Learning to live with others

[Alex]

I've lived with my family, and I couldn't wait to leave, I lived with fellow students at college in dorms, I shared a flat with my brother and flatmates, and I have lived alone. Whatever the situation you have to learn to live with others and their habits. It can be so hard not to say anything when something irritates you, and you do things like put the toilet seat down and hope that they get it.


I do struggle to live with others, but I never let on. People think I am really easy going where I tolerate things deep down inside. Living alone was fine, but expensive and one day I hope to have that again, but if I find a partner I will have to compromise and get used to his habits. Now that is something I dread too.

 

[kelden]

The best thing you can do is to propose a set of "rules" in order to improve your coexistence with others at the same place. You all will eventually manage to find a point of balance between each habit. Although sometimes you will find yourself living together with someone that is just a difficult person.

 

[Ashley0323]

I personally, cannot live with others. I have three children and a soon-to-be husband, which I of course, live with, but other than that, no way!! I have tried to do so in the past with "good friends" and make of a good roommate kind of situation and they never worked out and caused a ton of stress on the friendship.

 

[John Snort]

It's a rare thing that you'll find someone who is 100% in tune with you. Most married people have things they can't stand about their spouses but have to tolerate anyway because they have no choice. Since it can be hard if not impossible to have someone change their habits, I think the best way to deal with something like this is learn to change your attitude towards something that annoys you. That way at least it won't be as unpleasant as it would be if you can't stand some habit or anything else that annoys you.

 

[Alex]

It's a rare thing that you'll find someone who is 100% in tune with you. Most married people have things they can't stand about their spouses but have to tolerate anyway because they have no choice. Since it can be hard if not impossible to have someone change their habits' date=' I think the best way to deal with something like this is learn to change your attitude towards something that annoys you. That way at least it won't be as unpleasant as it would be if you can't stand some habit or anything else that annoys you.[/quote']
Absolutely, it's hard to find people or someone you don't have any niggle with. As I am currently living with my parents I can't exactly tell them what not to do in their own home as they are so set in their ways and I have to just live with it doe the time being.


It does make a difference with roommates and dorms. I shared a dorm with two others and one was fine and the other a nightmare and it did create more anxiety without a doubt and trigger other things, so where I was staying it was a factor in my leaving. If you can't change the situation then you have to leave. I had one roommate that was so bad and rude I didn't sleep and made it so uncomfortable I was so glad to leave.

 

[Aree Wongwanlee]

I used to think I would be better off living alone instead of living together with other people. That was when I parted company with my wife. Actually, I did live a solo life for many years. Then, just a few months back, I got stricken with a deadly virus and I couldn't walk at all. That was when I came to realize that I could not really live all alone by myself forever. Now I live with my son and his housemate. All of us have our separate rooms and we don't intrude on each other's private space. However, we are always there to give a hand if anyone of us need any help. Of course, there are some changes to be made in my way of living to adjust for the other two persons I am living with. However, I think it's a good trade-off.

 

[CeliVega]

I prefer living alone. But seeing some posts from the other posters I realized it is important to have someone close to you because you never know what might happened during emergency and it is best if you have someone close by that you can trust to help with whatever that is happening.


But it is so hard to compensate. Every individuals have different way of livings. An individual loves loud music. Another individual prefers a quiet environment. Someone is a clean freak. Someone is a slob. You got a guy who enjoys hanging out in a large group. You then got someone who don't like people interrupting their personal space.


I have some bad experiences with living with others before, so I am sorry if I seem to be a little biased. i just hope I can find someone who I can live under the same roof with minimal problems.

 

[Amber B.]

Living with others is difficult, especially since it's family. My fiance and I and our 2 kids just recently moved 700 miles and in with my mother and her boyfriend. It's been a very trying situation and has tried both of our patiences. It's mostly because my mom treats me like crap, but it's hard trying to learn someone else's habits and keep the peace in the house.

 

[d.moore11100]

I also think that living with others is quite difficult. People get on my nerves so easily and my folks are no exception. I could list off all of the things that they do that seriously get on my nerves like how they use my bathroom and leave it a total mess and dishes are dreadful. I am really looking forward to moving out and living on my own or with a future spouse.

