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[Abi]

Hi, my name is Abi and I'm 13. I found this website whilst looking for ways to be motivated to do the smallest things. A few months ago I was feeling quite low, not my lowest but bad enough for my friends to notice. When they did they suggested we go talk to my form mentor (he is really nice and has helped my friend with problems much more important then mine so I felt like I could trust him) when I did he said that he thinks I have anxiety and I showed him this app I used to use ( a mood tracker). He told me its normal and that over half the school probably feels the same and not to worry. The thing is I haven't received any further help and haven't gotten any better and I have been going up and down but I don't really know how to cope with my brain. Everytime someone just says " don't worry you just like everyone else it's fine it's normal" it makes me so upset because that doesn't help. At all. I need to know know how deal with it not just lay in bed staring at the ceiling feeling nothing and thinking it's perfectly normal doing so. I need to get up and live. But I can't. I feel like I'm constantly falling and occasionally I catch onto a branch and start pulling myself up but then it snaps and I fall again and I know that there is noting there to catch me. Reading is helping less and less. Music will only take my mind off it for an hour or so. My inspiration lasts a day at most. So I need this website to help me. I don't know how. I want it to replace the mood tracker (I haven't used it since I showed my teacher). I just need something to I don't know, extend a branch that isn't going to snap?

 

[Concernedgal]

Life is hard darling. The branch is difficult to free yourself from. Bouncing back from depression and anxiety ...well...the reason why it's so difficult is because doctors don't really know much about anxiety and depression. Maybe trying a medication could help but, a double blind study was done and the study revealed that anti depressants only help 30 percent of patients that try it. That's sucks . . I was 17. I had a panic attack. Thank your lucky stars that you haven't had one of those. There are a couple of things you can do to help boost your mood. 1)exercise. ..exercise increases the endorphins in your body and boost mood. 2)eat better.... junk food has been shown to contain chemical's and preservatives that are bad for your body..including your brain.3) chew gum..chewing gum increases serotonin. ..this is what makes gluttons a glutton btw. 4) self hypnosis. ..download a hypnosis app specially for anxiety and depression. ..before you go to bed put on your earphones and drift off to sleep listening to these hypnosis. 5) speaking get of sleep... get plenty of it .6) have a routine. ..as boring as this sounds...having a routine let's your brain know what to expect out of life and therefore less anxiety because there are no surprises and nothing to fear . I'm so sorry your going through this at the tender age of 13. Which just reminded me... why don't you get your hormones checked. Hormones and brain chemistry go hand and hand . If it is your hormones ..see if you can take birth control . And as personal as this sounds....don't have physical relations yet..it is emotionally and mentally draining and it's the last thing you need when to you have anxiety. Trust me...wait. Other than that... there are no real magical ways to rid of anxiety. Come to me anytime ..you have an option to chat personally if necessary.
All the best.
Concernedgal

 

[Abi]

Life is hard darling. The branch is difficult to free yourself from. Bouncing back from depression and anxiety ...well...the reason why it's so difficult is because doctors don't really know much about anxiety and depression. Maybe trying a medication could help but, a double blind study was done and the study revealed that anti depressants only help 30 percent of patients that try it. That's sucks . . I was 17. I had a panic attack. Thank your lucky stars that you haven't had one of those. There are a couple of things you can do to help boost your mood. 1)exercise. ..exercise increases the endorphins in your body and boost mood. 2)eat better.... junk food has been shown to contain chemical's and preservatives that are bad for your body..including your brain.3) chew gum..chewing gum increases serotonin. ..this is what makes gluttons a glutton btw. 4) self hypnosis. ..download a hypnosis app specially for anxiety and depression. ..before you go to bed put on your earphones and drift off to sleep listening to these hypnosis. 5) speaking get of sleep... get plenty of it .6) have a routine. ..as boring as this sounds...having a routine let's your brain know what to expect out of life and therefore less anxiety because there are no surprises and nothing to fear . I'm so sorry your going through this at the tender age of 13. Which just reminded me... why don't you get your hormones checked. Hormones and brain chemistry go hand and hand . If it is your hormones ..see if you can take birth control . And as personal as this sounds....don't have physical relations yet..it is emotionally and mentally draining and it's the last thing you need when to you have anxiety. Trust me...wait. Other than that... there are no real magical ways to rid of anxiety. Come to me anytime ..you have an option to chat personally if necessary.
All the best.
Concernedgal

Thank you so much for the advise i will try everything that you have suggested. And about the physical relations me and my friends all still think of boys only as friends. Even though the legal age is 16 in England i'm not in any sort of state or rush to do anything like that just yet. Thank you and Merry Christmas

 

[Concernedgal]

Merry Christmas.

 

[_Lukas]

Hi Abi, welcome

It sounds to me like classic anxiety and depression, which are very often comorbid conditions (that means they commonly go together).
You've come to the right place to find people to talk to. You've taken a good step in the right direction by seeking help.
You're welcome to chat with me anytime. I'm studying to get my social work license so I like to think that I'm a good listener and can be helpful most of the time.
Merry Christmas and hope you're doing well.
-Lukas

 

[janemariesayed]

Hi, my name is Abi and I'm 13. I found this website whilst looking for ways to be motivated to do the smallest things. A few months ago I was feeling quite low, not my lowest but bad enough for my friends to notice. When they did they suggested we go talk to my form mentor (he is really nice and has helped my friend with problems much more important then mine so I felt like I could trust him) when I did he said that he thinks I have anxiety and I showed him this app I used to use ( a mood tracker). He told me its normal and that over half the school probably feels the same and not to worry. The thing is I haven't received any further help and haven't gotten any better and I have been going up and down but I don't really know how to cope with my brain. Everytime someone just says " don't worry you just like everyone else it's fine it's normal" it makes me so upset because that doesn't help. At all. I need to know know how deal with it not just lay in bed staring at the ceiling feeling nothing and thinking it's perfectly normal doing so. I need to get up and live. But I can't. I feel like I'm constantly falling and occasionally I catch onto a branch and start pulling myself up but then it snaps and I fall again and I know that there is noting there to catch me. Reading is helping less and less. Music will only take my mind off it for an hour or so. My inspiration lasts a day at most. So I need this website to help me. I don't know how. I want it to replace the mood tracker (I haven't used it since I showed my teacher). I just need something to I don't know, extend a branch that isn't going to snap?

Hello Abi. I remember feeling how you do way back when I was your tender age. Go and see your doctor even if you have to go alone. Go and see him and ask for help. Or contact MIND who will also help.

You can also come on here and chat with us anytime.