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Sometimes i dont get a reply from my friends for a couple hours or days or minutes. sometimes i get rlly lonely. i want to go out and do things with my friends but when i do alot of the time now they are all busy or i don't hear a reply back for a while. i don't rlly want to hang out with my friends anymore.

soon i will me starting a new programme for getting a job so i will meet new friends and start a fresh .also i have been writing guide for my social skills. i am a bit nervous to start conversations with people as i dont know when is a good time to approach them and a fear of them rejecting me not wanting to talk to me.

also is it better to make friends online or in person

love to hear your responses

thanks,
rachael
 
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What country you in? Just at the moment there is very little we can do with friends. Most places are under lockdown.

good to have a mixture of friends. Online and offline friends. Maybe find somebody you can voice chat to. That might give you some confidence. Just been able to sit at your computer and talk to people.
 
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Cuchculan said:
What country you in? Just at the moment there is very little we can do with friends. Most places are under lockdown.

good to have a mixture of friends. Online and offline friends. Maybe find somebody you can voice chat to. That might give you some confidence. Just been able to sit at your computer and talk to people.
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im from australlia- which is getting better they just need to roll out vaccine. how do you find online friends that you dont know know they always say who is this or i dont get a reply back from them for a while.
i rlly want friends rn i didnt have a lot but now i want like a mixture of friends like boys and girls

hope this all makes sense :)
 
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You know people on here. Maybe somebody from this site will be willing to talk with you. Have many online friends I met over the years on various sites. Mainly sites with chat rooms. We don't use those sites these days. But we all keep in touch on FB. You learn who to trust over time. There is one person who tries to set up zoom meetings every so often on this site. Don't think it ever really took off because nobody else wanted in. Case of finding a person you trust. Just voice chat with them. It would be a good start.
 
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I gave up on having friends a long time ago. I had a few little old lady opera friends, but a couple got really old and the pandemic shut everyone down. No opera for a year. I was doing my own thing 99% of the time anyway. No one wanted to do doubleheaders. We would go to Boston for a Sunday afternoon opera and no one would want to stay and go to an evening ballet if one was playing. Or a chamber music concert. Wimps.
 
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I'm saving money. I was spending $1000 a month on concerts. Most was gas and car repair. I was driving 60,000 miles a year.
 
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Cuchculan said:
I have joked by saying you know you had no life if the lockdown has not changed your life in anyway at all.
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Truth! It has actually been that way for me. LoL. The only thing that *might* be different is that I go to the store less frequently than before. Otherwise, I've been working remotely full time since October 2017. All my friends (all few of them) I care to visit are in the town I grew up in, almost an hour away, and they all have families/lives as well.
 
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imsotired said:
Sometimes i dont get a reply from my friends for a couple hours or days or minutes. sometimes i get rlly lonely. i want to go out and do things with my friends but when i do alot of the time now they are all busy or i don't hear a reply back for a while. i don't rlly want to hang out with my friends anymore.

soon i will me starting a new programme for getting a job so i will meet new friends and start a fresh .also i have been writing guide for my social skills. i am a bit nervous to start conversations with people as i dont know when is a good time to approach them and a fear of them rejecting me not wanting to talk to me.

also is it better to make friends online or in person

love to hear your responses

thanks,
rachael
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In the West it's hard to get a hold of people, or get a response.
My wife messages family and they read the damn message but don't respond for days unless they need something.
The best friends I have ever made live abroad like the philippines they are caring and respectful.
If you're looking to make friends find a hobby that you like and find a way to meet up.
I teach jujitsu so I am always making new friends.
 
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I'm saving money. I was spending $1000 a month on concerts. Most was gas and car repair. I was driving 60,000 miles a year.
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try spending a 1000 dollars on a broken light which you didnt rlly have to pay for.....
 
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