So I got into my first relationship on the 14th, with a girl who I like and likes me. We went on a date on the 14th and hung out yesterday with other friends, and I enjoy the relationship, but for some reason I'm really anxious. I've had anxiety for my whole life, but it's never felt like this. I even had an anxiety attack last night because i feel so nervous and anxious. It's like whenever something reminds me of her, I'm happy because we're together, but I also get a kind of depressed feeling. This girl and I are in most of our classes together, and while I enjoy seeing her, I'm nervous about going back to school tomorrow. Is this a normal feeling for relationships, and do I just like her so much that it feels weird to not be around her? In addition, I'm not used to being very social, so it's kind of a weird change. If anyone has any tips on how I can feel better, please let me know.
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Cuchculan
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Could be you mind / anxiety telling you that changes have happened in your life. New girl. Relationship. Letting you know you will have to do a lot more things now. Bit like anticipatory anxiety. Wondering can you handle the relationship. Thinking things over before they even happen. I am sure once you find yourself relaxed around this girl, things will calm down for you.
Thank you, this helps a lot. I was thinking the best idea is to just go to school tomorrow like normal and learn to cope with the anxiety.
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When I was a teenager, and when I was around a girl that I liked, I often felt nervous because I'd worry that she wouldn't like me if I said something foolish or if I acted nervous around her.
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Honestly there is a thing called relationship anxiety. Try not let that happen. A lot of people are so used to been alone. Doing their own thing. Nobody is depending on them as such. Then they get into a relationship. Suddenly there is another person they have to think about. It can spark off the anxiety big time. Even just thinking about ' can I handle a relationship '.This is your first one too. So you are bound to be anxious about that too. What is expected of you in a relationship and all those sorts of things. Just talk to the girl. Not sure of she knows you have never been involved before. Not suggesting it is something to just blurt out. But may be something worth mentioning at some time. That you have never done the whole relationship thing before. That you are a bit anxious. I am sure she will understand. Trust me even after ten relationships you can be just as anxious. You want things to go right. The fear of things going bad. Doing and saying the wrong things. Just try and go with the flow of things. I am sure you will be fine.
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Years ago, I often felt nervous around women that I liked, in part, because of my low self esteem back then.
I think you are scared that the relationship will not last. Its causing the "depressed feeling" My word is to take it slow, and do things naturally, let them come to you naturally. I am glad you found someone and you are dating. Take it slow. You see her a lot, and its a good chance to build on the relationship and make it stronger. If she is no good or friendships you only. You can at least say you tried.