Just hate the mornings

[Guest]

I just had to post this because in the morning, I just lay there knowing that I have to get up, but cannot face the day. My stomach churns just thinking of facing the day ahead. I have an 8 year old that I have to get up for school, so I have to force myself up. I have been taking prozac for a few weeks now, and really have noticed nothing yet. I have general depression and anxiety. I have battled this all of my life. Sometimes I just wonder if I will ever be happy again. I have a good life, so I just can't understand why I am not happy.

 

[Guest]

Mornings can be really hard! I have been unemployed over a year and sometimes find it really hard to get going, especially with med side effects. I got myself an affirmations CD and on my rougher mornings I listen to it before I get up. Then I go exercise. I find that once I get going I can generally force myself through the sludge and do what I have to do. It takes awhile for Prozac to kick in. Don't blame yourself for not being happy. There's a lot of things going on with your body biochemically as well as the challenges that life offers us.


Pamper yourself. Do nice things for yourself. Be good to yourself.

 

[Guest]

I cannot really relate to depression, but just know you are not alone and there is help. If Prozac does not work, it is highly likely you will find something that does.


I know that when I have anxiety, mornings are rough for me. It In fact, even without anxiety, mornings are difficult, but I just try to focus on just today and just the short term part of the day. Break your day up in chuncks. Focus on just getting to work then focus on the next task at hand and so on. I tend to have a very structured day so it may be easier for me to do this then others.


Hope you feel better.

 

[Guest]

I can totally relate. My anxiety used to be soo bad in the mornings coupled with depression, I had to literally take baby steps to just get dressed and into the car. Then I would call my mom and cry because it just seemed soo hard to get going.


I'm much better now but I can still relate and feel the mornings are worse for me also. I'm also taking Prozac, 10 mg.


My life is not bad either and I was JUST telling my fiance that I wonder if I will ever be happy because I just don't feel it. Why I wonder? I let the smallest things bring me down to a rut. It's terrible to do.

 

[Guest]

One thing I'm finding out the more I worry about being happy the less happy I am! I am trying to train myself to recognize moments when I am happy and try to live in the present happy moment. So much of my time is spent worrying about the past and dwelling on the future. When you are depressed you feel like you will never be happy again.


I hope you will feel better soon.

 

[Guest]

I know what you mean about the mornings, it's a horrible feeling..you wakeup and then you have to face the day. I have struggled with anxiety and depression for many, many years, so i sort know how you feel. Its really baffling when life seems quite happy and yet, you still have anxiety and depression. This may help or it might not. Don't fight it, just alow it and go with the feeling. try and find what the true thoughts are that are creating your anxiety and depression. You might have to dig quite deep, but its worth it.

 

[Countryhalli]

I have a terrible time getting going in the mornings. I go to bed around 11:30, since I get off work at 10 every night I have to take a bit of time to wind down. Even going to bed then when I wake up generally around 8:30-9 depending on when my son gets up. There have been times where I just cannot pry myself out of bed, and I just lay there while my son says mom quite a few times then I get up. I go through our morning routine with him and he starts playing with his toys and what not and I just curl up on the couch and cannot seem to get going to do other housework like normal. This usually goes on till about noon or so, then its like I wake up and can do everything I need to and then some for the day. I did try taking a depression med for it but that ended up litterally making me sleep all the time, I was late for work, could not get up and take care of my son or anything so it was a matter of a week and I stopped taking it. Hopefully this is just a stage we go through and we will grow out of it, people go through different stages through their lives, even different times, so maybe this for some people is a stage.

 

[Alex]

I've never been a morning person in regards to people speaking to me. I can get up, but I have to have space. Even at college I would limit contact and hated morning classes, and never did well with them because of it. I guess in some ways I dread the day when I know I have so many things to sort out, but if it's a relaxing day then I don't feel the pressure and I am okay. That's why I prefer evenings as there is no pressure for the immediate future.

 

[Petesede]

I just had to post this because in the morning' date=' I just lay there knowing that I have to get up, but cannot face the day. My stomach churns just thinking of facing the day ahead. I have an 8 year old that I have to get up for school, so I have to force myself up. I have been taking prozac for a few weeks now, and really have noticed nothing yet. I have general depression and anxiety. I have battled this all of my life. Sometimes I just wonder if I will ever be happy again. I have a good life, so I just can't understand why I am not happy.[/quote']
Don´t overthink it. Just think about the first thing you have to do. Then when that is done think about the next thing you have to do. Another piece of advice is to do as much as possible the night before. I always find like during commericals are a good time to lay clothes out for the next day, get the food together for breakfast so it is fast. Do everything you can the night before to make getting your kid to school as easy as possible the next day.

 

[HappyKoi]

Prozac can take awhile. Sometimes it can make some symptoms worse. You might want to talk with your doctor about your medication on your next visit.


The fact that you can get up and help your kids get ready for school is good. It is hard to get up and do things some days, especially when you've been struggling with this your whole life. It's a chronic illness, just like any other, and there are going to be good days and bad days. Mornings can be hard because it seems you have the whole day ahead, and facing all that can be pretty scary. What worked for me is making a morning routine- get up, wash my face, get dressed, get my kid to school, and then if I wanted to do anything else, even go back to bed, I could. When you do a bit of self-care, even if it doesn't seem like much, you're telling yourself that you're worth it and you can do this. Be patient with yourself. It's okay not to be happy sometimes, even if you do have a "good life". You have a right to your feelings, whatever they may be.

