Happy Thanks Giving and what are you plains?

Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself' started by XmasCarol52, Nov 13, 2017 at 10:47 AM.

  1. XmasCarol52

    XmasCarol52 Active Member

    I just want to wish everyone a very Happy Thanksgiving.I do know that some of you do not celebrate it but I want you still to have a happy and nice day.With me I just watch the parades ,knit and crochet and sometimes work on my computer then take a nap.Sometimes my son brings me left overs.That is always the good part,oh ya one more question besides the turkey what is your favorite food for Thanks Giving? For me it is the pumpkin pie I love anything with pumpkin in it especially with cool whip on the top.Well for now hope you all have a safe and happy anxiety free holiday.God Bless all of you,oh ya what do you have to be thankful for?? I am thankful for my family even though i never get to see them my friends and especially for this place because I have found my other family here too.
     
  2. janemariesayed

    janemariesayed Junior Member

    Yay, Carol, I'm grateful for this forum too. I hope you all have a scrumptious and wonderful Thanksgiving too. :happy:
     
  3. XmasCarol52

    XmasCarol52 Active Member

    I do hope that my son stops by with left overs he doesnt always do that.I am so depressed all I do is cry lately and my mother yells at me saying not to think about it and to keep my mind busy i told her i knit ,crochet how much more can you keep your mind busy i mean i do surveys too.She said dont think about it but when she is depressed she wants all the attention in the world.I do not know why I feel so depressed lately maybe it is because of the holidays I dont know .JUst watching tv makes me cry sometimes.How are you doing?
     
  4. _Lukas

    _Lukas Active Member

    I'm so sorry you're depressed, Carol :( I hope your family treats you well over the holidays and that you can get some peace of mind.
    I'm very grateful for this forum as well. This is my second home.

    I don't celebrate Thanksgiving, but that's the day of my wedding! :happy:
    Of course we're going to have pumpkin pie at the wedding though. I'm so nervous but hopefully it will all go to plan.
     
  5. XmasCarol52

    XmasCarol52 Active Member

    Congrats on your up and coming wedding.I can remember mine it was a very nice day.Good thing I didnt have anxieties back then.May God bless you and your family.and your marriage
     
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  6. janemariesayed

    janemariesayed Junior Member

    I'm not doing too bad thanks, I'm having a problem with my shrink though. She won't talk with me and is really strange. It's like talking to a wall. I've made excuses not to go now for two weeks.
     
  7. _Lukas

    _Lukas Active Member

    Thank you, Carol :happy: I'm very excited but I'm also a little nervous! I'm sure it will all be worth it in the end though.
    I'm glad you have nice memories of your wedding :)
     
  8. _Lukas

    _Lukas Active Member

    What's going on? Is she deliberately ignoring you or is she just avoiding conversation?
     
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  9. XmasCarol52

    XmasCarol52 Active Member

    I hear what you are saying I am avoiding my regular doctor I asked her for one single favor and she wont do it such a jerk.
     
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  10. Mrs_MustardSeed

    Mrs_MustardSeed New Member

    Hey! Your son doesn't invite you over for Thanksgiving? Or is it that you prefer not go? Anywho, my thanksgiving plans this year are sort of hectic considering that I no longer live with my mom. My boyfriend and I are going out to dinner with her Thanksgiving day. We have reservations at some fancy soul food bar and lounge. On that Friday, we're having thanksgiving all over again at our house, and his family is coming over. All the food will be provided by us, courtesy of me because im the only one cooking. It's quite a lot of pressure considering that I never prepared a thanksgiving meal, and it's quite a large one. Not only that, but not one of his family members have offered to contribute a single cent to buying the food, and we're struggling financially. So how we're going to pull this off, I have no idea...but there's no turning back now.
     
  11. janemariesayed

    janemariesayed Junior Member

    She is completely blank. Since the beginning, I have felt that she doesn't like me very much. She never says hello or goodbye. When she was off for a week recently because her children were on school holiday, I said to her to have a nice time with them, but she just looked at me blankly. I felt stupid talking to someone who doesn't give me any response.

    I was supposed to have counselling for anything up to two years and that was at the beginning of last summer. She said to me 'what do you want?' Well, I thought it would be obvious what I wanted. I told her I wanted to dig into my mind so that I could heal. She won't help me dig and I don't know how to. Then she tells me no counselling for the whole of the summer because her kids are off school. So we come back after the summer break then she tells me that we will finish at Easter. When she said that, I've not been back since and I'm not going back either. I asked her how this counselling would work and her response was, 'well you should know you've had it before.'

