Among all my anxieties I’ve been in love with a video game character for years now sometime I could handle it but recently it has taking over my life. I find him perfect in looks and personality. I’ve been getting stomachache over him cause fans are saying he’s gay I don’t know if he is or not the game never confirmed anything so far and it really bothers me and I obsess about wanting him to be with his friend who is a character I kinda resemble and i get mad if anybody don’t like them together. I know this sounds crazy especially since I’m in my early 30s this character I’ve liked since I was 19. I get emotional about him and worst part is I want to find a real guy and since I’m getting older i want a relationship before I’m too old but now after him I just don’t find real life guys attractive anymore i also see all them as horrible guys. I just don’t know what to do anyone have any advice
In love with a fictional male character
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Honest answer? I can see how such a thing could happen at a certain age. But there comes a time in life were people have to move on from such things. Why is it still happening? I would assume because in real life you never had a relationship. Thus, this is your relationship. Reminds me of the song ; At 17 ' By Janis Ian. Creating lovers on the phone. To make it look like she has a lover. Only with her she saw herself as ugly and not very popular. So she had to create her lovers. But time to work out fact from fiction. This character is fictional. I am sure if you meet somebody in real life, things will begin to change for you. Certainly don't base who you are looking for based on the character. As they are always made to be over the top good looking. Bit too high of a bar to set for real life.
That’s true but I never thought of him as a boyfriend or anything I just liked him and I hate that I compare him to real guys I don’t want to but I cannot change my feelings I don’t play the game anymore either and he’s still my thoughts
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Until you experience the real thing, he will always be your crush. That is why you still like him. Because you have never had the real thing. Bit like people who spend all their time on the net. That is their life. Most don't know any other kind of life. I am sure in time you will meet somebody. Things will change.
You have the power, to go out there and get yourself a partner its all in your hands. You might need to make the first move as guys get nervous talking the girls naturally. You would have to be pretty impressive physically speaking for guys to approach you.