Learning to let go

[SirJoe]

Learning to let go is a slow process. It is quite difficult but it is not impossible. We should let go everything that destroys our inner peace or takes away our happiness. Holding on won't help. It is very difficult to let go but as time passes one will automatically learn that we should do things that makes us happy' date=' we should surround ourselves with people who wants to be with us. Holding on to anything which is not good for us will always bring sorrow. We should realise what is worth holding on. [/quote']
I think if you learn how to change your priorities it becomes easier. Too often we want to finish things that aren't worth finishing and get into a real panic because of it. Once you step back and really look at the task at hand and release how important it will be for you, it becomes easier to step away from those tasks that aren't really worth finishing.

 

[misszerable]

Letting go is often not easy but most of the times, it's the best thing we can do for ourselves. My son's father was a childhood sweetheart, my first love, and my first serious relationship. We had a nice long relationship -10 years - before we decided we want to have a child. When we lived together, however, he showed his true colors and it wasn't all that bright. In the beginning, I tried to change him and his ways but I soon gave up because it's true, you can't teach old dogs new tricks. It was difficult to tell him that I am no longer happy with the relationship. I was thinking of what my family and my friends would say. After all, my parents disapproved of him but I fought hard for the relationship. I tried to hold on to the very last moment but when my own child was hurt by his abusive actions, I had to act and make sure that he won't be able to come near my child. So yeah, good riddance!

 

[Aree Wongwanlee]

Letting it go? I am not too sure whether I am doing it right. When something is over in my life, it's over. Totally. I don't want to go back to re-visit. Like my ex. I absolutely don't want to think about her. She's no longer in my life. What she does is none of my business. What happens to her is nothing to do with me. Is that the right way to let go?

 

[John Snort]

Change is inevitable. We may have plans and lots of stuff we intend to do but should life push us off-course then we must embrace the change — let go of the past and move on. It might appear like you may never get anything as good as what you had previously but you'll never find out if you don't let go. What is in the past is in the past. Leave it there and face the future with optimism. If you do, you'll realize that you'll be less anxious about anything. You won't be worried about the future nor fret about the past which will never come back. You'll be happy.

 

[VanM]

Letting go is a process that is best combined with time, as it heals most wounds. Acceptance may be easier said than done, but it is a key element to alleviate if not totally eliminate the stress and anxiety associated with letting go. I find that closing a forgettable chapter in my life can be a daunting task, but the more I am willing to pick up the pieces and start anew, the faster the healing becomes.

 

[fuzyon]

Letting go can be interpreted in a lot of ways, one of the most important things I've learned earlier in life is that the past doesn't matter at all. Things happen, you'll learn from them and then move on with your life. Focusing on the bad stuff that happened is pointless, you should always look ahead to the future and let go of anything that's holding you back.

 

[x0xLikeMex0x]

I've found that if you believe that letting go is the best option, it's easier. You have to have inner debate why letting go is better and what would happen when you don't let go.


Yeah, you can let go of different things and those things should be processed on their own way. For example how I managed to let go of my grief was thinking that the person who died wouldn't like me to be sad over them, and that I should cherish the life I have without them. I've also let go of some friendships (I call it "cut them off"), because it was one-man job to keep the friendship working, while it should've been team work.

 

[LovelyLiz]

I think the key to successfully letting go is concentrating on the good things ahead. So it can be tempting to hold onto hope of a potential relationship working out, but the positivity of having another relationship to invest in can make it easier to let go of the one that had been slipping through your fingers for months.