    I feel that the whole system sucks. I told her again that I wanted to dig and didn't know how to, but she said I would have to be accessible. Yet I was willing to dig out of my head all the traumatic past, deal with it and then hopefully be able to learn to cope and possibly heal. She has said a few times that she might let me down, and that is the case I think, she has let me down.

    She makes me feel really odd when I talk to her and I get zero response. I've even wondered if I've not been tricked and possibly she is a patient herself! Haha!:D:rolleyes: Beleive me, if it was an institution or a hospital that I had to attend for these sessions, I would speak with someone to check that she was pukka and not a patient. (Or is this just me being my usual sarcastic self?)
     
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  12. janemariesayed

    janemariesayed Junior Member

    Was it a favour that could be done within the rules and regs? My doctor is okay but my shrink isn't. I think she must be a mental patient herself. She sits for 45 minutes listening to me and all she says is 'times up now', well, there's not much else that she says. I'm pretty upset with her and I doubt that I will go back now. She's not helping me. I've said that my agoraphobia and flashbacks are causing me anxiety to go out. It is true anyway, I do have a problem going out unless my friend is with me. But I feel that it is not worth going through the anxiety to chat with a brick wall. I can chat to my own brick wall at home, I think I get more response LOL.:rolleyes:
     
  13. XmasCarol52

    XmasCarol52 Active Member

    Well in a way technically he doesnt really come out and asks me to come he will just say I can come and he would be happy if I did but I cannot.It is way to much for me I know I go for Christmas but that is different,I want to see my grandchildren when they open there gifts and just want to be around them the only thing I hate is being around my mother she just wont shut up.Even my son has had to yell at her.The other thing that scares me is going up and down those steps I use a walker and last year I had to drop down and go down the steps sitting on my butt it was quite a drop.I dont mind so much being home for ThanksGiving I can watch the parades so some knitting and stuff.I make hats,scarves,blankets,slippers and headbands and I give them away every year to the church at Christmas time and also make them for the sale here.
     
  14. XmasCarol52

    XmasCarol52 Active Member

    See where I live you have to walk a distance to get to your mailbox so I had to get permission ya a stupid doctors note saying that I cannot walk that far and they need to deliver my mail to my apt which i hav ebeen having done well I have asked my new doctor twice now for a note and she never wrote one,such a -hole how would it hurt her to just write a little not saying i need to continue to hav emy mail brought to me.She doesnt want to do anything. THe mail lady says she doent have a note which is bs because I gave her one last year I guess I have to get a note every year.This is grap if you asks me I am elderly and disabled this girl has no respect for the elderly or the disabled.SHe let a woman go because she was in her 80's so what she was doing her job.
     
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  15. _Lukas

    _Lukas Active Member

    Sounds like you need to start looking for a new therapist! I have no idea why she's acting like this but it definitely does sound like she's let you down.
    She could have a mental illness or a disorder herself, or she could just be really underqualified for what she's doing. Sounds like it's time to look for a plan B.
     
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  16. janemariesayed

    janemariesayed Junior Member

    Yeah, that's what I thought. She is really not normal. I've not been now for two weeks and she hasn't even called me to see how I am. I called them three hours before the session so she knew in plenty of time that I wasn't going. I'd told the reception that I was having flashbacks and panic attacks and just couldn't face it because of my agoraphobia. I told them I could only go outside with my friend and he lives ten miles away.

    I'm stopping going. I've had enough for the time being. She was so difficult. You know how it is when you talk to someone and get a totally blank response. How can I feel like opening up to that?
     
  17. janemariesayed

    janemariesayed Junior Member

    Is there not a warden, or that landlady you told me about? Can't she pick up your mail and pop it into you? I don't know why your doctor is being so pig-headed. Whats the problem with writing a note? Thankfully, my doctor is pretty good with things like that.
     
  18. _Lukas

    _Lukas Active Member

    Wow, that sounds really terrible. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
    She's being rude to you! She should at least call you to check in on you! When my therapist hasn't heard from me in a while she at least sends me a text message to make sure I'm still alive.
    You did the right thing by choosing not to see her anymore. Hopefully you'll find a better therapist and she'll learn her lesson.
     
  19. XmasCarol52

    XmasCarol52 Active Member

    No my land lady is a jerk she said no when I first asked her she doesnt want to do anything.She is a pain in my arse.
     
  20. janemariesayed

    janemariesayed Junior Member

    I don't know if I will get another therapist. I haven't got the money to pay for one. I seem to make more sense when I talk to myself.o_O
     

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