 

[Ashley0323]

Yes, I am the WORST in the mornings!! When I know I have to be up at a certain time, I will set my alarm an HOUR before my initial time, so I literally have an entire hour to lay in bed tofull wake up. When I am finally up and around though, I am go-go-go all day long. Those mornings though, they are ROUGH! I feel for you!

 

[Humphrey247]

I understand what you're going through. It's happened to me a few times and God knows how many times I've woken up around noon. You could try a technique called temptation bundling. It's where you combine a task you don't want to do with one you feel like doing, for me that's general web browsing. It made it easier and less stressful for me to get up in the mornings.

 

[Petesede]

Yes' date=' I am the WORST in the mornings!! When I know I have to be up at a certain time, I will set my alarm an HOUR before my initial time, so I literally have an entire hour to lay in bed tofull wake up. When I am finally up and around though, I am go-go-go all day long. Those mornings though, they are ROUGH! I feel for you![/quote']
You see, I am the opposite, for me what works the best is to jump out of bed in zombie mode. I usually have woken up, made my bed, started the coffee and I don´t really wake up until I am in the shower and only then I say ´holy crap, I am awake´ It really is the same with working out.. if I think about working out then I don´t look forward to it. My secret is to just have a time ( 5:30pm) when I know it is time to go to the gym and I just do not think about it. I am at the gym before I realize I am about to work out.. I just don´t think about it, I do it by instinct.

 

[sidney]

Hang in there, who knows, better days will come. I have no experience with depression, but if the meds that you're taking aren't making you feel better and happy, then I would suggest that you talk to your doctor so that he can give you a different one. Also, surrounding yourself with good company and positive people can make a difference in your mood.

 

[John Snort]

There usually is a reason why you find anything to be unpleasant. I've heard of morning depression which makes people hate mornings. Fact though is most people don't just hate mornings, they hate them because it's the beginning of the day and it's the stressful things they'll have to deal with that make them feel that way. If it's your work making you feel stressed, you need to find ways to make it less stressful— you'll find out that you don't hate mornings that much.

 

[clair02]

I think that it's a belief that you have that you are not happy. As you say yourself, there is absolutely no reason for you to be un-happy, so it must all be in the mind. The good news is, a belief is just a thought you keep thinking, so it's very easy to change it. Try affirmations. These take some days to start seeing the effects, but it worked wonders for me. I used to repeat to myself over and over 1000s of times everyday, "Everything always works out for me!" and now, I believe it, and that belief has helped me make the most of my life, especially when I was dealing with depression and anxiety. You could try an affirmation that helps you to feel happy, maybe " I am so happy and grateful now that I feel good every morning."


When we repeat something over and over again to ourselves, soon the mind starts to believe it and acts on it. Try it. It will totally transform your life. Good luck..

 

[Panic57]

Mornings are the worst because I know that I have to deal with a list of things that I rather not. I have to drag myself out of bed with the reminder that if I don't get out of bed, I won't have one at the end of the month. I usually take two hours to really wake up mentally after I physically wake up. By then I'm on my third cup of coffee, which helps.

 

[djanx]

I just had to post this because in the morning' date=' I just lay there knowing that I have to get up, but cannot face the day. My stomach churns just thinking of facing the day ahead. I have an 8 year old that I have to get up for school, so I have to force myself up. I have been taking prozac for a few weeks now, and really have noticed nothing yet. I have general depression and anxiety. I have battled this all of my life. Sometimes I just wonder if I will ever be happy again. I have a good life, so I just can't understand why I am not happy.[/quote']
Well, I can't say I disagree with you there. I don't exactly love mornings either. But, I have a set routine that helps me get through the first few minutes of groggyness. Once I get through that, I generally power through the whole day without a hitch.


Also, I feel that you don't like something about your life. If you don't have a lovable job to look forward, get one. If you want a mission, get one - something that will get you out of the bed every morning. For example, I feel strongly about certain social issues. So, I spend my spare time writing to congressmen/women about helping pass legislation related to that. I know it sounds like a no-brainer - nothing ever really gets done so why even try. But, its not just to tackle the social issues, its also because I feel empowered when I do that.


So, find your mission and that will motivate you to love your mornings.

 

[SirJoe]

There are morning people and night people, if there is something that is bothering you and you are not a morning person, it's natural that you would feel this way. My best advice is to try and find something that you enjoy doing during the day and look forward to doing it. It will make the mornings that much better.

 

[lexinonomous]

Waking up in the morning leads me to sulk. I hate waking up in the early morning, unless I'm going somewhere fun like Disneyland. The mornings to me are a reminder that I have a ton of things to do. If I am waking up early, it usually means that something needs to be done and that I have a few things to stress about. I also tend to be very grumpy during the day. I am more of a night person, so I will stay up until around five in the morning and wake up in the afternoon. I would much rather spend my time sleeping throughout the day, rather than getting things done in the daylight.