just some stuff I wanted to get off my chest

[hiraeth511]

My dad is considering taking me and my brother on vacation in another state.
There’s an uncountable amount of reasons why I don’t want to go.
My dad makes fun of me. When my mom divorced him, I thought I wouldn’t have to deal with his weight-shaming crap anymore. Apparently, I was wrong. Just recently he visited and called me fat.
He doesn’t know how to handle my brother. I’m not sure if he knows how to handle me, but definitely not my brother. My brother makes A LOT of fun of me. The only reason he doesn’t do it as much as he wants to is because my mom is around. But my dad doesn’t know how to stop him. All he does is say that he should stop. That’s not going to do anything, especially to someone like my brother. So then the little argument turns into a huge fight involving a lot of screaming.
He says yes to everything. I’m not sure if it’s because he wants us to like him more than we like our mom, or if it’s because he doesn’t know how to say no. But unlike most kids my age, I really don’t want a parent who says yes to everything. I know I’ll be spoiled. My brother took advantage of what my dad does and now he’s way too spoiled.
Most of all, sometimes he even teams up with my brother in making fun of me about my weight and appearance. If I say one thing wrong, I’m bombarded with criticism until I get tired of it and leave the room.
Thanks for reading.

 

[janemariesayed]

My dad is considering taking me and my brother on vacation in another state.
There’s an uncountable amount of reasons why I don’t want to go.
My dad makes fun of me. When my mom divorced him, I thought I wouldn’t have to deal with his weight-shaming sh*t anymore. Apparently, I was wrong. Just recently he visited and called me fat.
He doesn’t know how to handle my brother. I’m not sure if he knows how to handle me, but definitely not my brother. My brother makes A LOT of fun of me. The only reason he doesn’t do it as much as he wants to is because my mom is around. But my dad doesn’t know how to stop him. All he does is say that he should stop. That’s not going to do anything, especially to someone like my brother. So then the little argument turns into a huge fight involving a lot of screaming.
He says yes to everything. I’m not sure if it’s because he wants us to like him more than we like our mom, or if it’s because he doesn’t know how to say no. But unlike most kids my age, I really don’t want a parent who says yes to everything. I know I’ll be spoiled. My brother took advantage of what my dad does and now he’s way too spoiled.
Most of all, sometimes he even teams up with my brother in making fun of me about my weight and appearance. If I say one thing wrong, I’m bombarded with criticism until I get tired of it and leave the room.
Thanks for reading.

Oh dear, it is such a shame that you are going through this in your early years.

Remember this. At the moment you don't have a choice because of your age but the way you are living is just temporary. Throw yourself into your education. Do your very, very best to ignore them. Once your education is over you can get yourself a good job and leave home. It will then be up to you who you see in your family.

When they make fun of you just walk away. Go and sit in the lounge or your bedroom, just don't give them your face. Don't bite back to their jibes. Have pity on them in your mind.

Go on holiday to this other state. Take in the scenery, and enjoy the difference in culture. Read up on the area before you go which will make it more interesting for you.

Don't bother to make conversation with them. Don't give them your face. Leave the room as soon as the first comment hits you. Don't cry. Or don't let them see or hear you cry. Hold back those tears, and hold back that anger. Channel it in a different direction and throw yourself into your education and your own interests. When you need to talk and need support, come on here and chat with us. We are always here for you.

 

[Concernedgal]

@janemariesayed is right .
There's just a couple of things that I want to add.
These men are jerks and do you know why? ?
It's because they have low self esteem themselves.
This is probably 1 of the reasons your parents divorced. Deal with it for now but, when your 18 ......leave.
But, it's my personal experience that tells me that you should tell them off.
Now normally. .I would discourage any type of disrespect torwards your father but....don't just sit there and take it either.
Next time they hurt your feelings. ..you should tell them that as soon as you turn 18. ..you never want to see them again .
This may make them think twice before they start to insult you yet again.
But, if you don't want to do that...ignore them.

 

[janemariesayed]

Loving your family does not mean that you have to stay in touch with them. What matters is that you wish them well. Your weight problem is more than likely because of the trauma and upset that you have endured because of your parents break up and those younger year problems. They are making your emotions worse by making fun of you.

Remember to come on here for support hunny.