 

[GrubbyRose]

I enjoy living alone. I would definitely say that I am set in my ways, and I do not like change at all. I do good alone, and I have the safety net of having two other relatives living in the same neighborhood. If I get in over my head in something, I can always call them, but so far that has not happened, because I am pretty self sufficient.

 

[rz3300a]

This is one area that I struggle with a lot. I really like living alone, but at the same time I realize that it is really not possible. The key is then to find someone who you can live with comfortably, which I think I have found mine. It is still a struggle though, living with anyone, but you just have to take what you can get and deal with it, like everything in life I suppose. I am not the cleanest person either, so I know that a lot of the times I am the one causing the issues, and that does not make things easier. Interesting stuff, and thanks for sharing.

 

[theduck7]

I have trouble with this too. I lived with my best friend for a few months. We shared a bedroom and that was just too much. I think we had bigger fights during that time than during all of our relationship before that. We moved into a different place with a couple and that was so much better. We each had our own room and I think that made a huge difference. I really like to have my alone time and I think that was what made it so hard when we shared a room.


I never had a hard time with the couple we lived with. There were little annoyances but I really enjoyed living with them.

 

[VanM]

It's a good thing that I have a small circle of like-minded friends that I can hang with. I try to practice isolation for a short period of time, but then the social creature in me yearns for some interaction with society. I try to reach out every now and then so I don't talk exclusively to myself. Anything taken to extreme can be very unhealthy, I think.

 

[KW2496]

I couldn't wait to move out when I was living with my family. When I did move out I went straight to living with my boyfriend. I realized that it's not much better. I would like to live alone at some point, especially when I realize I've never had that experience before. Other than my dog, I find living with others quite difficult. Although, I don't have anything to compare it to except when I am at home and everyone else it out.

 

[misszerable]

I have only tried living with other people when I had to live in a dorm for six months during my board exams review. It was difficult because I had to put up with the habits and attitude of different people. Otherwise, I was perfectly happy living with my family. My siblings and I now have our own family and I have been living with my son for several years. His father and I had to part ways because we can't stand each other. It was a case of irreconcilable differences. We had a long term boyfriend-girlfriend relationship but it's true that you only get to know a person when you are living on the same roof with him/her. The relationship got worse over time and life is too short to be wasted by living with people you don't really want to be with.

 

[Petesede]

I've lived with my family, and I couldn't wait to leave, I lived with fellow students at college in dorms, I shared a flat with my brother and flatmates, and I have lived alone. Whatever the situation you have to learn to live with others and their habits. It can be so hard not to say anything when something irritates you, and you do things like put the toilet seat down and hope that they get it.
I do struggle to live with others, but I never let on. People think I am really easy going where I tolerate things deep down inside. Living alone was fine, but expensive and one day I hope to have that again, but if I find a partner I will have to compromise and get used to his habits. Now that is something I dread too.

I hate living with other people, which is probably one of the reasons I will never get married. I love freedom, I love waking up and saying I am going to do this... I am going there... I am eating ice cream for dinner.... The idea of someone looking at a clock and being angry because I am not there just doesn´t work for me. There are sacrifices, but I love being free.


The other part is that I am just a very self-aware person. I go out of my way not to bother other people. I don´t play loud music, I don´t hum or whistle, I wipe the equipment at the gym. I am very aware of what I am doing and how it affects people around me. I had a girlfriend over one time and she started clipping her fingernails during a tv show, and it annoyed me. LOL. yeah, i am not husband material.

 

[sidney]

I never had a problem when it comes to living with my family members before, except for my things being given away without my consent or my things being arranged when I don't want to. Nowadays, I do have a problem with living with my dad, and boy I wish I can get out asap! Adjusting to the personality conflicts are hard, so I have no choice but to just grin and bear it as I am still here.

 

[Ashley0323]

I have always had issues living with other people. For my fiance, it was different. We clicked when we first moved in together and when we wouldnt get along, we talk about it, fix the issue and move on. For anyone else, it was more difficult than that. It would go great for the first couple months then it would get bad. Everyone lives differently, and does different things in their lifestyle, and with both parties are paying for rent and bills, it becomes an issue when it comes to "rules".