angry and sad are normal reactions. Why, why? Don't make any major decisions about your life for some time. It is difficult to reason logically at such times

 

[OafFish]

Hope is complicated. Whatever plans there were are gone and it feels wrong making new ones.

 

[Jonathan123]

Hope is complicated. Whatever plans there were are gone and it feels wrong making new ones.

Yes indeed it is. To feel any emotion at such times seems difficult. It is a feeling of numbness. Gradually, very slowly we do emerge from it, but the loss never really leaves us. Life goes on and so do we, but it can be a painful process. Yes, grieving is a process, and like any process it does diminish with time. At least I have found it so. Making any sort of plans for the future may seem difficult, so give it more time before you make any decisions. Thinking clearly and logically at such times is nigh impossible.