Guys.

[bigjetplane6]

health anxiety has officially ruined my marriage.
it has made me into a bitter, always mad, angry person and this made me change and lash out on my husband a lot.
we are talking divorce now.

 

[Cuchculan]

What kind of health anxiety makes you lash out at somebody? Yes we can get frustrated. I understand that much. But why the urge to lash out? can things be fixed up? It would mean therapy. Not just for health anxiety. But also anger management. It can be hard to have any type of anxiety. But finding a better way to deal with it would be the correct way to go about it. So you don't need to want to lash out at people. Many different ways to use up what you feel inside. For all the anxiety issues I have had over the years, I never saw it as anybodys fault at all. Never lashed out at anybody. So that might be another problem. But one you can try and fix with the right kind of help.

 

[H.J.J.C.]

I can understand bigjetplane6's lashing out because of her HA. When I try to explain to others what living with HA is like, I compare the feeling to the feeling a raccoon has, trapped in the corner of my garage as I approach the frightened animal. In its mind I am its enemy and there is no way out in any direction. Its only option is to lash out desperately against its perceived foe--or anything else in its way. Having written this, I agree with Cuchculan that talk therapy is the only way to reduce the HA which, in turn, will reduce and/or eliminate the anger and frustration which is a reaction to that feeling of being hopelessly trapped and desperate.

 

[Belizz]

Oww Bigjet I am sorry to hear.
Well in panic mode we become so irritated so that we can actually unwillingly hurt our loved ones. Then feel guilty about it
I hope you guys can fix it somehow.

 

[mollyfin]

Damn, that sucks. I hope therapy - individual and couples - is an option for you guys. Mental illness tries to destroy everything.

I know it affects my relationship because when I'm freaking out I want to feel like someone's hearing what I'm saying - that's actually why I post here a lot of the time! If someone tries to tell me "Oh it's fine calm down" I irrationally get so pissed off.