How do I stop feeling "doomed"

[MuggleStruggle]

I don't know if any of you have experienced this nasty feeling. It's a combination of sadness, apathy and guilt.
How do I stop feeling this way?

Sometimes I don't have any "real" problems, and I just wonder how I will ever achieve a "happy" life. How do I stop feeling like I'm doing everything wrong, and start allowing myself to be happy? I don't know if it makes any sense. I have an amazing boyfriend but I always feel sad for him, like I'm not good enough for him or whatever.

I'm also constantly job hunting, but no one is calling me back. I'm running low on money, and I have bills to pay. My life is a disaster!

What is your definition of a good life, or a happy life? What does it look like on a daily basis?

 

[Rinka]

I don't know if any of you have experienced this nasty feeling. It's a combination of sadness, apathy and guilt.
How do I stop feeling this way?

Sometimes I don't have any "real" problems, and I just wonder how I will ever achieve a "happy" life. How do I stop feeling like I'm doing everything wrong, and start allowing myself to be happy? I don't know if it makes any sense. I have an amazing boyfriend but I always feel sad for him, like I'm not good enough for him or whatever.

I'm also constantly job hunting, but no one is calling me back. I'm running low on money, and I have bills to pay. My life is a disaster!

What is your definition of a good life, or a happy life? What does it look like on a daily basis?

I think what it comes down to is for you to not be too hard on yourself. It seems as if you are not allowing yourself to feel happy or good enough. Believe me everyone goes through those tough times feeling unworthy and just not good enough. It is important however to remind yourself of what you have already accomplished, be it small or big, be it something that others seemingly master without braking sweat. It doesn’t matter what matters it that you accomplish something.

I still do feel similar sometimes and there had been a time where I felt like this for years. But I try to look at what I have accomplished, that I was not able to a few years ago, because of how I felt. It’s as simple as being able to calmly drink a coffee in the morning without being anxious. Also living in my own flat with my partner is something that I am proud of. A lot of people do that there is nothing special about this, but it’s a big step for me and I am proud of it.

What I am trying to say is that you should never take other peoples life as role models, concentrate on yourself and build yourself up.