I cannot be the only one...

[Guest]

Why, why, why....does my anxiety spike the worst when I am about to do something FUN????


Am I the only one?


I am fine going to work, school (when I was in), a friend or family member's house....but when I am about to do something fun such as go out with friends to a restaurant, go to a wedding, or anything else somewhat social its horrible.


For instance, today in about 2 hours, I will be on the way to some wineries in the mountains with a couple girlfriends. We have been planning this day for a while and I have been so excited. Then last night..BAM. The shakes, nausea, and everything else kicked in. This morning is not as bad, but I still have this nauseated feeling.


I cannot be the only one who has anxiety like this???

 

[Guest]

Very common. Called Antciplatory Anxiety. I usually get it when I think about travel. Away from what my brain believes is a safe area. It's just a subconscious obsessing that usually develops from the psychological ramifications of anxiety and panic disorder. CBT helped me with this, but not enough. Xanax is my crutch and it works pretty damn well. As long as I have them in my pocket, I know I will be ok.


I still get nervous about traveling.

 

[Guest]

My doctor told me that every time I have an attack,I have to tell my self that "nothing will happen and everything is fine".

 

[Guest]

I hate anticipatory anxiety. When I am planning a vacation, I will be sick for a week prior. It is ridiculous. And the worst part is that I never know I am suffering from anxiety. That is my biggest problem is that I have anxiety, but I am not consciously aware of it. I have learned to identify the anxiety through the physical symptoms. It is so crazy.


I used to think it was a coincidence that I was sick every time I would plan to go out of town. But after 10 years, I figured it out.

 

[Laneorexorcist]

I think that this happens to me quite often, but is mostly because of the whole social situations... Especially around people who I don't know pretty well. Actually, there's this girl who just got into my group of girlfriends and she wants to go with us to every single place, and interacting with her actually makes me feel anxious already even if I have a great time with my girls... I think that is because it gets me out of my comfort zone.

 

[kfrondorf]

I can so totally relate. My husband thinks that I am antisocial because I don't like doing stuff with some of his friends. Some of it is jealousy because he is always gone for scouting stuff with these same guys. Unfortunately, most of it is fear of doing or saying something stupid in front of the people I don't know very well. I worry about if I will find anything to talk about or will I have anything in common with them (especially the wives). I know that if I don't get out I'm going to turn into a hermit, which I don't want either. I just take a deep breath before we enter a location and tell me myself it is only for a few hours and then I can go home. I make myself talk to at least two people. When I start feeling myself heading to panic attack, I find a place with fewer people or head to the bathroom for a quick decompression.

 

[Panic57]

I had Antciplatory Anxiety attack the other day, I didn't realize that was an actual thing. My family used to tell me I was just being a drama queen every time we went out to do something fun. I've gotten so used to hiding in the bath room or skipping a ride to deal with an attack without them knowing because I couldn't explain why I was having one on a fun day. It's infuriating to be stuck around people having fun and you're the only one not having fun because you're in the middle of an attack. I once had one while on the Jurassic Park Ride at Universal Studios. That was horrible because I couldn't leave and the huge drop almost made me pass out when the safety hit my chest.

 

[It'sJaz]

It seems like every time I plan for something and actually feel all ready to do it, I start feeling anxiety and end up not doing it after all. I wouldn't mind if I was just doing it on my own, but if there were other people involved I'll feel like I let them down.