I feel anxious all the time. This is what has been going on lately. I am 68 years old and I feel like evertime I turn around something creates stress for me. I can't find my comfort zone. My husband and I have had financial difficulties. Everytime I think things get better something comes up. I just had my cat pass away after knowing she was going to pass and hand feeding her. That created stress as every day I anticipated her passing. My job is very frustrating and stressful. I go into the office two days a week and then work from home the other three days. I lost my childhood friend to an accidental drug overdose in October of last year. My other best friend has had a stroke and is not doing well. I feel such a loss in not being able to share things with her and realizing that the way she was is gone. I feel like things are out of control. Also, my husband had Covid. He has recovered but that was really stressful. All I think about is the losses. Could this be that I am grieving?
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Acceptance method from Dr Claire Weekes. Her book, Hope and Help For Your Nerves, available on line cheap, she also has videos on YouTube. The serenity prayer seems to fit here, help me accept the things I can’t change, to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Life is always going to throw fast balls at you, accept them as part of life instead of fighting them. Do the best you can and be ok with that. Give yourself credit for trying.
It sounds like you are grieving. I’m sorry for your losses. That must be so hard. Do you have anyone to share your feelings with? It may help for you to join a group of people who’ve experienced similar losses.
Grief is exhausting. It’s also confusing sometimes.You can feel ok one moment then grief stricken the next. Lean on your friends and family. Tell them how you feel.
Best of luck.
Grief is exhausting. It’s also confusing sometimes.You can feel ok one moment then grief stricken the next. Lean on your friends and family. Tell them how you feel.
Best of luck.
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I am turning 67 in a week and I can relate to much of what you say. I have been dealing with at times debilitating anxiety and sadness….especially since I retired. My mom passed away a few weeks ago and it’s been tough. I miss being younger…. Where it seems like I could go and go and go and not be hampered by aches and pains and feeling dragged out. Aging is difficult… we look around and wonder what illness or loss we will face next ….and Worry about everything…. And our anxious minds get the better of us. I have been using meditation and find it very helpful… plus I also talk with a Therapist every other week. It can be difficult but take a day at a time … and think good thoughts!
I feel this way too. I’ll be 57 tomorrow and feel so disconnected. I worry about what diseases I will get and just feel so jealous of younger people with their care free attitudes. I know this isn’t true and that young people have troubles too but I miss my former care free self.
I still have a daughter in jr high and all of the other moms are so much younger than I am. It’s hard to relate and I feel envious of their youth.
I do write in a gratitude journal regularly but getting older is tough. What does your therapist say? I’d love any suggestions. Thx for letting me share.
Hello Missy,
I’m so sorry of what you have been going through. Have you thought of seeing a professional or a specialist? I think it would be very helpful. I experienced such feelings in the past and psychotherapy really helped me to recover.
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I have just had an appointment with my doctor. Thanks for responding
My doctor said that I am going through situational anxiety. I currently take 40 mg of Prozac and he added Buspar. It is an anti-anxiety medication which is not like a Benzo. I have not taken it yet as I just got the prescription. He says it will help me. It is not addicting. So I will give it a try! I find that the more active I am physically the better I feel. Meditation helps as well as my quiet alone time. I hope that this can give you more insight into your anxiety? Thank you so much for caring. Take care of yourself.
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I am confused. My Doc said.to take as needed along with everyday Fluoxetine. I know I should take at same time. I was taking hydroxyzine as needed with my fluoxetine but was concerned about the interaction and it really made me tired.
Buspar is not fast acting like the benzos. Don’t take my word, look it up for yourself for clarification. It must be taken every day to build up a blood level just like anti d’s. That’s why I posted, because this med is often not taken as intended and wonder why it isn’t helping. What does your prescription bottle say?
My prescription bottle says take as needed.
Do a search on here for Buspar. I had a conversation not too long ago with someone over this same issue. I take Buspar myself, so I’m positive it has to be taken every day and develop a steady state level to be effective.
Well, I take it as an add on to fluoxetine. Perhaps that is the reason? Buspar is not intended to be taken long term such as Fluoxetine. I have done a search on Buspirone. I am not a doctor.
None of these drugs are intended to be taken long term. Buspar does no good if a steady state level is not reached, just like an antidepressant. It’s mechanism is not like the benzos where you can take one and feel the effects quickly. Doctors do make mistakes. Or they may prescribe with the placebo effect in mind. I was concerned when you said it was “ as needed”, and felt you needed to know more about the med, that’s all. It’s your choice what to do with the info provided to help.
Thanks for the response. I have been taking fluoxetine for years and it has helped me immensely. I had been taking Hydroxyzine as needed but there was a drug interaction between the two and I no longer felt comfortable taking it. It was far too sedating for me. My doctor suggested the Buspirone to use in addition to my fluoxetine when I was having periods of high anxiety. Sorry, I didn't make that clear. I understand your information. I was a bit confused when I read the information as well.