Losing Focus When Unhappy.

[janemariesayed]

There was a huge fire recently in London where a block of flats went up in smoke. I saw a man on TV talking about his young daughter. He said she was unhappy because of the fire and that was affecting her focus on her schoolwork.

I thought to myself, of course! Because our minds are elsewhere being chewed up by our unhappiness. I've always been unhappy because of family problems while I was growing up. At the same time, I have always found it difficult to focus on anything and really have to work hard at it.

If we are depressed, we are unhappy, or if we are anxious, we can slip into a depression because of our anxieties. Does anyone else have this problem when you're unhappy or depressed? Do you have difficulty focusing and how did you overcome it?

 

[Concernedgal]

I would say so. I do notice it. But, when that does happy.. I make it account to make sure I go on with my life no matter how bad I feel. I essentially ignore my feelings. But, the problem with that is that it requires me to stuff my feelings g deep down and when I finally have time to myself and i have a day off from work ... it comes back with a vengeance. But, what's a girl to do? You gotta live your life. It us very important for me.

 

[janemariesayed]

I would say so. I do notice it. But, when that does happy.. I make it account to make sure I go on with my life no matter how bad I feel. I essentially ignore my feelings. But, the problem with that is that it requires me to stuff my feelings g deep down and when I finally have time to myself and i have a day off from work ... it comes back with a vengeance. But, what's a girl to do? You gotta live your life. It us very important for me.

I try to get on with life too but as much as I can be just getting on with things, suddenly one minute it will be biting me the next. It was easier when I was working outside and had to put on an act for all those people I met outside. Now though, I can't seem to put on the act. At least, I think it is more of the fact that I am fed up of putting on an act.

I am much better now that I don't have to be in front of people. It is just my dogs that see me when I'm having a panic on or throwing a tantrum. And best of all, they forgive me and are always ready to give a hug when I need it. They don't mind that I get brain fog. They let me know if its feeding time too, so they don't require my focus.

 

[Concernedgal]

I didn't think of it that way... I suppose I do put on a act for the rest of the world. And my bambam is the the only person who really knows me. I suppose the act is also put on for my husband too. There's a certain amount of shame that comes with my condition and I know that it is shame that I am creating for myself... but, never theless it's there.

 

[janemariesayed]

I didn't think of it that way... I suppose I do put on a act for the rest of the world. And my bambam is the the only person who really knows me. I suppose the act is also put on for my husband too. There's a certain amount of shame that comes with my condition and I know that it is shame that I am creating for myself... but, never theless it's there.

This illness makes me feel ashamed too. Even though the more research I do on it, I find that it is not my fault. My condition is to be expected with the things that have happened to me throughout my life.

I can now understand anxieties and depression brought on by trauma, or childhood problems. Yet I don't understand when someone suffers from depression or anxieties and they have never had any problems. I suppose that is what they call clinical. It is amazing how outside influences can affect our minds ~ for the worse!

I have just remembered my dog Sasha who has gone over the rainbow bridge now. She used to tell me if one of her water bowls was empty by picking it up and crashing it on the ground to make a noise. Now she has gone, I do have to watch that, but they have about four water bowls on the go at any given time. That means that they don't run out if I forget.