Going out.

[AMcSwain]

A friends birthday is tonight and everyone is going out to a dance hall. I usually love going but I’m just really anxious about it this time. I’m sure it’s because my meds are back to the full affect yet but idk what to do. My husband is annoyed because i don’t want to go and he doesn’t understand what is going on right now. What should I do? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

 

[Jonathan123]

A friends birthday is tonight and everyone is going out to a dance hall. I usually love going but I’m just really anxious about it this time. I’m sure it’s because my meds are back to the full affect yet but idk what to do. My husband is annoyed because i don’t want to go and he doesn’t understand what is going on right now. What should I do? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

I suggest you pluck up courage and go. Once there you will feel fine. It's hard to say this, but if you give way this time you will do so again. It's the easy way out to stay in your safety zone, but it's not good to do so. In social anxiety we tend to look with apprehension on any occasion when we have to mix with people. But the only way, as painful as it may be, is to do it. Your husband does not understand because he has not been where you are. If anyone tells you not to go then you have defeated yourself the first time. More defeats will surely follow. It's so easy to slip into agoraphobia. Go on! What possible harm can come to you. You are the same you now as you will be if you go. It's not what we do it's our attitude to it.

 

[AMcSwain]

I suggest you pluck up courage and go. Once there you will feel fine. It's hard to say this, but if you give way this time you will do so again. It's the easy way out to stay in your safety zone, but it's not good to do so. In social anxiety we tend to look with apprehension on any occasion when we have to mix with people. But the only way, as painful as it may be, is to do it. Your husband does not understand because he has not been where you are. If anyone tells you not to go then you have defeated yourself the first time. More defeats will surely follow. It's so easy to slip into agoraphobia. Go on! What possible harm can come to you. You are the same you now as you will be if you go. It's not what we do it's our attitude to it.

I know I will be fine once I am there it’s just the mind torture before we go. I actually got up and went and got my nails done this morning to try to relax a bit. He said we didn’t have to stay long so I guess if I get anxious we can always leave. I don’t think I have social anxiety because normally I don’t mind going out but I stopped my meds and waiting for them to kick back I. My anxiety is coming from what if I get there and have a panic attack and ruin everyone’s night but at the same time sitting g here on the couch watching tv does not help one bit. I think it makes it worse. I’m going to put my big girl pants on and go for it. Thank you so much

 

[Jonathan123]

I know I will be fine once I am there it’s just the mind torture before we go. I actually got up and went and got my nails done this morning to try to relax a bit. He said we didn’t have to stay long so I guess if I get anxious we can always leave. I don’t think I have social anxiety because normally I don’t mind going out but I stopped my meds and waiting for them to kick back I. My anxiety is coming from what if I get there and have a panic attack and ruin everyone’s night but at the same time sitting g here on the couch watching tv does not help one bit. I think it makes it worse. I’m going to put my big girl pants on and go for it. Thank you so much

Don't look for escape routes. It's all very well to say you can leave at any time, of course you can, but that's defeatism. If you are still looking for ways out you will always feel apprehensive. The 'supposing ifs' will come thick and fast, Can you try and live in the now?
Each moment of life is precious, and we need to make the most of it. This does not mean you have to go to places you don't want to. But it has to be a genuine desire not to go rather than the fear of going. Yeah!!! Put those pants on and be a big girl and go for it.