Hi New Here

[Cheri]

Been having a rough time with anxiety being sad and just feeling lost. I'm married with 5 adult kids and 4 grandkids. I was adopted twice before the age of 3 and found bio mom who never wants to meet. Met bio dad though and he is good. Struggle with identity and my purpose. Everyone seems to have things going and I just feel like I have no purpose. Planning on traveling with my daughter and two grandkids next month but already going thru all the what ifs that play in my mind. Just so tired of not feeling normal. I really want to go and do things without anxiety stopping me before it even begins. Feel stuck

 

[Howlingvapor]

I’ve been where you are and trust me it’ll get better. I’ll never fully understand the circumstances you’re dealing with, but I know that feeling you’re getting. Sometimes I really wish I could just go somewhere new or talk to a stranger or ask someone out on a date without my head rushing through what if’s and worst case scenarios, but it’s just who I am. The only thing you can do about it is keep venturing outside your comfort zone. The words I try to live my life by is “whatever your anxiety is telling you to do, do the opposite.” Keep fighting it and don’t let it control or consume you. I know it’s hard, but it’s worth it trust me.

Feeling out of place is sort of the nature of our condition. How can you not feel that way when everyone around you can do everything that terrifies you without even giving it a second thought. But that’s ok, it’s just our cross to bare. I wish I could be normal, but I’m not. The only way I get close to it is during those moments when you push past your anxiety and do something that turned out to be not as frightening as you thought it’d be. It’s during those moments where for a second I feel no fear or stress or anxiety. It’s during those moments I get a taste of normal. So venture outside your comfort zone, go against your anxiety, take baby steps of course, but keep challenging yourself and eventually you’ll find those normal moments more common and you won’t feel as trapped.

Hope that helps.


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[RobbyH]

You have a daughter and 2 grandchildren that both need you and want you in their life so you certainly have purpose in your life.

 

[Mandyhiero]

I just wanted to second what RobbyH said. These are days you won’t get back with your family. I tell you this because I’m like you, always thinking of the what if’s and all. And then I look at my girls and think, they deserve for me to be present. Not just in body but really be present in their lives. Try to forget all of this crummy stuff going on and get out and have some fun in life. It doesn’t last forever!