Strawberry Banana Sundae
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I try to have a conversation about something that’s extremely taboo in private (I can no longer talk about them in public anymore, and I’ll tell you why), because when I do so in a group, there’s the one person (or more) that will get offended by what I say and make me the problem and call me naive and ignorant. I’ve done it several times throughout the life until I finally realized enough is enough. From then on, I talk about them only in private, but then there’s the annoying thing about it that people don’t realize. I’ve been told that I NEED to talk about it in a GROUP. In other words, no privacy, no secrets, none of that. Sure it may seem logical to speak one’s mind in public, but there’s still a dark side to that: you guessed it, that people will get offended by what they say. And no, I’m not talking about flat-out insults or derogatory statements. No, none of that. I’m talking about the topics that some people just never seem to understand no matter how many times you tell it to their face.
And believe me, I tried explaining that to these people that I can no longer do it in public and just share with only certain people. But they would reply “there’s nothing wrong with doing it in a group”. Well actually, yes there is, if you’re gonna say something controversial or something in general they don’t like. Then comes with me explaining why I cannot do that and give out an example of HOW it can go wrong. Then all of a sudden they’re like “ok I’m not gonna talk anymore”. I’m sorry, what? Despite the fact you want me to talk about things you don’t have a clue about in a group, you suddenly tell me you’re done talking once you ACTUALLY listen to what I’m saying? SERIOUSLY? I’m just gonna end it here because I’ve had a rough night.
And believe me, I tried explaining that to these people that I can no longer do it in public and just share with only certain people. But they would reply “there’s nothing wrong with doing it in a group”. Well actually, yes there is, if you’re gonna say something controversial or something in general they don’t like. Then comes with me explaining why I cannot do that and give out an example of HOW it can go wrong. Then all of a sudden they’re like “ok I’m not gonna talk anymore”. I’m sorry, what? Despite the fact you want me to talk about things you don’t have a clue about in a group, you suddenly tell me you’re done talking once you ACTUALLY listen to what I’m saying? SERIOUSLY? I’m just gonna end it here because I’ve had a rough night.
