I want to move on

[steffynonimous]

I'm having a hard time to communicate, trust, believe... and hope to my husband... it's been 3 months since the incidents that happened between us... I caught him cheating on me... because of what i believed about his character that he's some kinda introvert person...I used to always understand his actions towards me.. but after finding out his doing... and we have talk about it.. we have sort of made some compromise... still, i am having a hard time... even i tried to talk about it with him... i know, he's getting irritated with me now that i keep doubting him... i know i am suffocating him because i always over thinks everything now.. but how can i do it?...how can i possibly moved on?... well, lately he is very busy with his work... plus he have this another sideline that he wants me to support him... well i am supporting him already tho.. but sometimes i can't help not to wonder if he's really busy with work or he's busy with someone else again and i just don't know?.... we only got some time to be together every weekends so during weekdays, were sort kinda of LDR... GOSH! I ALWAYS pray to God to always keep me in my faith but i always feel anxious... even how hard i try to distract myself... its still hard. specially now that my husband feels like im the worst... instead i get a support,... he's setting aside what im feeling... we do talks, but not so openly... because he's now avoiding any topic that will lead me to over think of him again...

 

[PieFan]

Hi @steffynonimous Sorry you went through this betrayal, it will take time to trust your husband again. He needs to accept responsibility and keep his irritation with the process to himself! You are equal within the relationship and he's the one who undermined it. It may well be inconvenient for his work but you need time to process your feelings and recover, and that is okay.

its still hard. specially now that my husband feels like im the worst... instead i get a support,... he's setting aside what im feeling

It sounds like you would benefit from some counseling, separately then together.

A husband and wife need to value and cherish each other I think. Glad you pray, it helps me too. Does your husband have a spiritual faith too?

Sending you love.

 

[Cuchculan]

@Jenjen Maybe you can both swap stories.

@steffynonimous here is another post similar to your own post. I have tagged the writer of that post above. Maybe you can help each other out. Or even just talk to each other. See how each other is feeling.

https://www.anxietycommunity.com/index.php?threads/life-has-gotten-bad.13818/