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hey guys sorry I'm am so proud to say that I am back after a really long time! and I am so happy to be back:)

today I went for a nice walk with my dad and we talked about things such as if he wants to get better from his depression. I gave him in my personal experience what has helped me. my mum and dad don't have a very good relationship but if my dad does the things that she asks of him then I believe our family would be much better place. I think they both want a relationship with each other so I talked to her.

my dad wants to get better but he said to me that there is no magic pill and that he doesn't want to take medication. he has been doing meditation which is good.
do you guys have any suggestions on what I can do to help him. all I can think is: you only can know if you try and all the other things like journaling self care, doing what you love, having a gratitude book, candle lit baths/hot showers.
do u guys have any more ?
im so proud of myself and again excited to be back:) !!!
 
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imsotired said:
hey guys sorry I'm am so proud to say that I am back after a really long time! and I am so happy to be back:)

today I went for a nice walk with my dad and we talked about things such as if he wants to get better from his depression. I gave him in my personal experience what has helped me. my mum and dad don't have a very good relationship but if my dad does the things that she asks of him then I believe our family would be much better place. I think they both want a relationship with each other so I talked to her.

my dad wants to get better but he said to me that there is no magic pill and that he doesn't want to take medication. he has been doing meditation which is good.
do you guys have any suggestions on what I can do to help him. all I can think is: you only can know if you try and all the other things like journaling self care, doing what you love, having a gratitude book, candle lit baths/hot showers.
do u guys have any more ?
im so proud of myself and again excited to be back:) !!!
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I was wondering how you were doing! I'm very happy that you are doing better and yes I am proud of you also. The best thing you can do for your dad is be there for him when he needs you and you seem to already be doing that. If you notice something that you think he should work on to help better the relationship with your mother then you can mention it to him. Very happy that you are doing well keep it up :)
 
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I was wondering how you were doing! I'm very happy that you are doing better and yes I am proud of you also. The best thing you can do for your dad is be there for him when he needs you and you seem to already be doing that. If you notice something that you think he should work on to help better the relationship with your mother then you can mention it to him. Very happy that you are doing well keep it up :)
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aww that's so sweet thankyou xo hope your doing well too
 
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Welcome back! I'm sorry to hear your dad is struggling. Because he doesn't want medication perhaps see if he is open to the idea of herbal supplements. I wouldn't know which one to recommend and you don't want to just take them blindly but if you are able to find someone with some knowledge about this maybe it is something to consider. Also exercise is helpful for depression.
 
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Would he be open to therapy?
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he says he has tried lots of them and is seeing my GP (his doctor) regularly but i dont know what he really talks about. there was one time where i went in with him to talk to the GP about this and how it is affecting me and he was just saying ok to everything and i dont rlly know what that means. my Gp told me that it is not my job to make him happy so i wont try and i have also got my own problems to deal with
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Welcome back! I'm sorry to hear your dad is struggling. Because he doesn't want medication perhaps see if he is open to the idea of herbal supplements. I wouldn't know which one to recommend and you don't want to just take them blindly but if you are able to find someone with some knowledge about this maybe it is something to consider. Also exercise is helpful for depression.
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i want him to see a psychologist he doesn't want to also i had a chat with him and his doctor and gave him referrals to see them but hasn't. i am stuck cus i am dealing with my own problems too!
 
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It’s really hard trying to help someone else when we have our own things to deal with. I’m struggling with something similar and it’s just so difficult to not let yourself spiral.
 
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Buship said:
It’s really hard trying to help someone else when we have our own things to deal with. I’m struggling with something similar and it’s just so difficult to not let yourself spiral.
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yep it sure is. the only ones that can really help us is ourselves. other people can help guide us but it is rlly up to the peron to make the change
imsotired said:
yep it sure is. the only ones that can really help us is ourselves. other people can help guide us but it is rlly up to the peron to make the change
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Buship said:
It’s really hard trying to help someone else when we have our own things to deal with. I’m struggling with something similar and it’s just so difficult to not let yourself spiral.
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im so sorry that you find it difficult to not let yourself spiral, there has been so many time where i go back the the same negative process but what i have found is a patterns in my bad days dealing with this type of situation. i just take care of myself do all the self care things. for me loving myself and the way i look plays a big role in this. i came up with this quote ' there no point in worrying about your appearance as you cant change it. from shrek there is a saying ignore what the other people say and just trust who you you are.
imsotired said:
yep it sure is. the only ones that can really help us is ourselves. other people can help guide us but it is rlly up to the peron to make the change
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Buship said:
It’s really hard trying to help someone else when we have our own things to deal with. I’m struggling with something similar and it’s just so difficult to not let yourself spiral.
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im so sorry that you find it difficult to not let yourself spiral, there has been so many time where i go back the the same negative process but what i have found is a patterns in my bad days dealing with this type of situation. i just take care of myself do all the self care things. for me loving myself and the way i look plays a big role in this. i came up with this quote ' there no point in worrying about your appearance as you cant change it. from shrek there is a saying ignore what the other people say and just trust who you you are.
also for me i had a seizure which really made me frustrated and angry and sad and a range of emotions. and my doctor said that you dont want your mental health to get worse
 
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