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Aloysius

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Greetings, I’m a 17-year-old from an odd part of England. My life’s been ruled by anxiety for as long as I can remember. I’ve got 4 brothers and 3 sisters to deal with, or at least, I used to have 7 siblings. A brother and sister of mine are older, my other 2 sisters and 2 brothers are younger and I’ve got a twin brother (non-identical).

Get ready to read, because I’ll be here for a few hours. About 3 years ago, my older sister killed my youngest sister. My older sister never really liked her you could say. After that, she was sent to a “psychiatric hospital” as you call it, and she’s still there. Almost 2 years ago, my youngest brother disappeared/died. Then, in October of last year, my twin brother got into a bit of trouble with “the law” after he killed 4 people, including my granddad and my uncle and tried to kill my younger brother. And then, my younger sister was hit by a bus at the beginning of this year as she was walking out of the school building and is still confined to a hospital because the bus should have killed her. Lastly, my older brother’s been arrested so many times I’ve lost count, so he’s never around. Also, he was recently sentenced to “a while” in prison after doing some things worse than he’s ever done, and my mum can’t save him this time. That’s not to mention my older sister killed small animals in her early childhood and early adolescent years.

Now, all that’s left is my younger brother, my mum, my grandmum and I. And I believe that something’s going to happen to either my younger brother or myself in however long fate decides. I simply think about how 6/8 of my mum’s children are dead, in prison or in a hospital and/or mental institution.

My older brother and sister, twin brother and younger sister all had/have either antisocial, histrionic, borderline or narcissistic behavior or mixes of them. My older brother’s got NPD with antisocial traits and my older sister’s definitely been said to be antisocial but she seems very psychopathic. I only found out late last year that my older brother suffers from BPD along with antisocial traits/behavior. And finally, my younger sister was only diagnosed with HPD at the end of last year. My youngest brother and sister we’ll never know. My younger brother and I’ve only been diagnosed with anxiety-related disorders.

As for me, I write fiction to escape the miserable reality that I’m forced to live in. It’s been a long few years with never-ending unfortunate events. It’s not been easy having to watch each of my siblings, pets and older relatives get picked off one-by-one. I apologise for making this longer than it should have been. I’m just looking for people that I can talk to about my situation that I doubt anyone else can relate to.
 

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No apologies required. Your hAve had a hard life..I believe you may have ptsd (post tramatic stress disorder ). These events in your life are unfortanate. My advice to you would be to get far away from your family as soon as possible and start your own life. You need to give yourself a chance. It appears that mental illness runs in your family but ,it appears that you are still alright. You need to stay alright though. Keep yourself safe darling i'm worried about you . And please ,please take my advice. Start your own life..stay far away from your family. Your siblings are dangerous. Now i'm not saying run away or anything but, find a job when your 18 and move out get your own place. Although your family suffered unfortunate fates...you can control yours. So that's what you need to do..control your own fate. I'm always here to talk and help you get through this.
 

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No apologies required. Your hAve had a hard life..I believe you may have ptsd (post tramatic stress disorder ). These events in your life are unfortanate. My advice to you would be to get far away from your family as soon as possible and start your own life. You need to give yourself a chance. It appears that mental illness runs in your family but ,it appears that you are still alright. You need to stay alright though. Keep yourself safe darling i'm worried about you . And please ,please take my advice. Start your own life..stay far away from your family. Your siblings are dangerous. Now i'm not saying run away or anything but, find a job when your 18 and move out get your own place. Although your family suffered unfortunate fates...you can control yours. So that's what you need to do..control your own fate. I'm always here to talk and help you get through this.
I guess you’re right. I do suffer from GAD, OCD, SAD and I’ve recently been diagnosed with C-PTSD. My mum’s been diagnosed with NPD with BPD traits, so there’s that. My grandmum’s also been diagnosed with NPD.

I don’t think that I’ll have to worry about my 2 sisters and 2 brothers with cluster B personality disorders, as they’ve all been put in their proper “places”. But my mum and my grandmum have total control over my younger brother and I, so I/we’ll be stuck with them for a bit (forever). Thanks though.
 

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Your welcome. . I guess you know what' sbest for yourself. I still think it' a bad idea to stay though. You seem to be the most normal in your family.
 

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Oh, my goodness @Aloysius my heart goes out to you. What terrible experiences you have had and you are not even yet adult and I'm sorry for what you have endured. When you are 18 by law, you are allowed to leave home. @Concernedgal is right, you must leave as soon as you can. You can still see them but only about once a month for an hour. Or just call them to see how they are. But you really need to get away from them for your own good. Also, get some therapy. Therapy will help you for your future life. I should have had therapy when I was a child but I never did and now I suffer for it years later.

Now for all the things you have been diagnosed with, you are still clever and articulate. Keep writing and sell your work. Save up for a deposit and go and move into a bedsit as soon as you can. My God, your story tears at my heart. Thank the Lord God himself that you have found this forum at least. Please come on here and talk to us whenever you need to. About whatever you need to okay? If you need to PM you are welcome. I am in the UK too. I've had a bit of a life as well. My flesh and blood Dad was a murderer, more than one person he killed and was in and out of prison. As well as being a paedo. You are not alone. You have found a caring understanding, online family here. God help you and God help us all here to help you in the right way.

It is really important that you get away as soon as you are 18. Start making plans for that and get a Saturday job or something to start to save up for a small deposit to move out as soon as you can. If you get the therapy they may be able to help you find somewhere too. It may even be an idea to put yourself into care for a few months.
 

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Listen to Jane. . Your life is yours. You don't have to live this way. Your destiny is not pre determined. Live your own life. .try to put the past behind and create your own identity. Your beginning was hard and will be,still for years to come . But just know that you do deserve better. It' up to you to get the life you've always meant to have.
 
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