I sometimes feel like I HAVE to bottle my emotions

[2manybottles]

I've had a problem with bottling my emotions sice I was young, whenever I cried or got mad or upset my mother would get upset with me. The summer before grade 8 I nearly attempted suicide, and a year later I told my mom about it. She asked me why I did what I did, I told her I was depressed and all she said was "Don't be" and it was never brought up again. I was bullied a lot as a kid, and whenever I told my mom she never did anything about it, or even help me feel better. She was really busy when I was a kid, so I don't blame her for being emotionally unavailable. However it's lead to a lot of problems for me. I have trouble telling people close to me when something's wrong, I can't bring myself to cry in front of anyone even when I have every reason to be, and I feel as though I need to bottle up my anger and sadness because it only makes everyone around me upset. I'm currently having that kind of problem right now. I was having trouble getting ahold of a tax agency, and got really frustrated. I got so frustrated that my roommate had to leave the room, she even said "I can't be around so much emotion." It solidified my feelings of having to bottle my emotions to keep everyone else happy. It's an over reaction, I know that. My roommate is my best friend and more than willing to listen if I'm having problems, but it's still bothering me that me getting stressed and frustrated over tax information got her so upset. I don't want to make her upset, and now I feel like it would have been better if I had just bottled it up like I used to.

 

[PRguru_cfj]

I still have that problem as you do and I dis a none successful attempt about a month or two ago. Iteied mixing alchohol and cough syrup. Thank god it only made me REALLY drowsy.Due to my mistrust of people from middle to high school. I started to hold this grudge and mistrust of people. No I am in vollage working on my Bachelors degree and I have a hard time controlling my anxiety and anger over grades and the future. I was always bullied for not fighting back. When I did burst open. I became a monster and only made people hate me and made my brother and sister mistrust me. Now I am a young adult and slowly working on it. Last year I finally open up and I was a crying wreak for my dad and he just took it and just hugged me. He gave me a talk and reminded all the thing he and alot other people love about me. I knowcits a bit corny but letting the pressure out little by little help and some hobbies might to. I wouldn't want anyone holding up thier anger and turn into a pessimistic jerk l was or trying not to stay. Just give your roomie the facts in calm manner and for the tax problem I would advise you see an expert. Usually I get someone else to help with that. But more importantly before that you need to some how let go all that tension. I let it all out at night and I cry and curse myself and let all my bad thoughts out. Bug I know if my luck with this is not great, but I need to keep pushing my self for one single purpose. I need to control my emotions before I can control my life. I know it's hard and I know the feeling when no body gives a damn about your feelings. But its important to let go and try to open up. So now I do my best and fight my way through the pain, even of I stand alone I k ow thier is someone who cares, and so do I. If thier ain't gobds some. But that's just my opinion, I'm just a loser from south Florida

 

[MainerMikeBrown]

When I was a kid, I was also encouraged to bottle up my emotions. If something angered me or upset me, I was often told to not let it bother me.

Like I'm just supposed to kick myself in the butt and don't "let it" bother me.

Yeah right!

 

[heroiceroica]

Same thing happened to me. My dad used to make me cry and then proceed to make fun of me for crying, while my mom just ignored any problems of mine. If I did come to her wanting to talk, she’d listen and later make rude and passive aggressive comments about it. All while telling me to open up to her more. The thing that bothered me the most was being told to smile even when I’m upset. I think I’ve realized over time that people who told me to pretend to be happy are the ones who didn’t want to deal with my real emotions.

 

[Joshua1]

I've had a problem with bottling my emotions sice I was young, whenever I cried or got mad or upset my mother would get upset with me. The summer before grade 8 I nearly attempted suicide, and a year later I told my mom about it. She asked me why I did what I did, I told her I was depressed and all she said was "Don't be" and it was never brought up again. I was bullied a lot as a kid, and whenever I told my mom she never did anything about it, or even help me feel better. She was really busy when I was a kid, so I don't blame her for being emotionally unavailable. However it's lead to a lot of problems for me. I have trouble telling people close to me when something's wrong, I can't bring myself to cry in front of anyone even when I have every reason to be, and I feel as though I need to bottle up my anger and sadness because it only makes everyone around me upset. I'm currently having that kind of problem right now. I was having trouble getting ahold of a tax agency, and got really frustrated. I got so frustrated that my roommate had to leave the room, she even said "I can't be around so much emotion." It solidified my feelings of having to bottle my emotions to keep everyone else happy. It's an over reaction, I know that. My roommate is my best friend and more than willing to listen if I'm having problems, but it's still bothering me that me getting stressed and frustrated over tax information got her so upset. I don't want to make her upset, and now I feel like it would have been better if I had just bottled it up like I used to.

Do not bottle your emotions but let them out. Be honest with everyone. Its worse if you bottle the emotion because people close to you will not know what is really going on with you. Always let out your emotions. Even if it means talking to yourself, (in a quite place of course).