Kind of slipping rn

[Toasthead]

It’s been a while but my anxiety has once again brought me back here with a worry that I can’t discuss with my friend because it’s about him. So quick back story on my current situation, on the 4th of July I rekindled a friendship with an old high school buddy and now him and I are basically thick as thieves, we live practically down the street from each other so we hang out all the time. We like to just chill, play video games, and of course ingest copious amounts of weed. I know, I know, there’s mixed evidence for whether that helps or worsens anxiety, but for me it helps for the most part. Anyway, we usually hang at his house because his parents are so cool with it they started growing it themselves. They’re good people and I honestly spend more time with them than my own family because I can be myself around them. I don’t have to live up to any expectations or pretend I’m someone I’m not. However, being there all the time means that I witness a lot of their personal drama. I don’t want get into his family’s affairs, but there’s a lot of conflict in there family and lately there’s been a couple instances where his parents started taking out their frustrations on me. It’s made me super uncomfortable and really anxious whenever I’m there. It feels like they’re going to explode at any moment. The situation there is super volatile and it affects my friend a lot more because he’s grown up with it.

So here’s what made me start writing this, my friend and I were going to hang out today, but his parents were in a mood this morning so he had me wait until things had calmed down. Then he said they had to clean and to come over around 5-6, 6:30 rolls around and I ask him if it’s cool to come over yet and he said they were still cleaning and I haven’t heard anything from him since. At first I was annoyed, but now I realize something might be wrong with my friend, keep in mind I’m writing this at 9:50pm. Nothing too serious probably, he just likes to drive off to somewhere quiet for a few hours whenever his family fights and they’ve been fighting a lot lately.

I know I have a tendency to assume the worst, and if that is what happened it’s best I leave him alone, but I’m worried about him.


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[Cuchculan]

Maybe your friend is a bit embarressed about his parents. Ask yourself what you would do if it was your parents and you had a friend come over? He doesn't want to put you in a bad situation. Which I can well understand. I am guessing that is all it is. Maybe try and find somewhere else to go for a while. Not sure if he could come to your house? Plus ask yourself if you need to be around his parents if they are taken things out on you? That is not good at all. Even though it is a close friend, it is a place I would not want to go near for now. Maybe ask your parents if your friend can come visit for a few hours. Your friend might be just as happy to get away from his own parents.