Greif over death of my mom

[TLC simple]

Anyone here suffer from greif induced anxiety. I've had a tough start to the year... but now it’s more greif over the loss of my mom. I think all my problems have been because of it. Anyone without both parents and how did you get through the loss and fear of being alone? The tension and fear are getting extreme to deal with. Any suggestions would be appreciated

 

[triceps]

Hi TLC. I'm sure sorry about things for you. I have had anxiety and have lost both parents. I often think about the fact that I am now an orphan. There is only one suggestion anyone can make and that is you'll get better with time. It's not easy and sometimes we don't think we are capable of going through life without access to the friendship and advice from either of our parents. But slowly it gets better. I sure miss both of them but they have taught me well to love others, especially my kids, unconditionally, along with the Golden Rule. Cherish the time you had with them and appreciate the wisdom they taught you and again, things will slowly get better.

 

[guitarman65]

Hi TLC, i agree with TRI, it doesn't feel the same without people who have been there for your whole life are gone. I never really knew my mom, was raised by me dad, was DEVASTATED when he passed, so i can surely sympathize. Im sure this attributed to your increasing anxiety, as it did mine. I think the "whole" that is left when we lose someone never really goes away. I guess, as we do with anxiety...we learn to cope until it gets a little easier. Hardest thing I've ever went through is losing my dad, i imagine you feel the same exact way! Im SOOOOOO glad we have memories, sometimes it makes it a little more bearable...keep in touch

 

[TLC simple]

Hi TLC. I'm sure sorry about things for you. I have had anxiety and have lost both parents. I often think about the fact that I am now an orphan. There is only one suggestion anyone can make and that is you'll get better with time. It's not easy and sometimes we don't think we are capable of going through life without access to the friendship and advice from either of our parents. But slowly it gets better. I sure miss both of them but they have taught me well to love others, especially my kids, unconditionally, along with the Golden Rule. Cherish the time you had with them and appreciate the wisdom they taught you and again, things will slowly get better.

Thank you so much!

 

[TLC simple]

Hi TLC, i agree with TRI, it doesn't feel the same without people who have been there for your whole life are gone. I never really knew my mom, was raised by me dad, was DEVASTATED when he passed, so i can surely sympathize. Im sure this attributed to your increasing anxiety, as it did mine. I think the "whole" that is left when we lose someone never really goes away. I guess, as we do with anxiety...we learn to cope until it gets a little easier. Hardest thing I've ever went through is losing my dad, i imagine you feel the same exact way! Im SOOOOOO glad we have memories, sometimes it makes it a little more bearable...keep in touch

Thank you so much!

 

[Jones]

Oh I could write a book. I’ve lost too many family members and it is one of the hardest things a person has to go through. My two siblings passed away about 20 years apart. Then my parents a few years apart from each other. Your parents are a tough one because you know that they are really one of the few who will love you no matter what. I have always had anxiety issues, so I, not really sure that their passing made the anxiety any worse. I do know that my dad suffered with anxiety and I knew he understood what I was dealing with. My mom was always my rock and I knew she would always be there for me. When they go, you have to learn to depend on yourself and others around you, spouses and good friends. It’s not the same, but as others have said, you learn to handle it better and it becomes less difficult. You will always miss them, but memories become bittersweet, rather than painful.

 

[TLC simple]

Thank you so much! I have just been devastated without my best friend. I truly appreciate everyone and the heart warming help and understanding. It really does make me feel hopeful that one day my heart won’t feel shattered any more from her loss. It’s a tough one. But I do
Need to learn to trust and lean on others for support.