I am depressed due to a lost job

[Alexandoy]

In June of this year,  I was unceremoniously terminated from my job due to petty reasons. In short,  politics played a role and envy of some officers. I did not mind the loss of job since my salary is just meager and does not directly affect our financial status.  I was okay for a few months until yesterday when I experienced severe headache which the doctor said may be psychosomatic. The only thing I can think of is my job termination and probably I have to admit that I am depressed for that lost occupation so I can move on.

 

[Alex]

Perhaps this stems from a lack of control? If you had chosen to quit then mentally it would  be easier. I know when I hated several jobs I was in I quit before I was let go, and once I was let go on the day I was going to quit, so I saw that as even as they still paid me for the day.


I think working under rules that aren't flexible can cause depression, but also self esteem issues when you have to things that don't  sit well with you. Time to look ahead as that door closed and another one will appear.

 

[biege]

It must have been difficult in your end. I can't seem to imagine losing my job. It's hard to lose a job if you are the breadwinner of your family. I guess if that happens to me I would also feel the same at first. But you know, life sometimes is bitter and we need to accept that, however, that doesn't mean that we need to give up. If that happens to me, I will find another job worth my time and energy or probably, just start my own business. Giving up has always been a sign of weakness and I don't like that, I don't want to waste this life gawking away available opportunities. Life should be happier.

 

[pwarbi]

I think that a lot of the time things affect us even though we don't think they have done, and I've been in a similar position in the past to the OP. While losing a job might not be the end of the world, and especially if the job isn't that great anyway, at the same time it's just the fact that you have been treated badly in the first place that eats away at you. The loss of my job for reasons that weren't my fault didn't bother me or so I thought as well until a few weeks later when it started to play on my mind and it started to upset me that even though I wasn't that particularly concerned about the job and had already found another, the fact I was treated so badly was something that took a while for me to get over. 

 

[fuzyon]

It's always difficult to lose a job, don't be too hard on yourself. If it's affecting your health as well then you need to do something about it, I would slowly start polishing up my CV and applying to a few jobs per day until you get back on your feet. If someone does call then good for you, if they don't at least you tried even when the situation looked bleak for you.

 

[Alexandoy]

Thank you for the encouraging comments. I am experiencing severe headache since 2 weeks ago but not everyday though. It's like 5 times in a week, the headache bothers me for more than 5 hours. It is far from migraine according to the doctor and the suspicion is that I do not sleep well at night. But I get a good night's sleep and my own suspicion is the depression is what's causing the headache. My wife said that I should go out (socialize) and try to be happy somehow. But I don't have the appetite to go out with friends. Yesterday I encountered this problem in the government office. They couldn't find the title of our property that I had submitted for verification. When I left that government office, I had difficulty driving because of the severe headache. So maybe this headache is caused by stress or depression, no doubt. 

 

[Alex]

Depression can lead to aches everywhere and it is hard to pinpoint when there are other issues. I imagine your wife is trying to support you, but I guess you would rather not be in the company of others when you feel low. Maybe spending more time with your children, or joining a book club where you can choose to interact is better for you?


Just because you go out doesn't automatically make you happy, (my mother thinks the same as your wife) but it's what you wish to gain from it and do it because you want to. While the intent is good, often each of us has to find what makes us happy in our own way.