i dnt understand:(

[imsotired]

hey guys I know this may sound weird but I need the rant!,

So on Instagram I saw a picture of my favourite band member kissing this girl. I'm not sure if they are dating but I am assuming they are as in the videos I've seen she is always at their house. I am happy for them as they are such a cute couple but at the same time I'm not as he cheated on me haha. I use the imagination technique where your mind is like a room-only positive uplifting things but there are doors to get in. obviously I don't want the thought so I say mentally ' you're not coming in'. I feel some times it just lets itself in which ruins my day/night. I feel now that there is soo much negative thoughts in my mind, that I cant let any positive ones in like thoughts are like clouds they come and go and that just life. I was crying last night. I'm probably going for a walk later to clear my head from all the negativity. ill also try some CBT write it in a journal writing a letter to him them crumble it up and through it in the bin. I know also I have to keep myself busy but if any of you have anymore suggestions please write them in the comments

thanks guys!

 

[Maliri]

I recognize what you said about negative thoughts. CBT can be very good. For me it always helps to talk about what I’m feeling or thinking, it makes me able to let go of my bad thoughts. Doing anything I like can help me too, or being distracted. I like forgetting about everything in my life and enter a completely different world, for example in books, films or games. Going outside and listening to music (preferably music that is not connected to any memories) can calm your thoughts a bit. Just look at the sky or nature and listen to the music. Think about everything you see, hear and feel now. Live in the moment and try not to think about anything else but where you are and what you’re experiencing at that moment. Hope this helps a little.

 

[Cuchculan]

Correct me if I am wrong, but you did write before about this band member? Same thing. Cheating on you. If that was not you, there is another member with the exact same problem going on right now too. Easy to have a crush on singers or actors or people who are out of reach for us. That big dream of us been with them. Reality is we know it would never happen. i think we have to accept that. They have their lives and we have our lives. Probably world's apart.

I agree with the above post. I love books. By reading I can live in many different worlds. Whatever the book creates I am there. All about distraction. Distract the negative memory flow.

 

[imsotired]

Correct me if I am wrong, but you did write before about this band member? Same thing. Cheating on you. If that was not you, there is another member with the exact same problem going on right now too. Easy to have a crush on singers or actors or people who are out of reach for us. That big dream of us been with them. Reality is we know it would never happen. i think we have to accept that. They have their lives and we have our lives. Probably world's apart.

I agree with the above post. I love books. By reading I can live in many different worlds. Whatever the book creates I am there. All about distraction. Distract the negative memory flow.

thankyou for your reply i sorted it out

I recognize what you said about negative thoughts. CBT can be very good. For me it always helps to talk about what I’m feeling or thinking, it makes me able to let go of my bad thoughts. Doing anything I like can help me too, or being distracted. I like forgetting about everything in my life and enter a completely different world, for example in books, films or games. Going outside and listening to music (preferably music that is not connected to any memories) can calm your thoughts a bit. Just look at the sky or nature and listen to the music. Think about everything you see, hear and feel now. Live in the moment and try not to think about anything else but where you are and what you’re experiencing at that moment. Hope this helps a little.

thankyou so much for your reply i sorted it out now have a great day