I'm new here

[LuddeMax]

Hi all,

I'm new here. I came across this website whilst looking for help online.

I've had some anxiety problems in the past, But have only been more apparent recently. About a year and a half ago I split up from my wife. We have 2 kids. Have been suffering with depression also.

I used to enjoy social events, drinking with friends and cud even spark up conversations with strangers.

Now I struggle with all of the above, I just feel like I have to put up a brave face all the time so people don't feel or see I don't actually want to be there. And have to dip in n out of convosation for air etc.

I have a new girlfriend who has been v understanding altho I feel I'm starting to put too much on her. I tell her how Im feeling but the more I tell her the more I seem to make things worse.

I. E. She is a bridesmaid at a wedding shortly and I'm supposed to be going. I only know a couple people there. Im only. Going to the evening reception but I keep thinking what if I speak to the wrong person, what if I turn up and she has. Had too much to drink and is dragged away by. Friends n family. And I'm left alone. I'm taking my 2.childen with me, which shud keep me busy and give me an excuse to leave early.

I'm open to any criticism. Just felt like I need to tell someone other than someone who is close to (if that makes sence). The thought of not going have crossed my. Mind so many times, but my kids are looking forward to going.

 

[Rinka]

Hi all,

I'm new here. I came across this website whilst looking for help online.

I've had some anxiety problems in the past, But have only been more apparent recently. About a year and a half ago I split up from my wife. We have 2 kids. Have been suffering with depression also.

I used to enjoy social events, drinking with friends and cud even spark up conversations with strangers.

Now I struggle with all of the above, I just feel like I have to put up a brave face all the time so people don't feel or see I don't actually want to be there. And have to dip in n out of convosation for air etc.

I have a new girlfriend who has been v understanding altho I feel I'm starting to put too much on her. I tell her how Im feeling but the more I tell her the more I seem to make things worse.

I. E. She is a bridesmaid at a wedding shortly and I'm supposed to be going. I only know a couple people there. Im only. Going to the evening reception but I keep thinking what if I speak to the wrong person, what if I turn up and she has. Had too much to drink and is dragged away by. Friends n family. And I'm left alone. I'm taking my 2.childen with me, which shud keep me busy and give me an excuse to leave early.

I'm open to any criticism. Just felt like I need to tell someone other than someone who is close to (if that makes sence). The thought of not going have crossed my. Mind so many times, but my kids are looking forward to going.

Hi welcome to the community, great to have you here.
I understand that you fear, that you start to annoy your new girlfriend, if you tell her how you feel.
I think however, that it is good that you tell her about your anxiety, it’s important for her to understand.
Also it is good that you make an effort to help yourself, with writing here, but also with going to the wedding reception.
Bare in mind, that she has asked you because you are important to her. She just wants to enjoy herself with you.
Explain to her that it will be hard for you, but go. She will see that you are making an effort for her, which will mean a lot.
I wish you all the best and please share more, especially if you went

 

[LuddeMax]

Thanks for your reply.

After posting it I felt much better. And just told my girlfriend that if she wants me there then I will go. And won't keep mentioning about it as its not long away.

Things where much better until later on and we ended up having an argument about things

 

[Rinka]

Thanks for your reply.

After posting it I felt much better. And just told my girlfriend that if she wants me there then I will go. And won't keep mentioning about it as its not long away.

Things where much better until later on and we ended up having an argument about things

Oh sorry to hear about that.
I hope you were able to resolve your arguments?
How are you now?
Any news on regards to the wedding?