Just venting about my extreme sadness

[suzzeeb]

So I have been dealing with an anxious depression for the last year and a half or so but doing ok more of the time lately. Monday, my dog Bella, who I have had for 8 years, suddenly collapsed and could not get up. My husband carried her to the car and took her to the vet. After a lot of testing they said she had a tumor on her heart that ruptured and she was bleeding. They said they could drain it but it would come back and it's not something she could survive for long, and we didn't want her to go through that and have the same thing happen again so we had her put to sleep. I had absolutely no idea how hard that would hit me. I am back to feeling completely depressed. I'm sad all day. I know it's only been a few days but I guess I didn't realize how devastated I would be. I was so used to her being around me every day and she knew my routine down to the last detail. I can't even drive by the park where we used to walk because it hurts too bad. I know it will get better but it almost feels as painful as when I have lost people in my life. I don't think I can get another dog again because it hurts too much to lose them.

I'm sure a lot of you have experienced the loss of a fur baby and have gone through the same thing and understand the pain. I have lost other pets but years ago so the pain of losing them has faded, though not gone entirely. I just miss my baby!!

 

[MATD]

Your feelings are so normal. Just allow yourself to feel them and mourn for your “baby.” As with all tragedies, we do eventually get back to functioning better. The loss of a loved one, whether furry or not, is always hard, simply because we loved them, they were part of us. Give yourself permission to feel bad during this time, it’s ok.

 

[suzzeeb]

Your feelings are so normal. Just allow yourself to feel them and mourn for your “baby.” As with all tragedies, we do eventually get back to functioning better. The loss of a loved one, whether furry or not, is always hard, simply because we loved them, they were part of us. Give yourself permission to feel bad during this time, it’s ok.

Thank you.

 

[am6985]

I am sorry for the loss of your dog. I am a huge animal lover. I know how hard it can be to have one die. It’s never easy. Just let your emotions be. It’s ok to be sad.


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[suzzeeb]

I am sorry for the loss of your dog. I am a huge animal lover. I know how hard it can be to have one die. It’s never easy. Just let your emotions be. It’s ok to be sad.


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Thank you. It was totally unexpected so I had no time to prepare myself, not that that would make much difference I guess. Yeah it's just hard.

 

[am6985]

It pretty much sucks. Like it was said above, it doesn’t matter if it’s human or animal. When we loose something we love it hurts. It’s ok to hurt and be sad. I just try not to let my hurt or sadness define me. Easier said then done.


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[suzzeeb]

It pretty much sucks. Like it was said above, it doesn’t matter if it’s human or animal. When we loose something we love it hurts. It’s ok to hurt and be sad. I just try not to let my hurt or sadness define me. Easier said then done.


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Yeah it does suck. I guess it will just take time to adjust.

 

[ThankfulJen]

I am very sorry and losing a loved one, fur or not, is heart wrenching. It is so understandable. Again, very sorry for the loss of your precious fur baby.

 

[suzzeeb]

I am very sorry and losing a loved one, fur or not, is heart wrenching. It is so understandable. Again, very sorry for the loss of your precious fur baby.

Thank you -

 

[Camden]

Hey Suzzeeb, I’m so sorry to hear about all of this. I know losing a loved pet is so devastating. They really are like family.

I can remember as a child getting anxious about our dog when he was getting old. I’d cry and be stressed every time my family and I would go out of town. When we finally did have to say goodbye to our dog in 2006, I was sad for days. I was also relieved and in a way, happy that he was no longer in pain (he had arthritis and vision loss). I’ve never wanted a pet of my own because of the terrible experience of having to say goodbye with their shorter lifespans. With that said I can totally sympathize and see how legitimately difficult these emotions are for you.

Right now it’s best to just be kind to yourself and find comfort in your day-to-day life. The grieving process is hard, so please take it easy, do something that makes you smile, and when you’re ready, maybe reach out to your friends and family. Memories last forever, so remember how your dog brought so much fun and joy to your life. It will all be okay and I hope this sad time passes for you.

Camden

 

[suzzeeb]

Hey Suzzeeb, I’m so sorry to hear about all of this. I know losing a loved pet is so devastating. They really are like family.

I can remember as a child getting anxious about our dog when he was getting old. I’d cry and be stressed every time my family and I would go out of town. When we finally did have to say goodbye to our dog in 2006, I was sad for days. I was also relieved and in a way, happy that he was no longer in pain (he had arthritis and vision loss). I’ve never wanted a pet of my own because of the terrible experience of having to say goodbye with their shorter lifespans. With that said I can totally sympathize and see how legitimately difficult these emotions are for you.

Right now it’s best to just be kind to yourself and find comfort in your day-to-day life. The grieving process is hard, so please take it easy, do something that makes you smile, and when you’re ready, maybe reach out to your friends and family. Memories last forever, so remember how your dog brought so much fun and joy to your life. It will all be okay and I hope this sad time passes for you.

Camden

Thank you Camden. I don't think I will get another pet. We have always had dogs, but it is getting too hard to say goodbye. I know it will get easier.

 

[Sweet T]

You are grieving for a beloved pet. Of course you are sad. Animals bring us unconditional love. Be gentle with yourself. This is a big loss. Take care.