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[Annaben0455]

Hello,
My name is Anna. I struggle with anxiety and depression and I am currently taking remeron to help my insomnia due to my anxiety. I have a story to share because my anxiety is through the roof over this and I can’t do anything but focus on this. I’m worried I may sound dumb for my story and I apologize but I’m close to having a panic attack over it so I thought I would share it here. So I went to the dentist to get a composite veneer because of the shape of my tooth and the dentist did a horrible job and I said it was bad but she rushed me out and said she’d fix it next week. It looks so bad and I’m having thoughts like “what if it will stay like this forever” “what if she can’t fix it and I’m left with it”, “what if she fixes it and then it chips”. I’m worried she won’t be able to fix it since she did such a bad job the first time. These what ifs are driving me crazy and I can’t focus on anything but thinking that I’ll be stuck with it forever. Any support would be amazing, I just want to feel like I’ll be okay..

 

[triceps]

Hi and welcome Annaben. Anxiety can make us fixate on just about any ailment or situation. Your fixation is very important to you and it certainly doesn't sound "dumb". The only thing you can try to do is not let it ruin your life at this point. There's nothing, not a single thing you can do until next week to see how things turn out. I hope you'll be pleasantly surprised and will realize that all of the panicky feelings you currently have were unfounded. The "what ifs" are the scourge of anxiety sufferers and are very hard to control. Again, welcome and we're rooting for you.

 

[Hurt&Hopeful]

Hi and welcome! Thanks for sharing with us. It's not dumb at all - all of us here have struggled with thoughts like that, so you're not alone. I had knee surgery about 2 weeks ago, and I'm healing really well. However, my leg is still really weak and bruised and lumpy, and I keep having these panicky thoughts about whether or not it will ever get back to normal. What if I walk strange now, what if I can't bend it all the way, what if it stays swollen forever...There's no truth to any of it, but it stays there in my mind and it's hard to focus on anything else.

Like triceps said, in a few days you will have it fixed and hopefully the panic will let up a little bit. In the meantime, I'm so glad you're here!

 

[guitarman65]

Welcome Anna!
You're in the right place!
You may be surprised that most of us in here have one of the same anxiety symptoms that you do...overthinking.
We seem to disect every aspect of a situation until it becomes "worry" and once it becomes worry, that starts the process. We overthink things until we find anything negative, and run with it, no matter how unsupported it is, it becomes worry, or worse...fear.
I have, and still do, have actual dialect with myself before talking to certain people about things. This happens especially when i visit my dr. I "go over" what i say to her, and what she might say to me to make sure i say the right thing! Sounds very strange, i know, but i do it sometimes. Its a result of my overthinking.
Im sure that your situation is similar to mine. It really is worrying when you need not...but we as anxiety sufferers, cant help it sometimes it seems. It sounds like your tooth issue has a very high chance of being taken care of, but i know you will still worry about it until its fixed...like we all would do too.
Keep in touch and let us know when you get it repaired...(notice i said "when" and not if) theres a hint there

 

[Rosy]

Welcome Anna!
You're in the right place!
You may be surprised that most of us in here have one of the same anxiety symptoms that you do...overthinking.
We seem to disect every aspect of a situation until it becomes "worry" and once it becomes worry, that starts the process. We overthink things until we find anything negative, and run with it, no matter how unsupported it is, it becomes worry, or worse...fear.
I have, and still do, have actual dialect with myself before talking to certain people about things. This happens especially when i visit my dr. I "go over" what i say to her, and what she might say to me to make sure i say the right thing! Sounds very strange, i know, but i do it sometimes. Its a result of my overthinking.
Im sure that your situation is similar to mine. It really is worrying when you need not...but we as anxiety sufferers, cant help it sometimes it seems. It sounds like your tooth issue has a very high chance of being taken care of, but i know you will still worry about it until its fixed...like we all would do too.
Keep in touch and let us know when you get it repaired...(notice i said "when" and not if) theres a hint there

You are in the right place. We all suffer from what you are going through. I have a dr. appmt tomorrow with my psychiatrist and I am having conversations with myself what I am going to say and what he is going to say. I'm telling myself to just let it go. Not sure I am listening. This is a good site and the people here are all in the same boat and will do all they can to help you and to let you know you are not alone.

 

[prismpower]

I'm sorry you had to go through that, nobody deserves to be treated that way. Professionals can sadly often be heartless and egotistical like that (only thinking about their next paycheck and not the human being in front of them), she should have been more considerate to your worries and feelings. Not that you should sue or anything, but that is really exactly why society has lawyers and other organizations to keep doctors in check, otherwise malpractice would run amuck and they would just always get away with it.

My cousin got facial surgery once and the doctor messed up a nerve she wasn't supposed to and the entire left side of her face was paralyzed for months when it shouldn't have been. Thankfully she got it fixed. It took weeks of appointments and having to get these special shots though, to reverse what the doctor did.

Also remember the psychiatrist is just a person with their own bias/flaws/sins, despite years of schooling and greater expertise. Not that your particular psychiatrist would ever do this, but there is a chance he will look down on you because of his high paying job or whatever. Happened to me before, as when I was younger I saw quite a few psychiatrists and psychologists. Managing anxiety is more of a thing we have to do ourselves, with the support of others who also know what it's like. He could be very good, have perfect bedside manners and prescribe the right meds, but it is mostly a self care thing.

In my experience a lot of therapists will treat you like a circus dog jumping through the hoop. If you for whatever reason, refuse to jump through the hoops they set for you, their polite veneer may fade and they can get really nasty. Their true colors will show- and it will be revealed that they only pursued the occupation to be cruel to vulnerable people in private to make themselves feel superior. A good therapist should have empathy/patience for you, even when you don't jump through a hoop they give you- as you are still an independent person capable of making their own decisions even if you do have anxiety or any other mental condition. You're not a dog jumping through hoops for a treat, but a complex independent human. The mental health organizations often forgets that.

It's wise before seeing any professional to review them online. Nowadays I only see doctors who got high ratings from others, or I heard via word of mouth that they were good/competent. Not trying to completely blame your dentist or anything, but yes when we have anxiety issues and people treat us this way, it's not good or right. I would try not to overly blame yourself (I have anxiety) or your dentist (She wronged me) for what happened, but see if you can get it fixed and move on, and then go from there. It's definitely not right what happened to you but being attached to it or replaying it in your head probably isn't healthy. Anxiety is often based on very logical, reasonable circumstances that spiral downward to very negative fantasies.

Sorry for the lengthy post, its 1 am and I'm having a bit of trouble sleeping. Need to try again.

 

[triceps]

I'm sorry you had to go through that, nobody deserves to be treated that way. Professionals can sadly often be heartless and egotistical like that (only thinking about their next paycheck and not the human being in front of them), she should have been more considerate to your worries and feelings. Not that you should sue or anything, but that is really exactly why society has lawyers and other organizations to keep doctors in check, otherwise malpractice would run amuck and they would just always get away with it.

My cousin got facial surgery once and the doctor messed up a nerve she wasn't supposed to and the entire left side of her face was paralyzed for months when it shouldn't have been. Thankfully she got it fixed. It took weeks of appointments and having to get these special shots though, to reverse what the doctor did.

Also remember the psychiatrist is just a person with their own bias/flaws/sins, despite years of schooling and greater expertise. Not that your particular psychiatrist would ever do this, but there is a chance he will look down on you because of his high paying job or whatever. Happened to me before, as when I was younger I saw quite a few psychiatrists and psychologists. Managing anxiety is more of a thing we have to do ourselves, with the support of others who also know what it's like. He could be very good, have perfect bedside manners and prescribe the right meds, but it is mostly a self care thing.

In my experience a lot of therapists will treat you like a circus dog jumping through the hoop. If you for whatever reason, refuse to jump through the hoops they set for you, their polite veneer may fade and they can get really nasty. Their true colors will show- and it will be revealed that they only pursued the occupation to be cruel to vulnerable people in private to make themselves feel superior. A good therapist should have empathy/patience for you, even when you don't jump through a hoop they give you- as you are still an independent person capable of making their own decisions even if you do have anxiety or any other mental condition. You're not a dog jumping through hoops for a treat, but a complex independent human. The mental health organizations often forgets that.

It's wise before seeing any professional to review them online. Nowadays I only see doctors who got high ratings from others, or I heard via word of mouth that they were good/competent. Not trying to completely blame your dentist or anything, but yes when we have anxiety issues and people treat us this way, it's not good or right. I would try not to overly blame yourself (I have anxiety) or your dentist (She wronged me) for what happened, but see if you can get it fixed and move on, and then go from there. It's definitely not right what happened to you but being attached to it or replaying it in your head probably isn't healthy. Anxiety is often based on very logical, reasonable circumstances that spiral downward to very negative fantasies.

Sorry for the lengthy post, its 1 am and I'm having a bit of trouble sleeping. Need to try again.

Hi prismpower. I really liked your post as it included many helpful suggestions. The descriptions of professionals I felt were too harsh and too damning of the entire group. You depicted that so many were in their professions for the wrong reasons which leads to their incompetence. I absolutely agree that there are many incompetent therapists and doctors but I feel they are a much smaller slice of the entire group than you have portrayed. It reminded me of the generalization that all lawyers are money-grubbing scum. Like the medical professionals, there's a minority group of lawyers that are in their field for the wrong reasons and regularly take advantage of their clients.
I have been very lucky. Out of the numerous medical professionals I've had to deal with, they have each been professional although some better and more talented in their specialized field than others. Just some personal comments, I'm truly not trying to be critical. I'm sorry you've had to put up with such poor, unprofessional care.

 

[Rosy]

Back from my dr. visit and survived.. lol Have to admit I have been lucky to have good drs. too. I feel the same way Tricepts does. I feel for the people who aren't as lucky. I have had my 4 front teeth veneered. Had to go back twice till I felt comfortable with them. Thant's not unusual to have to go back. Annaben0455 Give it a while. I hope it turns out okay. Mine did but it took a while. Hoping for the best.